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December 31, 2020

What Happens On A Gay Porn Set Part 4

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Part 4

In this series, we’re going to explore what happens on a gay porn set with a special emphasis on what we can learn from it in our own sex lives.

How They Film

A pious, religious man checks into a hotel and says, “I hope the porn channel in my room is disabled.” The front desk clerk replies, “No, it’s regular porn, you sick bastard.”

No matter what kind of porn you ask for at a hotel—or search for in your browser—chances are they share the same production and performance dynamics. Here are a few we discovered in our research.

A Minute Takes An Hour To Shoot

Most gay porn videos go from eye glance to anal penetration in less than ninety seconds, but porn stars never show up to a shoot and start banging instantaneously.

It typically takes between five and eight hours to shoot a typical screwing scene.  Even a simple blowjob scene takes an average of about two hours to film. One famous director put it this way: “There’s no formula.  It really just varies from director to director.  But on average, I would say that it could probably take 4-6 hours to produce 30 minutes of usable tape.”

This poses a big problem for the top. How do you keep erect for that long when the Viagra wears off? It’s no picnic for the bottom either. He’s got to keep his starfish winking for hours and hours at a time.

Your favorite porn scenes may seem spontaneous and intense, but they’re not. Staged to death, they take an eternity to shoot.

Filming Out Of Order

On-screen you might see oral seamlessly transitioning into anal, but it never happens that way. Sequencing happens in the editing bay, not on the set. For example, it isn’t unusual for a foreplay scene to be shot after everyone’s ejaculated.

The tried-and-true formula of porn – a little bit of kissing leading to a lot of sucking leading to hardcore penetration – is made possible through the magic of editing. Rarely is there a natural transition from one activity to another.

Once the banging starts, there are frequent time-outs for position changes, lighting, and sound correction—even the odd pubic hair stuck on the camera lens. Every two-minute clip of different positions – riding, doggie, missionary – can take at least an hour to shoot.

This, of course, poses some continuity issues. If you’re an avid porn viewer, I’m sure you’ve caught “continuity errors” like seeing the top sporting boots he wasn’t wearing ten seconds ago.

Lastly, a top rarely pulls out and delivers the money shot without a fair amount of time in unseen masturbating. Making it appear otherwise is how video editors make their money.

Straight Guys In Gay Porn

One of the most shocking aspects of the gay porn industry is the number of straight performers in it.  It’s hard to quantify just how many because the number depends on whom you ask. There is a wide discrepancy in estimates but of the porn industry folks we interviewed, it ranged from as low as 20% to as high as 50%.

Some gay performers don’t think they’re all that hetero.  One told us, “No, if those guys are there, they’re not really straight.  They’re turned on by the cameras. It’s kind of secretive and dangerous. It’s like they’re getting away with something that they’re not supposed to be doing.”

Still, most industry folks believe there are plenty of hetero performers in gay porn.  Which brings us to the question of how straight guys get hard for their gay partners. “They would prepare the same way as any other guy would prepare,” one gay performer told us.  “They use a lot of Viagra! But as straight guys, they’re more focused on the money, how much money are they going to make rather than will this feel good. They usually have their girlfriend fluff them or have straight porn available so they can stay erect.”

Wax, Wax, Baby

Some studios require, as a standard of performance, to wax your anus.  This is changing somewhat as natural hair is beginning to find some popularity.  Here’s how one performer put it, “If I bottom for a scene, I wax.  I would never shoot a scene if I waxed that day, but I would bottom if I had waxed within seven days of the day that I waxed.  I would have a groomer wax. The personal groomer is from the spa, the same guy who does my manicures. It’s hard to find somebody though at a legal establishment who is willing to do that kind of personal service at a reasonable cost.”

Yes, waxing can be a rip-off.

And The Academy Award Goes To…

Bottoms are the only real actors on a porn shoot, and often their work is worthy of an Oscar. The porn star bottom has to make viewers feel like they’re engulfed in the flames of sexual ecstasy—even though they’ve often taken more pleasurable shits than the banging they’re experiencing on set.

That also applies to the times you see a bottom writhing in rapy pain. He’s acting.

Hung or Photoshopped Hung?

The one thing you don’t want your boyfriend to do when you’re both watching porn is to elbow you, point, and say, “Now, that’s a cock!”

