How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 24

The Peacock Technique Continued (again!)

 

The Sloppy Diamond

Put your partner on his back at the edge of the bed where you can kneel and have access to his whole body. Picture a line drawn from his cock to his right nipple to his mouth to his left nipple and back to his cock. That’s the diamond path your mouth will travel.

TEASE

Start by sucking the head of his cock gently. He’s now thinking he’s going to spend a long time in your mouth. WRONG. After maybe two or three bobs go to his right nipple and suck on it 2-3 times with big wet kisses, licks, and nibbles (oh, you tease!) Now, he’s thinking, okay, a little nipple action. WRONG.

LURE

You now go for his mouth and give him 2-3 very wet, long kisses. Notice how you’ve lured him into thinking you’re going to do one thing and then you do another.

TEASE AGAIN

At this point, he’s thinking, “WTF! I have no idea where she’s going!” Exactly. And because he doesn’t know, his senses are heightened and your very unpredictability makes everything feel like, well, those chocolate chip cookies you can smell but can’t eat.

Now, follow the diamond line and go to his left nipple and pay devoted attention with your tongue.

ESCALATE

Go back to his cock. What’ll really make him grab the sheets is when you start varying how you go down the diamond path of his hot zones. For instance, going from his cock to his mouth back and forth, ignoring his nipples. The inability to predict builds anticipation. So be unpredictable. While you’re traveling down the diamond path with your mouth, your hands are free to double his pleasure. You can, for example, put a left-hand finger in his mouth while stroking his balls with your right. While kissing him you could caress his face. While sucking on his nipples you could stroke his inner thighs. This is when you start having sex Tivo style: Play…fast forward…slow motion…stop…rewind…play.

RESOLVE

Speed up the process (get to the different parts of his body quicker) and build momentum. Finally, settle exclusively on his cock, and instead of giving it 2 or 3 long bobs before moving on, use the “O-ring” technique mentioned earlier and keep doing that for a while. He will go radioactive with pleasure.

Why it works: The Sloppy Diamond builds anticipation (“when is she going to suck me off?”), provides action and energy (moving between different parts of his body), lures him into thinking he knows where you’re going, supplies variety (stimulating different erotic zones) and resolves tension (by settling on his cock with O-ring motions).

Let’s Review

Increasing anticipation increases sexual pleasure. Lowering anticipation lowers pleasure. Ever had sex with a guy who skips the warm kisses and tender caresses and just tries to stick it in you? That’s an example of no anticipation creating no pleasure.

Here’s another example of anticipation’s importance in creating pleasure. Think about your favorite drink. I prefer a chilled chardonnay around 7 pm (only on days that end in “y,” however). Around 4 pm I start fantasizing about the golden liquid behind a chilled glass teasing me with its droplets of condensation. The anticipation actually changes my physical state. When I actually pour the nectar of the Gods into a glass at 7 pm and put it to my lips it’s clear: My anticipation of a longed-for event heightened its ultimate pleasure.

This is what you should be aiming for in all your blowjob techniques: building anticipation, providing action and energy, supplying variety and resolving tension. In other words, TEASE, LURE, ESCALATE, RESOLVE.

Why dust him with the feathers of ordinary fowl when you can transform him with the spectacular plumage of a peacock?

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Gay Sex Advice: How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 23

The Peacock Technique Continued

We experience suspense/resolve cycles all the time; we just haven’t necessarily labeled it as such. For example, the high-schooler dying to find out if he got accepted to his preferred university. The letter arrives. SUSPENSE. He rips it open and reads the answer. RESOLUTION.

It’s nearly midnight and the host is tearing up the envelope for the best movie of the year. TENSION. He announces the winner. RELEASE.

It’s match point at Wimbledon. The champion you’re rooting for just missed his first serve. He tosses the ball up in the air to hit the second serve. ANXIETY. It clears the net and lands inside the service box. RELIEF. 

Suspense/Resolve

For our purposes, there are two pillars to a suspense/ resolve cycle. First, is a longed-for event. Second, a lack of knowledge about whether the event will occur. Let’s apply this to you going home with a guy for the first time.  You’re kissing his body from chest to stomach. You’re headed south. For your partner, there’s a longed-for event (your mouth on his cock).

There’s uncertainty about whether it’s going to happen (he doesn’t know if you like to go down or whether you’ll be any good). SUSPENSE.  You kiss the inside of his thigh. TENSION. You kiss his balls. EXCITEMENT. Finally, you finally put your wet mouth on his raging hard-on. AHHHHHHHHH.

Notice what happened here. Tension amplified the gratification. The anticipation of satisfaction allows the man to get greater pleasure in the final gratification. Imagine if in the above scenario you immediately blew him before he could even get his pants off his ankles.

Yes, it would still feel good, but would it feel as good if you had held back in the way a maestro holds a note on the piano—and then resolves it with a satisfying chord? I think not.

