Guided Tour of A Painless Bottoming Session Part 4
I Get Penetrated
It worked! Adam was totally in and it didn’t hurt! Now, I do have to say that while it didn’t hurt it felt like the slightest move would bring on a LOT of pain. That’s when I remembered the author’s words—“Don’t proceed until unfamiliar and uncomfortable sensations become familiar and comfortable.”
So I asked Adam to stay still for a few moments. It wasn’t long before the sensations lessened. Later, I realized that my puborectal region was adapting itself to the presence of Adam’s dick.
Even when I gave Adam the signal to start moving inside me I made sure he went at the speed of a turtle. I remember the author saying that no matter how relaxed the sphincter, no matter how much you straighten the S-curve, the puborectal muscles naturally contract when an object is inserted into the rectum.
I Make Small Adjustments
I moved a little to the right and asked Adam to straighten up a little because I could sense things were going to hurt if I didn’t. If this book has taught me anything it’s that you have to be aware of what your body is saying to you and obey its limitations.
Other Observations
On My Own Erection
At this point, I realized my hard-on was gone! I was like, WTF! Later, when I emailed the author I found out a lot of guys lose their hard-ons (and then get it back later). Apparently, the “sensory overload” of being penetrated can divert attention from your own erection. It kind of makes sense, as I’ve often noticed that sometimes my boner goes soft when I’m blowing Adam even though I’m really turned on.
The author also wrote that it may even be a good idea not to stimulate myself in the beginning, as arousal can cause the sphincter muscles to tighten up a little and make penetration a tad more difficult.
On Feeling Like I Had To Take A Dump
Once Adam was fully inside me I had this weird feeling like I wanted to defecate. The feeling went away but it alarmed me for obvious reasons. In a later email, the author wrote, “Don’t get alarmed. The rectum has “stretch sensors” that activate the elimination reflex. The body senses the rectum is full so it thinks it has to relieve itself. But in actuality, there is no stool in the rectum and within just a few seconds, the feeling of wanting to go to the bathroom will recede.”
On Feeling Like I Had To Pee
I also had a vague urge to pee, which alarmed me to no end. But as the author emailed me, “Feeling like you have to pee is fairly common for the receptive partner when he’s on his back. That’s because the bladder rests directly on the rectum. As Adam’s penis pushed into you, the rectum prodded your bladder, making you think you needed to urinate. The feeling goes away once it’s reinterpreted correctly.”
On Being In Charge
I have to admit I hated the chapter on “being in charge.” It didn’t make sense that the bottom should be in control, but upon reflection, I think the author was absolutely right. There were so many times pleasure headed towards pain and if I weren’t in control I would have shattered my No Pain contract like a brick through a windshield.
Here’s a perfect example: I asked Adam to pump faster and I loved it…until I didn’t. But Adam had no idea the fast pumping was headed towards pain. How could I possibly expect him to know what was happening in my body?
I’m glad I stuck to the author’s advice: CONTROL EVERYTHING. After a while, I let Adam take over more and more because he understood what was likely to hurt me.
On My Orgasm
I was amazed at how far I shot and how much cum came out. The author’s email: “This isn’t unusual because the prostate is responsible for the production of ejaculate. The more stimulated the prostate gets, the more semen it will produce, and the more forcefully it will be expelled.”
On Post-Orgasm Activity
I wanted Adam to pull out immediately after I climaxed. That wasn’t addressed in the book so I was startled by the discomfort. The author’s take: “Men typically want all sexual activity to stop after they ejaculate and bottoming is no different. Sexual stimulation simply doesn’t feel good once the refractory period sets in.”
On Our New Sex Life
Adam and I are incredibly happy as we see new sexual horizons open up. Adam feels like he now has a fuller experience of me and I feel like I know Adam in a completely different way. We feel closer to each other than we’ve ever been, and I think it comes from trading vulnerabilities, being sensitive to each other’s needs, and honoring each other’s requests.