But it turns out that the cock he’s pointing to may not be very big. Not everyone’s hung in porn. It just looks like they are. As we’ve all learned from trading dic pics on hookup apps, creative camera work can make a daffodil look like the trunk of a palm tree. It’s no different with porn.

Interestingly, directors also heavily edit performers that are hung like bison. That’s because some angles can make the big look small. This is when the porn director becomes a physical artist, figuring out how a cocked leg or hyper-pronounced back arch can further enhance the endowment of the well-endowed.

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December 17, 2020

How To Cum More And Shoot Further Part 8

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The Harder You Get The Further You’ll Go.

The more blood that rushes to your penis the further you’ll cum. This chapter will show you some neat tricks that will get your dick harder than a frozen turkey.

In healthy men, desire and blood flow go hand in hand. Well, there are times when the blood doesn’t follow the desire. Often it’s a lifestyle choice that’s getting in the way. Smoking, for example. It narrows the blood vessels so that eventually your erections don’t get as hard. The single best way for a smoker to get harder hard-ons is to STOP SMOKING.

The same thing goes for heavy drinkers. Alcohol mugs libidos. It sneaks up behind you, knocks you to the ground and steals your valuables. It relieves you of your libido and absconds with your performance. Alcohol metabolizes in the liver, which is also responsible for metabolizing testosterone, a crucial sex hormone. Too much liquor and your liver may start converting your testosterone to estrogen, contributing to a loss of sex drive. Alcohol also dulls the nerves that transmit sensations and decreases the body’s ability to pump blood around the genitals, which is critical to sexual functioning.

True, alcohol has wonderful thigh-splitting properties for the partner you’re hawking on. But like any tool you put in your hand, you have to know how to use it. For the average 150 lbs. man, 3 1/2 drinks is the limit. After that, the only thing that’ll be standing upright in your house is the vacuum cleaner.

It isn’t just drunks that need to worry about alcohol’s ability to put the nix on dicks, it’s also guys who want to shoot further. Maximum blood flow to the penis is critical for you to shoot far. You don’t have to stop drinking altogether but you probably shouldn’t have more than two drinks if you want peter to paint the porpoise with a big splash on the canvas. In moderate amounts alcohol actually causes blood vessel dilation, which is why people feel warmer when they’re drinking.

What If You Don’t Drink Or Don’t Smoke?

Then get a life! Seriously, what if you don’t do either and still want to improve blood flow? A regular exercise regimen promotes blood flow so get thee to a gym, a court or a track.

And speaking of the gym, I have some great advice to get your partners more turned on—make sure they work out with you. Neuroscientists at the University California at Berkeley recently made a breakthrough discovery: Sniffing a compound of male sweat called androstadienone causes hormonal, physiological and psychological changes in women that result in sexual arousal.

Sweat has been the main focus of research on human pheromones. For example, we’ve known for years that male underarm sweat improves women’s moods and affects their secretion of luteinizing hormone, which helps stimulate ovulation. Androstadienone is a derivative of testosterone that is found in all body secretions but it is in especially high concentrations in male sweat.

In the most recent trials, women were asked to take 20 sniffs from a bottle containing androstadienone. Don’t worry, they didn’t gag. It smelled vaguely of musk. When compared to sniffing a control odor (yeast), the women who sniffed androstadienone reported significantly higher sexual arousal. Researchers also noted an increased physiological response, including blood pressure, heart rate and breathing. These results were consistent with previous studies but they also discovered a tantalizing new development–androstadienone has the power to elevate hormone levels. In this case cortisol, which is associated with alertness and stress. In fact, it remained elevated for a full hour after the sniff test.

So what does all this mean for you?

The treatment applications for this discovery are unclear, but clearly, it will not hurt for you to work out with your partner and be conscious of having them sniff your armpits (I suggest you do it when nobody’s watching). Don’t let them sniff when the smell is so bad it could peel the skin off a battleship. Do it when it smells good. Sweat is naturally odorless. It only begins to smell when bacteria that live on the skin digest sweat and excrete waste. That’s why sweat smells clean in the beginning and slowly turns into mustard gas.

