How To Tune In To What Turns You On Part 2
The Bed Picnic
This is a favorite because it’s both effective and adaptable. Basically, it involves both of you jumping into bed armed with a whole host of goodies, including an armful of sex books.
The idea is that you look through the books for ideas on new things you’d like to try, getting you both to talk openly about sex.
If you get embarrassed easily or aren’t terribly articulate, it’s much easier to point to a picture and say, “I’d like to try that,” then it is to say, “I’d like you to buy a Batman suit and I’ll pretend I’m Robin and you come up from behind me and…”
Props You’ll Need
Wine, beer, bubbles, fancy cocktails.
The more of a treat you make it the better. Get exotic food to nibble on like chocolate-dipped strawberries or pistachio nuts, food you can feed each other/smear all over like honey, ice cream or yogurt.
One bedroom and about 10 great sex books.
It’s well worth making the investment in buying them, or pop along to the library and borrow them (just be aware the selection may be a little tame). Make sure you get a selection of topics and authors like Kama sutra, hand and oral techniques, anal, fantasy books and good all-arounders to get a broad range of ideas.
How It Works
You can look through the books together or, if you’re embarrassed, flick through them separately and simply earmark the pages or put Post-it notes on stuff which appeals.
When you’re finished, swap and then agree on things you’d like to follow through on, making sure they put a sparkle in both your eyes. Once you’ve done your homework, have some fun.
Try some things, reading out the naughty bits as foreplay. Have a laugh, have a drink, eat some food, kiss yourself stupid, enjoy yourselves!
What Now?
Aim to have a bed picnic at least once every three months. Done well, it should set you up with enough new ideas to keep things nicely varied in between.