Gay Intergenerational Dating
According to Greek legend, a hairless adolescent prince was alone in a field, working as a shepherd to become familiar with cattle, when he was spotted by Zeus, king of the gods. How do I explain Zeus? Zeus has the fidelity of Bill Clinton, the charm George Clooney, the ego of Kanye West, the supremacy of Oprah, and the powers of a god. Go ahead and let that sink in…
Zeus decides that this young prince is the most beautiful guy he has ever seen. So naturally, Zeus turns himself into an eagle and snatches the young prince. That’s right; Zeus was literally a “chicken-hawk.”
Long story short, they have a sorted love affair in Zeus’s kingdom in which the young prince becomes an immortal, gets a full time job as a personal assistant, and his own constellation, Aquarius. Now you can let all your Aquarius friends know that their zodiac sign is a sugar-daddy’s twink.
Intergenerational relationships between two consenting adults is a tale as old as time. I would love to see a current statistic on matter of “gay intergenerational relationships” because I’ve seen a lot of it.
And yet, people are still apprehensive to acknowledge such relationships as healthy or even sincere. Generations are usually separated by twenty years and understandably people may wonder, “What does someone born in 1974 have in common with someone who was born in 1994?” And that question has a tendency to “ruffle some feathers.”
The stigma and stereotypes that flock the minds of a gaggle of gossipers are usually: The older man is having a middle-life crisis while the younger man has daddy issues. The older man is sexually taking advantage of his younger trophy while the younger trophy is a gold digger. And they both are avoiding a “real” relationship.
I’ve had older friends who were scared that their younger lover just wanted their money. At the same time, I’ve had younger friends say they were scared they would look like they are in it for the money.
Now let’s take a step back and think about this. Some of these assumptions can be true. But there is something a lot of people tend to forget: THEY ARE TWO CONSENTING ADULTS! If the older one knows the younger one wants his money, and the younger one knows the older one wants his body… what’s the problem?
Not everyone wants the monogamous relationship of equals that come with a white picket fence, 2.5 kids, and a dog. And dare I say, an intergenerational relationship has its advantages.
The younger individual may be able to offer the stamina, passion, and a youthful exuberance that encourages the older individual to live life to the fullest. The sprightliness of a frisky Adonis may be the vitamin B shot that older individual needed.
The older individual can offer the experience and support that the young guy finds harder to find with less established peers. The older individual can have more resources to “rescue” the younger individual, while the younger individual may offer rejuvenation. If it makes the two adults happy, then why not let them be as free as birds?
Like any relationship, there are things to be cautious of. Obviously, the two individuals are in completely different stages of their lives. A younger individual may not be set in their ways and this may cause a change in bond that unhinges the relationship.
They should be aware of the income gap that may be present and the responsibly that will come along with that arrangement. And certain arrangements based on financial power can make a relationship as fragile as a robin’s egg.
Because the two are from different generations, neither should assume that the other knows everything they themselves know. For example, if the man born in 1986 doesn’t understand a cultural reference from 2000, it doesn’t mean that he is a bird-brain.
Intergenerational relationships may not be completely understood but it doesn’t mean that they can’t be genuine. As long as the two adults are in a consensual relationship then who cares? Despite the rationality behind the relationship, it seems very possible for it to be beneficial to all parties involved.