By the way, you don’t have to sweat enough to water a lawn; even a dab will do. Be sure your partner sniffs your armpits when you’re making out, having foreplay or making love. The research is solid and beyond question: Androstadienone changes mood, and increases both sexual arousal (blood flow, lubrication) and physiological arousal (blood pressure, heartbeat). This doesn’t mean taking a few sniff of your pits will make your partner’s ankles float to the ceiling. They won’t yell, “Take me like a vitamin!!” The effects are far more subtle. What it does mean is that you have one more proven way to arouse your partner and that in itself will improve your blood flow!

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December 11, 2020

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December 9, 2020

How To Cum More And Shoot Further Part 7

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To cum further, you have to exert more pressure in your reproductive system. Exercising your PC muscles to make your muscles contract harder (and consequently push out the semen more forcefully) is going to be a big help. But those muscles will do their job a lot better if you give them more to work with.

The physics of pressure is at work here– the more weight or mass exerted on the system, the more pressure it creates. The more compression in a small system (like your urethra), the more explosive the release will be.

Obviously, the more semen you have the more pressure it puts on your reproductive system to release it forcefully. So how do you get more semen in your system? Three ways.

1. Drink More Water.

The amount of what comes out of your body is directly associated with the amount that comes in. Want to shit more? Eat more. Want to pee more? Drink more. Want to cum more? Same thing. And by drink, I mean water, not beer!

Ninety five percent of your ejaculate is liquid. Sperm only makes up about 5% of it. If you don’t drink enough water you are robbing your ejaculate of more volume. It’s that simple. You should be drinking at least eight 8-ounce glasses of water a day. A good rule of thumb is to look at the color of your urine. The darker it is the more water you need to drink. A well-hydrated person’s urine should be clear, NOT yellow.

This tactic may put a crimp on your martini-swilling ways. If olives come out of your dick when you pee, you’re never going to ejaculate like a porn star. Alcohol dehydrates the body. It doesn’t mean you can’t drink; it just means that you have to drink even more water to compensate for the alcohol. The same thing goes for heavy coffee drinkers.

Remember that semen is water-based. The more you drink the more that will land on your body’s face and body when you’re three feet away. If that doesn’t make you thirsty I don’t know what will.

2. Don’t Jerk Off So Much.

The less you beat off or have sex the more ejaculate that builds up in your system. The good news is that you don’t have to remain abstinent for very long. It only takes the body one or two days to completely replenish its store of ejaculate. If you wait much longer than that it simply gets absorbed by your system. It’s not like you have a storage tank that you can fill for weeks on end.

To give you a sense of how fast your system works to reproduce ejaculate, know that your body produces sperm at an astonishing rate of more than 1500 every second. That works out to almost 200,000,000 sperm cells a day. Because you produce so much sperm on a daily basis your body also quickly produces the semen for the sperm to swim in.

The best way to build up semen is to keep your hands to yourself for 48 hours before you have sex with your partner. A short period of abstinence will ensure you have a bigger load to spray.

3. Trick Your Body into Producing More Semen.

Every time you get close to an orgasm your prostate and seminal vesicles start producing more semen to carry the sperm out. What happens if you stop yourself right before the point of ejaculatory inevitability? The ejaculate recedes from the urethra. While there are no real “storage tanks” to speak of in your reproductive system there is room for some storage and build-up. By masturbating and then refraining from orgasm you essentially “prime the pump,” producing more semen. The process of bringing yourself close to an orgasm but backing away at the last minute is called “Edging.”

The more you “edge” the more you trick your body into producing more semen. By the time you allow yourself to orgasm on your partner’s body they will look like a Jackson Pollock painting. Of course, this takes enormous discipline. Who among us can resist the detonation when it is at hand (or somewhere else)?

You should practice how to divert an orgasm not just for the ability to come like a porn star but so that you can last longer for your partner. You can “edge” before and/or during sex. For example, if you are anticipating sex in the evening you could start the morning by jacking off in the shower but not bringing yourself to orgasm. You could do this throughout the day (talk about torture) or during your session with her. The great thing about “edging” is that it teaches you to be the master of your own domain. If you can control your orgasm you can also control the force with which it comes out.

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December 3, 2020

How To Cum More And Shoot Further Part 6

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Want to see passion’s power? Try this experiment. Blindfold each other in bed. By subtracting one sense, blindfolds require the other four to work harder. Without vision, two hands can feel like four or six. The intriguing part is that you don’t know where the next touch or probe is going to come from. Sensations are heightened and here’s the best part: Everybody looks like a million bucks!

