The Secret Sauce To Homosexual Sex–Anal or Oral
The Road To Hot Sex With Men is Paved With Anticipation
Even in the dictionary, dick doesn’t come before desire so let’s start there—with desire. Or rather, how to amplify it so that anal sex isn’t just a painless experience but an exalted one.
If you want to experience the highest of sexual highs you must learn how to cultivate an agonizing joy called anticipation.
It’s an emotion that mixes enthusiasm, pleasure, excitement—even anxiety— about a longed-for event. Let me illustrate the concept with cookies:
Scenario 1
You walk into the home of the guy you want to bottom for and he immediately waves a plate of delicious home-made chocolate chip cookies under your nose.
“Eat, EAT!” he says. So you do.
Scenario 2
You walk into the same home and he waves a plate of home-made chocolate chips cookies under your nose. “Smell,” he says.
You reach for one and he says, “Not so fast! We have to wait for the other guests to arrive.”
He puts the plate right in the middle of the table so you’re constantly looking at its chocolaty goodness, salivating and fantasizing how good they’ll taste.
Finally, the guests come and he offers you one.
Which cookie tastes better?
The one in the second scenario. Why? Because anticipation amplifies pleasure.
It creates so much excitement, activates so many nerve endings that food tastes better with it than without it.
It’s the same with sex. Replace the chocolate chip cookies with your partner’s erect penis and you can see what I’m driving at.
Suspense-Resolution is the key to carbonated sex.
Like a great piece of music, you create a little tension, gradually increase it, build to a crescendo and resolve it to orgasmic satisfaction.
Like a maestro holding a note for an agonizing eternity, you then resolve it with a chord so burningly satisfying it sets off the smoke detector.
Create Tension
In music, you create tension with moments of unrest or conflict. It helps engage the listener, slowly moving him toward, well, a climax.
The best way to create this kind of tension and unrest in bed is to be somewhat unpredictable.
Set a pattern and then delightfully scramble it so your partner is left betwixt and befuddled (but always intrigued).
Take kissing for example. If you kiss one way and one way only, you become predictable. Constancy is the enemy of tension, so change things up.
Be unpredictable—not in your desire but in how you express it. Move smoothly from passive to active, from slow to fast to back and forth, from dry to wet, to gentle and wild.
Kissing tip: Close your eyes. Otherwise, they’ll look like two giant beachballs to your partner. And who wants to kiss big balls?
Wait. Bad example.
Just like chord progressions create movement in a song, the way you touch, kiss and move creates energy and tension, which is key to anticipation.
After all, you can’t experience relief if you first don’t experience tension.
Quick example of building tension: Your partner moves toward you as if he’s about to kiss you but then suddenly stops a couple of inches away from your lips.
UNPREDICTABLE.
He’s just hovering over you.
TENSION.
He moves an inch closer but…is he going to kiss you or what?
MORE TENSION
He kisses you.
RELIEF.
Increase Tension (Progression)
Great songs give you the feeling of movement, of progressing toward something.
There is a subtle movement from low tension to high tension, often in cycles, where a melody falls towards a low point or rises towards a high point over and over, catching our attention.
When a new melody or a new instrument is introduced, we’re curious where it might lead.
When the music goes loud or soft, we want to know why. When a rhythm changes quickly or a section finishes abruptly, we wonder what’s next.
You can create different levels of sexual tension using sounds and words. Start with small, almost imperceptible sounds.
A tiny rumble here, a soft moan there. Graduate to a gasp here, a pant there, a gulp somewhere else, mixing crescendos and decrescendos in cycles of hissing half-breaths until you reach the summit of suspense: The held breath.
You can also do it with words.
Tension requires dialogue not monologue. Set it alight with Tabasco Talk. If you say, “I want you inside of me” he can say, “I want to start slow and slide it in and out of you so you can feel how hard it is.”
Not only are you creating more tension but you’re starting to give each other erotic feedback–knowledge you can use to turn each other on in the future.
The erotic feedback loop is an important part of creating anticipation. You’re not just taking turns speaking and doing–you’re creating an energy spiral.
The more excitement you show the more he’ll want to excite you. You say something that turns him on, he responds with something that turns you on and suddenly you’re booked on an interplanetary flight.
For a greater exploration of how to “talk dirty” check out my book, How To Talk Like A Porn Star.
Build To A Final Crescendo
In music, chords build toward the highest point of tension. Rhythm, melody and harmony work in concert to reach the kind of fevered pitch that makes you beg for release.
Building to a final crescendo in sexual intercourse means heating up your body so that it aches for your partner’s hard dick to be inside you.
Aches.
The best way to do that is to simulate anal sex, tantalizing yourself with imagined pleasure. Get your partner on top of you, missionary style (chest to chest). Note: The following can also work in other sex positions.
Feel his heat, smell his essence, and touch his hardness. Ah, the essence of homosexuality, no?
As you’re doing that, slowly place his hard dick between your legs so you can feel its heat and strength on and around your anus and perineum.
Put lube in your hands, place them underneath your butt and have him gently thrust his penis into them as if they were your anus. It’s a kind of pre-festivities handjob.
Feel how smoothly it glides through your hands, with the head of his dick softly touching the opening of your anus.
Feel the strength and the firmness, and imagine how pleasurable it will be during penetration, especially for your prostate.
This will stimulate your imagination, scramble your thoughts and hold your body in suspense at the highest point of tension.
Now you are ready to be penetrated. Now, the experience won’t just move mountains, it will blow the lid off Mount St. Yellin’.
Gay Sex Advice: Tips For Bottoming and Blowjobs
Visualize biting into a lemon. 
Or they asked after the session was over. Here’s why it’s such a stunning sensation: When your tongue French kisses the head of the glans three things happen simultaneously—he feels the warm wetness of your mouth, the massaging action of your tongue and stimulation of an orifice most gay people ignore—the opening to his urethra.
Because they amplify what you’re seeing and feeling.