Facebook Flirting Strategies
Welcome to the meat of the series. We couldn’t have gotten here without the previous posts. There’s no point in knowing how to flirt on Facebook if everything about your pictures and profile is flirt-unfriendly.
But now you’re ready! Once you’ve identified the guys you want to meet through the searching strategies recommended in previous posts, it’s time to get jiggy.
Comment On Photos and Status Updates
Assuming you’ve become friends with someone you’re interested in, leave comments on their photos and status updates. The key here is to be friendly, not flirty. You don’t want the world to know you’re hitting on him!
Don’t worry if you don’t see sparks fly on your first comments. Guys pay enormous attention to who’s commenting. With a good default profile pic (the one that shows up with every comment you make) you’re liable to make him click on your profile after reading one of your comments. Besides, when similar interests are found, they can spark a conversation down the road.
Post Something On Their Wall
A compliment about a guy’s taste in music or film usually works well. Say you just befriended a “friend of a friend” you’re attracted to. After your friend request gets accepted, write a wall post on his profile that says something to the effect of,
“Hey you’re into [insert band X]? I didn’t know [mutual friend’s name] was cool enough to know TWO people that like [band X]!”
This lets him know you have two shared interests: a) The band b) Your mutual friend.
Here’s another example of something you could post on his wall…
“You are so right. Contrary to popular opinion, [movie title] was terrible! It’s the most over-rated movie of the year. In fact, I wanted to give you props as the first guy I’ve ever seen who was bold enough to put that on their Facebook profile.”
Poking Strategies
Yes, you can still “Poke” on Facebook even though they’ve removed the Poke button. Antiquated as it is, Facebook’s “Poke” feature is still one of the best ways of meeting guys. It’s sort of like a dating app’s “wink” feature—you “poke” or “wink” at somebody and they have the option of poking you back.
Your pokes are NOT recorded in your mini-feed so people won’t see that you’re poking (or sending messages) to five guys every day (!!).
Here’s how it works: Sign in then go to facebook.com/poke. You’ll see a list of people Facebook thinks you should poke, plus there’s a search bar with this message: “search for friends to poke.”
Poking saves time by not having to come up with a witty message to send him. After poking him, the next time he logs into Facebook he’ll see a “You have been poked by [Your Name]” and the option to remove the poke or poke back. He will then click on your name and be taken to your (artfully created) profile and snoop around.
At the risk of stating the obvious, this is why we spent so much time on your pictures and profile. He is going to make a snap judgment based on both. If he’s interested he’ll poke you back.
Don’t Start A Poking War
If he pokes back, don’t start a poking marathon. It’s your cue to send him a message—he’s interested! Keep it short. Ask something about his activities or interest. Like, “Hey, I see you’re a tennis player. Are there any leagues in town?” Or you could write a cutesy, “Ouch! You’re going to leave a bruise with all that poking.”
Send Him A Message
You don’t have to start out with a poke. You can do it with a conversation-opening message.
Here are some messages I call “bootleg flirts” because the recipient never feels like they’re being hit on. It’s like an ordinary message with a flirt subtext bootlegged into it.
Flirt #1
You: “Is that really you in your profile picture?” He’ll almost always respond, “Of course it is why do you ask?” Bingo, you’ve got an opening for a conversation.
Flirt #2
Find the sexiest picture in his profile and compliment him on something in the background. Complimenting a beautiful guy on the barely visible chair he’s sitting on is guaranteed to make him laugh and wonder, “Why isn’t this guy complimenting me in the usual way?” This is a GUARANTEED way of setting the stage for a fun conversation.
Flirt #3
In the subject line, write “Did we….?”
In the body, write, “We spoke to each other briefly last Saturday, right?” The exchange will go something like:
Him: “Really? Where?”
You: “I thought we briefly said something to each other at so and so’s party, or ______ pool or _____ club. No? Him: “I wasn’t there last weekend. Sorry.” You: “Ha! Okay. Well you have an evil twin out there then!”
If he’s interested, he’ll take over the conversation.
Quick note: If the guy asks you how you found him, just say he popped up on your “friends you may know” list and spotted him because he looked like the made-up guy you chatted with last Saturday at the pool or club that you never went to (!)
Flirt #4
I don’t recommend this next one for the shy. But if you’re feeling a little adventurous, go for it.
- In the subject header write: “I really must say…”
- In the body write: “That is a HOT picture! Who is he? I really like your taste.”
About 80% of guys will reply to this message. Why? Simple: The sentence starts out with an obvious leer you might get on a hookup app but the second sentence turns the meaning upside down.
Basically, you’re saying the picture’s hot but assuming it’s not him. Some guys will laugh about that sudden twist, some won’t, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply.
For hundreds of witty, pre-written flirty messages you can send check out our collection of flirty texts. Trust me, you’ll something that fits your personality.
Keep Your Status Updates Current
Interested guys will definitely check that out. The more clever you make them, the more appealing you’ll be. Take a look at the results of a recent study on what guys think is most impressive in a Facebook profile:
A hot picture 68%
Clever Status Updates 28%
Music/movie tastes 24%
Tons of friends 20%
Family photos 17%
Political leanings 3%
Your status updates can be anything you want them to be. But be sure you put a few zingers in there. Make a guy laugh and you’re halfway to a ring. Here are two examples:
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Next week in our series: Cool Facebook Tricks and Treats That Will Make Your Flirting Life Easier.
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