So here’s how it works: You and your partner blindfold yourselves and sit naked on the opposite corners of the bed. On a whispery count of three, slowly advance toward each other. Touch, explore, discover. What do you do? Where do you go? You don’t know. That’s the point. If neither of you can see each other’s facial expressions during the action, it’ll leave you with a tingling curiosity: “What’s my partner thinking?” “What’s my partner feeling?” Think of it as a blank canvas for the imagination. By depriving yourselves of sight you create anticipation and heighten the senses. When that happens every position is a new position–unless darkness works its mischief and you knock your partner off the bed or they call you by the wrong name.

Talking. The Second Best Thing You Can Do With Your Lips.

Passion pretty much requires talking. Dirty talking. There’s scientific backing for this. Speaking or hearing sexually charged words is known to spike dopamine transmissions in brain chemistry, triggering sexual excitement.

This is how “Tabasco Talk” ignites an erotic loop: You make a sound or say something. Your partners respond. Their acknowledgement of your arousal arouses you. Your excitement excites them and soon you’re both sucked up into a vortex of pleasure.

What Does Talking Sexy Mean?

Most people think “talking dirty” is a vulgar, in-your-face prison-style accounting of what you want to do behind closed doors. But there’s a lot more to it than the lunatic ravings of a horny junkyard dog (although there is much to say for that, too). Learning the art of sexy talk is easy. All you have to do is…

  • Notice the sensations in your body. Express them.
    Ask for what you want. Talk about it.
    Anticipate how good it’s going to feel. Breathe heavy.
    Think about your fantasy. Voice it.
    Notice your partner’s body. Compliment it.
    Does it feel good? Tell your partner.
    Do you like the way they’re touching you? Moan.
    Are you getting hard? Groan.
    Are you close? Announce it.

I Want To Verb Your Noun.

It’s not what you say but that you say. If you think you’ve got to come up with something flowery, STOP. Back up. Let me introduce you to the first rule of Tabasco Talk: NO POETRY. Any word with more than two syllables is a word with too many syllables.

Are your partners too shy? A great way to ease them into it is to practice on the phone when you’re out of town. There’s no eye contact and the distance provides an emotional buffer. Another good way to get comfortable with naughty words is to play a word game I call Naughtirati. Your draw naughty words on your partner’s naked back and they guess what they are. Be playful. This isn’t serious. It’s fun. And wet, too, if you draw the words with your tongue.

Verb Me! Verb Me Now!

It doesn’t matter what you say but the authenticity with which you say it. Well, unless you say something that’s going to break the mood like, “I’m going to drill you with that axis of evil between my legs!”

The objective isn’t creativity; it’s conductivity. Think of talking in bed as caressing your lover with words. Entice, Excite, Enchant. Don’t be captive to silence. Free your tongue, the zest will follow.

Oooh, Ahhh, Huff, Puff, Gasp!

Passion is erotic energy unleashed. The formula is simple: Words + Action= Oh My. Go right, fake left, bend low, go up the middle. Get into it. Zing, zip, rest, start over. And talk, moan, laugh or groan through all of it. It’s sex Tivo style: Play …fast forward…slow motion…stop…rewind…play.

Pant, pant.

Next week in the series:  Exerting more pressure on your reproductive system to propel semen out more explosively.

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November 29, 2020

An Old Concept In Meeting New Guys: Demonstrating Value

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The world is divided into two kinds of people:  Those who take value and those who give it.  Guess who’s likeliest to meet good-looking guys?  Here’s what I mean by giving value:  

Make his night more interesting than before he met you.  

Demonstrating value is always centered on telling people something about themselves.  You’re either confirming something they’ve always felt or helping them discover new dimensions about their lives.  

The value demonstrations you’re about to read are best used after an opener though in many instances they can be used as the opener themselves.  Let’s start with my favorite, the Ring Revelations.

Let’s say you notice the ring on a hot guy’s finger.   Let’s call him Shagability. You say:  “Hey, I’m curious, why did you choose to wear that ring in that particular finger?  Because you know, it says a lot about you…”

You’ll hook him–who doesn’t want to know what their choice says about them?  Let’s say he’s wearing the ring on his thumb.  

