How To Cum More And Shoot Further Part 5
Every dribbler has had the experience of shooting 6 inches to 3 feet further than normal. Why then? Why not now? Why not always?
You came like a porn star then in part because you were so incredibly turned on that your sexual plumbing went into overdrive and produced a master shot-put of the white stuff.
The question becomes how can you re-create that kind of revved up desire. By knowing how to make yourself so sexually excited that it comes out of you like a broken water main.
Dialing up the turn-on to Defcon 1 can be physical (like when your partner licks your balls) or psychological (how much passion gets generated in a session with her).
Here’s a funny but accurate example of how physically dialing up the turn-on results in more forceful orgasms: Jerk off while standing over a space heater (you know, those little room warmers that sit on the floor). The heat will stimulate your penis and testicles. It will be absorbed into the body heating up everything from the muscles to the semen itself. All that warmth will amplify the sensations and you’ll have an awesome orgasm (if you don’t electrocute yourself, first!).
That’s a great example of how something so simple can increase libidinal sensations, but obviously you’re not going to bring a space heater along with your toothbrush and condoms to your lady friend’s house. You need a better way to dramatically increase how turned on you get and I’m about to show you. It’s all about approaching sex in a way that spirals up the erotic energy.
How To Put More Passion Into Your Sex Life So Your Orgasms Pole Vault Across The Room.
Think back at the most memorable sex you’ve ever had. What do you remember most–that thing your partners did with their tongue or the feeling of getting sucked into a vortex of sexual energy that made you temporarily forget your name?
Being good in bed isn’t about what you can do to her; it’s about where you can take her. It’s not that technique isn’t important, but technique without passion just makes you a skilled worker.
Passion is a funny thing. You can’t teach it because it’s not a skill. You can’t acquire it because it’s not a possession. And you can’t learn it because there are no instructions. Like the wind, you can’t see it but you can feel it.
If passion has one defining characteristic, it’s energy. Movement. Action. Convergence. By movement I don’t mean sexual calisthenics–setting up a trapeze, swinging from the chandeliers and diving into pillowed mosh pits. There’s nothing wrong with that, but passion defines movement as something that builds and resolves anticipation. Movement that creates the unexpected. Movement that travels from dissonance to harmony. It can be subtle, silent or loud. It can make you shiver, sigh or scream. It can pull you down like a whirlpool, suck you up like a tornado or waft you aloft on a magic carpet.
Consider the passionate kiss:
Your partner stops an inch before your lips. The space between crackles with anticipation. Your partner doesn’t back up. Doesn’t move forward. You’re caught in the tease. Your heart climbs the stairs. Your partner leans in. Your lips part and…
This is sexual energy in motion: It holds a chord and waits for the resolving note. It pushes you to the brink and pulls you back just in time to push you again. It has an upward trajectory, transferring from one partner to the other. Movement is passion’s starting point. It can be subtle–an unresolved kiss–or explicit–throwing each other around like rag dolls.
Next in the series: Exercises to increase your passion quotient.