How To Cum More And Shoot Further Part 6

Want to see passion’s power? Try this experiment. Blindfold each other in bed. By subtracting one sense, blindfolds require the other four to work harder. Without vision, two hands can feel like four or six. The intriguing part is that you don’t know where the next touch or probe is going to come from. Sensations are heightened and here’s the best part: Everybody looks like a million bucks!

So here’s how it works: You and your partner blindfold yourselves and sit naked on the opposite corners of the bed. On a whispery count of three, slowly advance toward each other. Touch, explore, discover. What do you do? Where do you go? You don’t know. That’s the point. If neither of you can see each other’s facial expressions during the action, it’ll leave you with a tingling curiosity: “What’s my partner thinking?” “What’s my partner feeling?” Think of it as a blank canvas for the imagination. By depriving yourselves of sight you create anticipation and heighten the senses. When that happens every position is a new position–unless darkness works its mischief and you knock your partner off the bed or they call you by the wrong name.

Talking. The Second Best Thing You Can Do With Your Lips.

Passion pretty much requires talking. Dirty talking. There’s scientific backing for this. Speaking or hearing sexually charged words is known to spike dopamine transmissions in brain chemistry, triggering sexual excitement.

This is how “Tabasco Talk” ignites an erotic loop: You make a sound or say something. Your partners respond. Their acknowledgement of your arousal arouses you. Your excitement excites them and soon you’re both sucked up into a vortex of pleasure.

What Does Talking Sexy Mean?

Most people think “talking dirty” is a vulgar, in-your-face prison-style accounting of what you want to do behind closed doors. But there’s a lot more to it than the lunatic ravings of a horny junkyard dog (although there is much to say for that, too). Learning the art of sexy talk is easy. All you have to do is…

• Notice the sensations in your body. Express them.
  Ask for what you want. Talk about it.
  Anticipate how good it’s going to feel. Breathe heavy.
  Think about your fantasy. Voice it.
  Notice your partner’s body. Compliment it.
  Does it feel good? Tell your partner.
  Do you like the way they’re touching you? Moan.
  Are you getting hard? Groan.
  Are you close? Announce it.

I Want To Verb Your Noun.

It’s not what you say but that you say. If you think you’ve got to come up with something flowery, STOP. Back up. Let me introduce you to the first rule of Tabasco Talk: NO POETRY. Any word with more than two syllables is a word with too many syllables.

Are your partners too shy? A great way to ease them into it is to practice on the phone when you’re out of town. There’s no eye contact and the distance provides an emotional buffer. Another good way to get comfortable with naughty words is to play a word game I call Naughtirati. Your draw naughty words on your partner’s naked back and they guess what they are. Be playful. This isn’t serious. It’s fun. And wet, too, if you draw the words with your tongue.

Verb Me! Verb Me Now!

It doesn’t matter what you say but the authenticity with which you say it. Well, unless you say something that’s going to break the mood like, “I’m going to drill you with that axis of evil between my legs!”

The objective isn’t creativity; it’s conductivity. Think of talking in bed as caressing your lover with words. Entice, Excite, Enchant. Don’t be captive to silence. Free your tongue, the zest will follow.

Oooh, Ahhh, Huff, Puff, Gasp!

Passion is erotic energy unleashed. The formula is simple: Words + Action= Oh My. Go right, fake left, bend low, go up the middle. Get into it. Zing, zip, rest, start over. And talk, moan, laugh or groan through all of it. It’s sex Tivo style: Play …fast forward…slow motion…stop…rewind…play.

Pant, pant.

Next week in the series:  Exerting more pressure on your reproductive system to propel semen out more explosively.

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