Sample Dialog

You:  Wearing a ring on your thumb means you’ve got an independent streak that literally likes to thumb its nose on convention.  See, the ancient Greeks believed that our fingers were associated with different Gods, so they wore rings accordingly.   The thumb represents POSEIDON (Neptune), the god of the sea.  Guess what?  He was the only god that didn’t live on Mount Olympus.  He did his own thing.  Makes sense doesn’t it?   I mean, the thumb kind of sticks out, it kind of does its own thing.  So you’re expressing your independence by wearing the ring on your thumb.

Him:  “Wow, that’s pretty cool, I never thought about it that way.”

You:  “Right?  Remind me to tell you what a ring on the index finger means.”  

Now THAT’S a value demonstration.  To add a touch of suspense, go through his fingers one by one and save the finger his ring is on for last.  It’s a great way to build intrigue.  Especially, if you walk away before that last finger!

Whenever I use Ring Revelations and walk away, Shagability invariably chases me down and practically demands an explanation of what that last finger represents.  It’s really a kick to see somebody who wasn’t paying attention to you before actually seek you out!

A Few Value Demonstrations And How To Use Them.

Demonstrating value effectively takes a lot of preparation.  So read up on the following demonstrations and commit them to memory.

  1. Ring Revelations

The fickle finger of fate might or might not be on your side but at least you’ll be able to tell it what god it’s associated with.  Bone up on the symbolism:

Index Finger:  Represents ZEUS (Jupiter).  Zeus was the king of all gods, as well as the God of Thunder and Lightning.  So the index finger represents power, energy and dominance.  If Shagability’s wearing a ring on his index finger he tends to be a more dominant person.  (Tip:  Wave your index finger at him and say “No, no, no!” or “Don’t do that!” for color).  

Middle Finger:  Represents DIONYSUS (Bacchus), the god of wine.  Dionysus was an irreverent party-boy god who tried to get everyone drunk and naked.  So if you have a ring there you tend to do whatever you want and are less sensitive about what others think.  (Tip:  Lift your middle finger like you’re shooting a bird and say, “Take this job and shove it!” for effect).  

Ring Finger:   Represents APHRODITE (Venus), the goddess of love.  It’s the choice location for a wedding ring, signifying romantic love.  Interestingly, it’s the only finger that has a vein that goes straight to your heart without branching off.  You’re crowning a finger that makes a direct connection with your heart. 

Pinky Finger:   Represents ARES (Mars), the god of war.   Mobsters wear pinky rings.  It signals a kind of hidden violence or conflict.   Often it’s interpreted as being at war with yourself; that you’re trying to resolve some inner conflict.  

But wait!  What if Shagability’s not wearing one?  What then?  

You:  Hey, I have to ask before I run:  I noticed you aren’t wearing a ring.  The reason I’m asking is that a spiritual friend of mine taught me that the finger you choose to wear your ring on –or the choice not to wear one at all– says something about your personality.   

Him:  Really like what?

You:  Well, let’s take the thumb for example (go into the thumb association above).  Pretty cool, huh?

Him:  Yeah.  But what does NOT wearing a ring mean?

You:  I’d love to tell you but I’m late meeting my friends…

[Later, when you meet up with him, tell him that people who don’t wear rings are aligned with Hermes, who was the messenger of the gods.  He was known for his helpfulness and generosity.  So people with no rings tend to be kind and helpful friends.]

  1. Palm Reading

Palm reading is another fun way to interact with people and get them thinking about their favorite subject–themselves.  I’ve listed a quick and easy guide to reading palms at the end of this report.  

Be playful and add some hooks.  Example:  

You:   “Give me your hand.”  Then stroke your finger down his palm say, ‘interesting’ then throw his palm away.  

Him:  What, you can read palms?  What does it say?  

You:  Pick the Life Line and say, “See this?  That’s the retard line.  It means you’re a retard.”  

Then hug him. 

…and walk away.

  1.  Do you believe in ESP?

You:  Do you believe in ESP?  Let’s try an experiment.  Pick a number from one to four without telling me.  Now with your imagination create a bubble over your head and make a chalkboard appear.  Okay, now draw the number you just thought of on the chalkboard.  

[Close your eyes and say…] “Ok, on the blackboard I see the number 3!”

[Whether you get it right or not say] “Let’s make sure that wasn’t a fluke.  This time think of a different number from 1 – 10.  Draw it on your mental chalkboard.  Got it?

[Close your eyes and say] “Ok, I see the number 7!”

