How Your Photographs Can Attract Guys On Facebook
Use my Rule Of Threes. One-third of your profile pictures (not your albums) should be portrait shots (your face), one-third swimsuit (or form-fitting clothes that show off your body), and one-third action shots (of you doing something you like).
Let’s say you want to put nine pictures up on your profile. Using the Rule Of Threes you’d put:
Three portrait shots
Three pictures of you in a swimsuit or form-fitting outfits that show off your body
Three action shots of you doing something you like (other than having sex!)
The point of #3 is that you want guys to know what you’re interested in—travel, sports, Sudoku, whatever. These kinds of pictures put you in the context of doing things you love, which usually results in the pictures sending off good vibes.
Why You Need To Show Off Your Body.
Sex appeal matters. The fastest way to get a “hubba hubba” out of guys is to show them a little skin. Did I mention a little? Because I meant A LITTLE. All you want them to see is the general shape that you’re in.
Let me emphasize the point again. You should not post pictures that belong on GrindR, even if you have the body for it. What you wear and how you wear it should have the same sensibilities as a good pair of shorts– short enough to maintain interest but long enough to cover the essentials.
What if you just can’t, CAN’T bring yourself to post swimsuit pictures? Then don’t. But at least give guys a glimpse of what you’re like from the neck down. Upload pictures of you playing sports, digging in the garden, etc. In fact, those kinds of “natural context” pics are far more powerful than the ones posed in your living room.
If you have a raging case of body shame, then don’t force yourself to do something you’re not comfortable with. My formula is about maximizing your chances. Just because you don’t do one thing I recommend doesn’t mean that your chances of meeting great guys falls apart.
Your Photo Strategy For The Album Section
As I wrote before, you can create unlimited “albums” on Facebook. They’re perfect for uploading pictures of special events or times that are special to you. These albums are for you, your friends and family. They should not be optimized for attracting guys.
With one exception.
You should create an album called “My Favorites Pictures” that is specifically designed for guy-bait. You’ll see the formula in a minute; let’s talk about why this particular album is so important.
Have you ever checked a guy’s profile that had a ton of albums? You don’t know which one to click, right? And inevitably, you click on the one that doesn’t necessarily have pictures of him. Wouldn’t it be great if he had an album that said, My Favorite Pictures? You’d know where to click in an instant.
Having a “My Favorite Pictures” album will guide guys into seeing exactly the kind of pictures you want him to see. Now, here’s the ingenious part: What pictures should you upload? Here’s the formula:
80%: Pictures of you with your friends.
20%: Pictures of you that didn’t make it to the Profiles section.
So let’s talk about the recommended percentages. The 20% factor is self-explanatory–he wants to see more of you. But what about the 80%? Why pictures of you and your friends?
Social Proof Gets The Guy
Because of a concept called Social Proof. I explain it more fully in a later post, but here’s the capsule summary:
In the absence of personal experience, human beings look to third parties for cues as to whether a person, place or thing is valuable. Here’s an example of social proof in your own life:
Scenario 1: You see a guy. He’s alone whenever you see him. He doesn’t seem to have any friends. And he’s never around other men. You rate him a “5” out of 10 in the attraction meter.
Scenario 2: You see the same guy. But he’s always with a ton of friends. And a lot of good looking guys. You rate him an “8” out of 10 in the attraction meter.
Why would the same guy elicit increased desire in scenario 2? Social proof. You know nothing about this guy, so you automatically look to his surroundings to give you clues. And what do you see?
Lots of friends–and attractive men–who want to be around him. Therefore, he must be a guy worth knowing. The subconscious thought is, “Why do so many guys want to be around him? What do they know that I don’t?”
Hence, your Album section strategy is about surrounding yourself with social proof. Make sure that the photos in your “My Favorites Pictures” are a collection of ‘best of’ pics. As you upload to other albums be on the watch for great pictures–then upload those to the Favorites (it’s okay to have the same pictures in different albums).
Next post in our series: Tips on Capturing Your Best Self.
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