How To Meet Guys On Facebook

You’re reading this, our new series on dating, because you’re either not meeting guys on Facebook or the ones you are meeting make you doubt that God exists. Yet you maybe feel a little funny about using Facebook to make the first move on a guy you don’t know, but as you’re about to find out, you can do it in such a subtle way that guys will think they’re chasing you. That’s why our series motto is “chase him until he catches you.”

Before we get into the series, a few words. Facebook is an awesome way of meeting single dateable guys. But you can’t use the same techniques you’d use on dating or hookup apps like GrindR.

For one, few people go on Facebook to hook up or date. Yes, guys are always up for that. If we could turn Facebook into Faceporn, we’d have done it already. But the truth is, most people don’t join the site to find the love of their life. And even those who do find it hard to navigate it as a dating app.

Here’s why: Imagine putting the kind of dating profile on Facebook that you’d put on Match.com (“Looking for a soul mate who likes long walks on the beach”).

Where your friends, family, office workers, exes, college and high school friends could see it.

Oh. My. God.

You Can’t Turn Facebook Into GrindR.

Clearly you can’t do that. Facebook is designed to plug you in, not hook you up. The expectation is completely different. People are on it mainly to keep up with friends, find out what’s happening and make new social connections.

HOWEVER.

That doesn’t mean guys aren’t open (actually, HOPING) to meet a guy (YOU) who’s going to make their socks fly off their feet. In fact, most single gay men want to meet others like them on Facebook.

But you have to be inordinately indirect on the site and let’s face it, men are about as subtle as a brick through a windshield. They instinctively know that they can’t just hit on you, but on the other hand they don’t really know how to go about it.

So they try Big Footing it, get pushed back and give up. Or, they simply use Facebook as a way of connecting AFTER they meet a guy they’re interested in.

Either way, it’s time for you to take control of your love life. Well, maybe not control. How about a nudge? Because that’s all it’s going to take. This series isn’t about how to set a trap for a man. It’s about starting a conversation with handsome, generous, funny men who may not know that you live right up the cyber road from them.

It’s about inviting them, and in a very real way, giving them permission, to start a dialogue with another beautiful guy–you!

The best thing about Facebook is that you can take control in a way that you can’t on dating sites. For one, almost everyone gay is on Facebook, and that’s not even close to being true about gay dating apps.

Second, if you contact any guy for any reason on a dating app, boom! You’re hitting on him. You’re clearly showing romantic interest. Not true on Facebook. At least, not with the methods you’re about to read.

Using Facebook’s Strengths

So, if you have any reservations about being the initiator, throw them out the window because Facebook helps you save face. Whoever speaks first on a dating app demonstrates interest but it’s not true on Facebook.

Whoever speaks first on Facebook is just being friendly.

Meeting cute guys on Facebook requires subtle weapons of mass seduction. It requires shrewdness and the patience of a tree.

We’re going to get some sap in this series. We’ll be covering the following: