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This video shows major viral potential.  Set to Lilly Allen’s “Fuck You,” the chorus alone will make you spray.  This is the first time I’ve seen a gay rights video manage to take an F-bomb confrontational attitude without alienating anybody.  In fact, it’s endearing:

Be a dear and join the producer’s Youtube channel. It’s the least we could do for him.

Learn how to start a blog, or make the one you’ve got better. Whether you’re a beginner who doesn’t know where to start or a blogger who doesn’t know how to get to the next level, our monthly Atlanta blogging seminar show you how.

If you’re unemployed, under-employed or worried about your job, there’s no better way to survive the recession than becoming an authority in your field…THROUGH BLOGGING. Imagine the VP of Widget International deciding between two finalists. You’ve got a blog called “Market Your Widgets” and the other candidate doesn’t. Who wins?

If you’re an author there’s no better platform than a blog for book sales, speaking engagements, workshops, seminars…and positioning yourself for the next book.

Huffington Post blogger Mike Alvear and Atlanta Magazine columnist (and blogger) Hollis Gillespie show you how to start a blog or improve the one you’ve got. Our next Atlanta blogging class is:

Saturday August 29, 2009, 11:00 am – 5:00 pm.

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Here’s what you’ll learn:

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There’s an interesting contradiction in gay life: The culture that celebrates effeminacy in society ridicules it in the bedroom.

Exhibit A: Timothy Bergling in his book, “Sissyphobia: Gay Men and Effeminate Behavior,” did an analysis of personal ads and found 40% of all ads were masculine-themed (he looked at code words like “straight-acting only” and not-so-coded phrases like “femmes need not apply”), while only 2 percent were feminine-themed. (The rest were neither.)

Again, the score on personal ads: 40% masculine themed, 2% feminine themed, the rest uncategorized.

That masculine gay men prefer other masculine gay men as partners isn’t a shock. What is surprising is how few effeminate men wanted other effeminate men as sexual partners.

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My friend Jeffro asks:  “Who is your real friend in life?  There’s only one way to find out…”

Put your dog and your spouse in the trunk of the car for an hour.

When you open the trunk, which one is really happy to see you?

I know I’m not the only woman who struggles to keep the carpet matching the drapes. You know that never ending battle to keep the hair on your head and your pubic hair the same color. I can’t imagine how a bleached blonde’s able to convince some man that she’s a natural blonde with the obvious brown bush down below.

Being a bottle redhead for thirty-five years, nearly everyone I know thinks I have natural red hair. The problem with this red head addiction in middle-age is that I’ve gotten extremely gray. That’s a pain in the ass because I have to go to Bubba, my gay hairdresser in East Point every three weeks for a root touch up to hide the evidence of this spreading gray plague that’s taken over my hair.

The bigger pain in the ass is when I started noticing the gray hair down there. It was relentless, all spirally and spreading like kudzu. I saw an ad on Craigslist for a pubic hair artist. I know it’s hard to believe that’s someone’s job title but there it was on my computer screen along with her complete va-jay-jay portfolio.

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I propose that straight men try watching gay porn for a change, so they can learn what women want. What, you don’t find that intuitively obvious? It actually makes perfect sense. I can explain. Research shows that online porn is the single largest source of sexual information for young men. They watch it alone, and they also watch it in groups with other guys as a bonding activity.

(What does a room full of straight guys do when they all have boners at 3pm? Just wondering.)

Recently I was researching an article about the role of porn as an influence on sexual behavior. After consulting the academic literature, I hung out on both straight and gay male porn sites for…well, for a while.

(It’s amazing how a whole day can just fly by when you’re enjoying your work!)

What I found on straight porn sites was pretty much what I expected, but I was astounded by what I saw in gay porn. Especially amazing was the contrast between the two. As a straight woman, I found the straight porn repulsive. It was unbearably phony and mechanical. It was also very demeaning to women in many cases. But the gay porn? It was arousing. I hadn’t expected that!

(I figured it had to be the higher penis to vagina ratio, i.e. infinite.)

I decided to spend more time, um, trying to figure it out.

(Whoa! There went Tuesday!)

Why does it matter what kind of porn guys watch?

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from a reader:

I’m 18, have a nice body, cute butt, and all that, but nobody online hits me up. I think what’s causing all the ignores is my femininity. I’m kind of femme, yes, and it probably shows in my pics. I have long hair, too, and I think that adds to the rejection. I’m not a tranny or a cross dresser, I just happen to be not as masculine as some other guys. And with everyone wanting “hot masculine muscle jocks…” well, my question is, what am I supposed to do? I’m kind of lonely and it depresses me that most guys don’t find guys like me attractive (except the very old sugar daddies). Sometimes I just wanna chop off all my hair and live in a gym just so I can have some male contact, but I don’t want to compromise who I am. Help!
— Pretty but Lonely

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I don’t know how many of you watched “The Early Show” this morning, but they had one of their classic moments that make watching the show bearable. Apparently in high pageant queen drama, the Miss California pageant funded homophobe Carrie Prejean’s big, new silicone breasts. Oh, the corruption. Where does it end?