Gay Dating Advice: A Golden Rule For Texting Ambivalent Guys

Be quirky. Be fun. Be observational.

Your job is to make him smile, to associate you with good times, a chuckle or a laugh. Which text do you think a guy would rather get:

“Hi, how are you?”

“I just saw a drag queen on a mini-scooter stop at a  red light and fix his make-up. Can you beat that?”

Here’s another example– which text do you think would make him want to get to know you better?

“Sup.”

Do you think naming two puppies Millie Vanilli is a little over the top?

Asking his opinion is one of the most effective ways of engaging him, especially if you do it with wit. Don’t be afraid to be a little off-the-wall. It sets you apart from the rest of your tired sisters.

Interest, smiles, and laughter–these are all values you want to bring to the table. Now the truth is there’s nothing wrong with asking him how his day’s going as long as you’ve put the funny in it:

My cell phone fell out of my shirt pocket while tying my shoe on an escalator….which was followed by me being accused of being a lesbian and trying to sneak an upskirt photo and being violently shoved down the top of the escalator. How’s YOUR day?

Now THAT’s how you ask a guy about his day! Remember, you can’t overtly flirt with someone who’s hesitant about you, so you have to create value—even in the ways you say hello. You can also do it by engaging their curiosity. You could send a message like:

You: You’ll never guess what happened to me last night!

Why it works: It hints at something funny or adventurous, and who doesn’t want to chuckle or hear something fun? Even better, he’ll think you’re setting it up to say that you met this cool guy (him) last night.

So when you throw a curve ball at his expectations he’ll be more intrigued. The challenge with this flirt idea is that you have to deliver on the promise. So get creative. Think of something funny that’s happened to you or just pretend it happened. Here’s an example:

Last night, my friend changed all my contacts in my phone. I have been texted by Batman, Beyonce, and Harry Potter. WTF!

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