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From a reader:

When I was younger I was a tad promiscuous, sleeping with half of the city by the time I was 19. I don’t regret it because I enjoy sex and it was my own choice. I still have sex but not nearly as much as I used to. The thing is, because of my past, it’s making it kinda harder for me to find a boyfriend. Whenever I meet someone new they either know me as a slut or they find out through their friends. How can I get past my “reputation” to land a lover?

— Tainted

Dear Tainted:
I’d rather hear that you’ve stopped plugging every opening you walked by because it’s no longer fulfilling, not because you’re scared of what people will think. If you’re serious about taming that Access of Evil between your legs, you’ve got a few options, but before we go into that, allow me a rant: [Read more…] about How to restore your reputation: Slut Rehab

You trade pics. Hubba Hubba. You arrange to meet. Your place for drinks. He walks in. You say, “Is that a gun in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?”

A convicted felon accused of targeting gay men who were looking for dates online was charged with kidnapping, robbery, carjacking and other crimes in Superior Court Monday.

Angel Pena Ayala, 24, who was on parole for a previous carjacking conviction, was arrested Friday and pleaded not guilty Monday in Torrance Superior Court, said Los Angeles County district attorney’s officials.

He was charged with eight felony counts, including the allegation that the crimes were committed for a street gang.

Hermosa Beach police said Ayala placed an online ad on Craigslist.org in the personals section and met his victim at the man’s home in Hermosa Beach in March.

Authorities accused him of pulling a handgun on the man and ordering him to put his TV, computer and camera into his car.

Here’s a roundup of hair removal options. Most come with optional ear plugs for the person doing the removing.

Like it or not, the gay dating world is filled, or rather shorn, of a lot of hair. If you want to meet gay men, the hair-on-head-only look is going to help a lot, sad to say. So here are the options and their cruel legacies:

Laser Removal
What it is: Laser light grabs the hair follicle, says, “Luke, I am your father” and kills the hair root. It doesn’t kill the follicle, though, so hair can still grow back. Maybe it should say, “Luke, I did your Father” and it would work better.

How long it’ll take: About half an hour per session. Like the Star Wars movies, it’ll take about 8 sequels to get the job done.

Where you should aim it: At your boss. But if you need the job, your chest, back, stomach and genitals.
The hit: About $450 per treatment.
Duration: It’s the most permanent of your options, but touch-ups are the rule.

Waxing
What it is: Torture. They put strips of cloth over the wax and then RIP the fucker off. The new waxes aren’t supposed to be as painful as the old waxes, but that’s like saying getting stabbed by a dull knife doesn’t hurt as much as a sharp one. Technically true, but…

How long it’ll take: Ten minutes to an hour.

Where you should aim it: Unibrows, hair on the ears and neck, legs, underarms, and arms. Gay advice: Do NOT use it on your genitals unless you’re an extra on the next sequel to The Hills Have Eyes and need the screaming practice.

The hit: About $50-70 a session

Duration: About 4 to 6 weeks.
[Read more…] about There’s no such thing as scream-free hair removal.

The rules are different in the gay dating world. Men understand each other better than women do. Every guy looks at other guys –I don’t care how in love they are. You achieve monogamy through discipline, not mind-control; through resisting actions not thoughts. My God, if I were judged by my thoughts I’d have been shot more times than a black man innocently bumping into white cops.

Feeling that you cheated on your boyfriend because you flirted with guys is like saying you cheated on your diet because you smelled some sausages. Just like smelling something delicious won’t ruin your diet, flirting with guys won’t ruin your relationship. Though I have to say, it depends on what you mean by flirting.

I think the first thing you need to do is get a sense of proportion about what constitutes cheating. Here’s an index I built for a seminar I led about monogamy:
[Read more…] about Is flirting cheating?

From the Biology of Technology blog:

“Hot shirtless guys and scantily clad girls running on the side of the road are MUCH more of a distraction and hazardous than cell phones. So let’s pass a law against hot people running. They’re already hot so why do they need to run anyway? Of course, non-hot people may continue to run and should continue to do so. Until they become hot, then they must stop.

If I cannot be trusted as an adult to do two things at once like talk on the cell and drive, then I cannot be trusted to not be distracted when hot people are running on the sidewalks of busy streets.”

I’m not sure I agree with blogger Rick Howington on this subject (the data’s pretty clear–you’re much likelier to get into an accident with a cell phone than without), but I like the way he reached into his inner Teabagger anger and pulled it off. The real danger, in my view, is watching hot people running while you’re driving …to pick up your date!

Read the rest of Rick’s post + watch a hilarious video on the subject