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If you’re not careful, an overheated machine could actually cause the batteries in the laptop to explode. And oh, dear, there’d go your gay dating plans.

The processor chip in the average laptop runs at about 163 degrees Fahrenheit, but remember, computers have built-in cooling mechanisms. And unless there’s a battery defect or you’ve been Manhunting for 12 hours in the middle of a Bangladesh heat wave, there’s little chance something bad’s going to happen.

Still, if you like the top on your lap, as it were, you should take precautions. If you haven’t seen an exploding laptop then check this out—you’ll never put an overheated laptop near your uglies again. It’ll turn gay attraction into a gay explosion.

Check out some of the solutions like Cooler Master’s NotePal Infinite. It uses variable speed fans to cool your laptop. Others like the Xpad laptop desk don’t use any power at all, yet seems to do the job. Just Google “laptop coolers.”

It isn’t just bad experiences that keep you from initiating a conversation with good looking strangers in gay bars and social events, it’s also because you’ve bought into a mentality that stops you before you even try. I call them The Three Big Gay Lies:

Big Gay Lie #1: If the guy you like doesn’t look back he’s not interested.
If he doesn’t send a signal, don’t bother. We’re men; we know what we want and we’re not afraid of showing it. If we’re not looking we’re not interested.

Big Gay Lie #2: The guy you want to meet is either Attracted To You Or he’s not.
You’re in or out. End of story. It’s black and white. We’re not chicks–we don’t try to “find out” if we’re interested, we just know.

Big Gay Lie #3: Men Are Beauty Nazis.
If you don’t have the look, you don’t stand a chance. There are A-Gays and everyone else. If you’re a B, or God forbid, a C-gay, good luck.

Now, let’s get real. There’s a lot of truth to these generalizations. Most gay men look if they’re interested. Most have yes/no attraction switches. And most of us tend to have an unrealistic standard of beauty.

But the key word is most. And the mathematical number that makes most a reality is 51%. That means that up to 49% of men do not fit into these categories.

Let’s take a closer look:

Big Gay Lie #1: The guy you want to meet Will Always Look At You If He’s Interested.

Not true. There are lots of good reasons why he wouldn’t glance at you: [Read more…] about Gay Dating’s Three Big Lies

A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And thisis something worth celebrating.

For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that’s the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It’s my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don’t ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I’m at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I’m feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.

Many people told me: “Ricky it’s not important”, “it’s not worth it”, “all the years you’ve worked and everything you’ve built will collapse”, “many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature”. Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.

If someone asked me today, “Ricky, what are you afraid of?” I would answer “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war…child slavery, terrorism…the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith.” But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.

These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.

What will happen from now on? It doesn’t matter. I can only focus on what’s happening to me in this moment. The word “happiness” takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.

I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.

RM

Question:
I cruised the hottest guy and then we met. What an asshole! He had all the social skills of a drunken farmhand. Everything inside me said “don’t do it, don’t take him home, you’ll regret it.” But the fuse was lit and once again the demon below my belt took over.

— Sorry it ever happened

Dear Sorry:

Dealing with good-looking assholes is the booby trap of gay dating. It’s like dealing with drugs or alcohol: When you have enough bad experiences you’ll eventually know when to say “thanks but no thanks.”

You just haven’t had enough bad experiences. Like the mark of a good partier, the mark of a highly evolved sexual being is to know when to say no.

Memorizing my Theory of Sexual Relativity will help. Remember, Einstein proved that space and time aren’t viewed as separate, independent entities, but rather that they form a four-dimensional continuum.

It’s the same thing with Desire and Disgust. They aren’t separate, independent entities. They form a braided dimensional continuum known as *WHID* (“What Have I Done?”). [Read more…] about Why do I keep going home with jerks?

A step-by-step manual that shows you how to start a conversation with a hottie who isn’t looking back at you. Learn a profound new way of perceiving attractive guys (it will make your fear of rejection evaporate) and how to deliver rejection-proof approaches field tested in gay bars and parties. With glowing reviews from The Huffing Post (“A sensational way of meeting gay men that women can learn from.”) no wonder it’s the #1 best selling gay ebook in the U.S.

Apparently, he’s a bit touchy about the subject. Here’s his reaction to an Elle Magazine reporter who asked him where he likes to lodge his log: “That was, like, the worst interview I’ve ever done, and it kind of turned me off from doing interviews completely, because that guy [fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”][the interviewer] was such a dick. It just turned into like a verbal sparring match and I was trying to be polite to him, but just right off the bat he came out with all these crazy accusations and stuff. So I was like, ‘Ok, buddy… .’ I was completely caught off-guard.”

So was the Elle reporter rude? Judge for yourself. Here’s the transcript, thanks to queerty.com.
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