Believe it or not, you’re going to be right about 90% of the time, since North Americans naturally tend to choose 3 and 7 as their first picks.  If you get one out of two right, then tell him, “I guess ESP only works half the time.”  If you get both wrong say, “See, you’re wrong, ESP doesn’t exist.”

And if you get both right?  He’ll ask you how you did it and you’ll say, “I DON’T KNOW.  I’ve been haunted with this gift for years!”

  1.   Five Questions

I love this one.  But you’re going to have to practice it a lot to get it right.

You:  Hey, how good are you at lying?  Let’s see.  So what I’m gonna do is ask you five questions, and you have to answer them wrong.  If you answer right you lose, got it?

#1  OK, What city are we in? (He’ll give you the wrong answer)
#2  What state are we in? (He’ll give you the wrong answer)
#3  What’s today’s date? (He’ll give you the wrong answer)
(Here is the trick:  Act confused and in a curious voice ask….How many was that? 

Him:  “Three”

You:  HA! I got you! 

If he’s smart enough to give you the wrong answer (like “7”) then you say, “Oh man, you got me, have you played this game before?” 

Since he’ll be excited that he won, he’ll answer, “No.”

You:   Aha!  GOT YOU on the fifth one!”

  1. Strawberry Fields

This is a popular game in Japan, of all places.  The answers reveal how we see sex.  But don’t state that upfront.  Just ask him if he wants to play a game.  Tell him the meaning of his answers afterwards.

You:  Imagine you’re alone and you see a strawberry field overflowing with the reddest, juiciest strawberries you’ve ever seen.  There’s a fence around it.  How high is it?

(Meaning of answer:  How easy it is for him to take sex)

Now you’re in the strawberry field.  How many strawberries do you take?

(Meaning of answer:  How much sex he wants/how many boyfriends he’s had/how many partners he’s bedded).  

Okay, so you finished eating the strawberries and they were absolute heaven.  How do you feel about the farmer who owns the field, now that you’ve taken his strawberries?

(Meaning of answer:  How you feel about a guy after you have sex with him.)  

The end.  Now you go back and tell him what his answers mean.  Feel free to embellish.  The fence height could be a marker for his openness to new things.  The number of strawberries, his enthusiasm.  And the Farmer?  I’ll tell you later.  

There’s a similar game to this called…

  1. The Web of Life

Imagine you’re a spider with a web.

How many insects have you caught?  What kind were they?  (Describes your types of sexual conquests–exotic?  Unusual?  Beautiful?  Strong?)

One insect escapes and says something to you.  What does he say?  (Describes your memories when you failed to catch a particular guy, or how you handle rejection)

  1. Marry, Shag or Murder

The Sex and The City classic.  It’s best done walking around.  You point out three guys in the crowd and he has to tell you which one he’d marry, shag or murder.  Then it’s your turn.  HE picks out three guys and you tell him whom you’d marry, shag or murder.  Oh, and you both have to say why.

  1. The Lying Game (Version 2).

I love this one.  But you have to do it fast.

You:  I’m going to ask you 3 questions, and you have to lie.  If you can’t lie, you lose.  And if you lose you have to buy me a drink [ or whatever].

Okay, what color is the table?

What kind of car do you drive?

What color is the chair?

Wait, did I already ask you that?  [he’ll say no]

…Uh, I win.

Have you played this game before? [he’ll say no]

I win again!

  1. Spot the Lie  Version 1

This one’s a lot of fun.  You ask him three questions.  His job is to lie about one of the answers and your job is to pick out the lie.  Again, you start off with “how well can you lie?”  

You:  Tell me 1)  A place you’ve always wanted to visit.  2) A shop you like going to, and …. 3) The name of the first guy you slept with.

Then you pick out the lie.  Afterwards, he’ll most likely want to turn the tables and see if he can pick out one of your lies.  

Spot the Lie Version 2

This is one of my all time favorites because it’s such a cool way to get to know somebody.  And it’s SO simple:  

“Tell me five things about you, four of them true.”

Summary

  • Demonstrating value is the art of teaching people about themselves using universally accepted symbols and personal observations.
  • The main goal of demonstrating value is to make his night better than before he met you.

The only way to deliver an effective value demonstration is to memorize the different subjects and practice them on a daily basis.

