What Not To Do When You Bring Up The Subject Of Your Sex Life
Don’t Talk Immediately After Things Have Gone Horribly Wrong
Erupting into a frenzy, frustrated rant while the bed springs are still bouncing will guarantee that the problem you just had will become a big one even if it wasn’t before.
If sex hasn’t gone to plan, acknowledge it lightheartedly saying something like, “Well, we need to work on that. Let’s have a chat tomorrow when we’re less tired.”
Any discussion about sex needs to be treated with tact and sensitivity. You need to think through what you want to say and how you’re going to say it and that’s not going to happen if you’re in the middle of a red rage.
Don’t Talk When You Just Had A Huge Fight
There have been numerous studies on Angry Couples and they show that people are so flooded with adrenaline when angry they can’t listen effectively or explain their points calmly.
Even if the fight was about sex and now seems the perfect time to finally talk about it, wait at least 20 minutes. That’s the time it takes for the body to return to normal, if you spend it doing some type of calming activity like a walk, making a cup of coffee, etc.
Don’t Initiate The Discussion At Bad Times
When the football game or their favorite TV show is on or they’ve got an important work presentation the next day, choosing to talk about something as important as this when you’re not guaranteed full attention is a waste of time.
Don’t Be Too Bossy
Your tone should be warm and loving.