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November 22, 2020

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November 19, 2020

Gay Body Language Part 4: Having A Dialogue With Your Eyes

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Having A Dialogue With Your Eyes

 

Okay, you’ve approached him from the side with a big smile, open palms, and a playful opener. You’ve made contact and you’re talking. Now what?

Get him to look into your eyes. There can be no emotional, physical or sexual bonding without it. Careful how you do it or he’ll trigger the trap floor underneath you and throw you into a pool of hungry sharks. You can’t hypnotize him or grab him by the ears, so how do you do it?

Align, Direct, and Reinforce.

Align your eyes and mouth so there’s a direct line to his, and then reinforce eye contact with a smile. If he’s sitting, sit. If he’s standing, stand. If he’s shorter, bend slightly. If he’s taller, grow an inch. Or maybe just accept there won’t be a direct line—whichever is easier. Once you’ve done that, get him to look into your eyes with a secret technique revealed by hidden camera studies:

Use your hands to create a visual pathway.

Cameras show that romantically interested men unconsciously use their hands to create a gaze path to their eyes. Here are a few examples of how you can do it:

1. Bring your drink up to your mouth and pause before you sip.

Hiding half your face forces his gaze up. Eyes naturally seek out eyes. You’re just giving his a little nudge.

2. Lean your face into your hands with your index finger pointing up.

If you’re sitting, put your elbow on the table with the palm up. Then lean your face into your hand, with your index finger pointing upward and the rest of your fingers near your mouth. It’s a subtle way of pointing to your eyes.

3. Gesture near your eyes.

When you’re telling a story, use lively hand movements close to the height of your eyes. For instance, hold your hands loosely, about chest level, with the bottom three fingers pointing back at yourself.

It should feel familiar—you do it whenever you’re having a good time talking to people.

Once you align and direct, don’t forget to reinforce. Every time you make eye contact, smile or laugh. Remember, your eyes can’t be the windows to your soul if no one’s looking at them.

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November 16, 2020

What Happens On A Gay Porn Set Part 5

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Part 5

In this series, we’ve explored what happens on a gay porn set with a special emphasis on what we can learn from it in our own sex lives.

Gang Bang Roulette

The hottest action in a lot of gang bang scenes is often not caught on camera. There’s usually a lot of fluffing going on among the tops in a gang bang scene, mainly to get each other hard enough and long enough to plow their on-screen partners.

What Do Gay Porn Stars Earn?

Remarkably little.  While some name-brand stars can earn up to $5,000 a scene, the vast majority make about $500 to $1,000 per scene.  No matter how you do the math, that doesn’t come to a whole lot of money. Very few performers make a living off of porn.  Most use it as a way to supplement the income they make from their day jobs or as a way to jack up their prostitution rates.  They can charge a lot more money if customers perceive them as “stars.”

Do tops make more money than bottoms?  The industry folks we spoke to said top and bottom don’t matter nearly as much as celebrity status.  The more well-known you are the more money you’re going to command, no matter what position you take during filming.

Some folks told us tops tend to make more because the penis is always the star of the show and that they’ve got to stay hard for hours on end.  But some said bottoms make more because they’re at a much higher risk for HIV and as one performer charmingly put it, “We have to keep our holes gaping open all day.”

Post-Production Rituals

Besides heading to the bank as soon as possible to make sure the check clears from the porn studio, the first priority of many porn bottoms is to soak in a hot bath of Epsom salts. Stretching your butt open for hours can cause some serious rectal inflammation, and post-bottoming care is essential to make sure the next time a director yells, “Action!” it doesn’t happen in the Emergency Room.

It’s A Wrap!

I originally intended to write a book about porn’s approach to bottoming because I was certain they were drinking from the fountain of knowledge. Turns out they were only gargling.

The porn industry’s secret to painless bottoming—drugs— ruined my book. When I first got the results of the research it reminded me of a French quote: Le petit quelque chose qui fout tout par terre—the little thing that fucks everything up.

I had to rethink my fucked up book. How could I possibly recommend illegal drugs as the path to painless bottoming? It’d be like recommending you light a match to see if your gas tank is empty.

Left without a hook to my book, I scrambled. Figuring I could come up with my own “secret,” I assembled an all-star cast of ass specialists— proctologists, colo-rectal specialists, and physicians with a truly alarming knowledge of anatomy. We had one goal: Create a game-changing “ass hack” that lets you bottom like a porn star without becoming an ER victim.

You can check out the book here.

 

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