As I see it, there are three types of “Oh My God!” a man can say when he’s in bed with another man:

1. OMG, I’m in heaven
2. OMG I’m in hell
3. OMG, where am I?

A suspense/resolution approach to your blowjobs will give him OMG #3. It’ll feel so good he’ll lose track of time, space and place. So how can you use anticipation to create an energy loop that carries your partner further up the sexual vortex?

Introducing The Peacock Technique

Are you ready to light him up like an all-night liquor store? Then get ready to do some “peacocking” (named because you don’t show him the feathered glory until the very last moment). There are four parts to the Peacock Technique: Tease, Lure, Escalate, and Resolve.

Every technique you’ve learned in this book should be put through this prism. Let me explain by starting with a simple goal: Putting your mouth on your partner’s erect penis.

During a typical blowjob you might, after a nice make-out session, wander south and put your wet mouth on your partner’s dick. While no guy would complain about that, in my mind it just makes you, ahem, common poultry. To become a peacock one must activate the Tease-Lure-Escalate-Resolve model.

Here’s how it works. Instead of simply putting your moist mouth on his dick, you do the following:

TEASE

Moisturize his mind before moisturizing his dick. As you’re kissing him in the mouth, wander over to his ears. Kiss them dryly at first, then warmly blow on them as if you’re fogging a window, only gently, silently. The heated moisture will drive him nuts.

While “fogging his ears” say things like, “I can’t wait to kiss your cock, to feel the thickness of it filling my mouth.” Then s-l-o-w-l-y caress a wet tongue around his ear and snuggle it in his eardrum. Go in and out slowly. He’ll picture his dick going in and out of your mouth.

Do you see what you’ve done here? You’ve filled him with anticipation. You’ve waved the hot cookies under his nose. Every nerve cell in his body awaits your next move.

LURE

Wiggle your way down his body. Assuming his clothes are off, give him dry kisses all the way down, from his neck to his nipples to his belly.

Now your mouth is right next to this dick but it’s not touching it. Use your hand to get it harder and harder. You’ve lured him into thinking you are about to give him head but instead you come up and “fog” his ear again. This time you ask if he wants you to put the throbbing dick you’re gently pumping in your hand into your wet mouth.

When he says yes (or rather “YES, YES, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, YES!!!!”), go back down his body alternating with shallow and dry kisses. Touch his balls and play with his dick but lightly, as if you’re only concerned with the contours of his genitalia. Slowly kiss his balls and smell his manscent. Start giving him small, wet kisses from his balls all the way up the shaft and when you get to the head, pretend you’re about to put it in your mouth and STOP.

Hold his dick by the base and the shaft for a glorious few moments of torturous anticipation. Stroke his balls lightly while holding his shaft and pool the saliva in your mouth by visualizing biting into a lemon or doing the “gleek.”

In the meantime, you’ve built up so much anticipation that his entire body is on high alert as it prepares for sky-high joy. He doesn’t know that you’re pausing to fill yourself with saliva. He’s thinking, “Is he going to put it in his mouth? IS HE? IS HE?!!!

ESCALATE

At this point your mouth should be filled, brimming with warm, wet saliva and NOW you’re ready to put the head of his dick in your mouth. Do it suddenly and without warning. Be sure to have the title of his mortgage, car, and stock portfolio at the ready because when he feels that warm moist mouth he is going to sign everything over to you!

Hold his dick in your mouth without moving for a few moments (however, let your tongue do some French kissing) and then when he’s acclimated (his moans and groans subside), start hands-free bobbing up and down.

RESOLVE

When he gets acclimated to the hands-free bobbing (again, the moans and groans weaken), make an O-ring with your index finger and your thumb, tighten the grip and start moving up and down in short distances—about an inch below the corona of the head to just past it. The combination of the saliva acting as lube, and your fingers increasing the pressure at the most sensitive site of his dick will send him to a higher level of pleasure.

Why is this part called “Resolve?” Wouldn’t climaxing be a resolution? Yes, but there are different levels of resolution. If your goal is to give him head, then bobbing up and down on his dick is one resolution. If your goal is to make him cum that would be a different resolution. A resolution, for our purposes, is YOUR endpoint, your goal, not his.

For example, if your endpoint is kissing him deeply, then the “resolve” is a French kiss. The Tease, Lure, and Escalate would be whatever creative ways you come up with to enhance the anticipation before your tongue does its good and dastardly work.

Next week in our blog series installment, we’ll take a look at another example of The Peacock Technique: The Sloppy Diamond.

 

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How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 21

“Spitters Are Quitters”: The Case For Swallowing

What could be more intimate than sharing the “essence” of someone you love? Sex is about coming together, becoming one in an intensely pleasurable encounter. It’s about communion, merging, sharing. It’s an act of love. Swallowing is a way of showing how much you want him to be a part of you.

Some women are obsessed with swallowing because of the meaning they’ve ascribed to it. Some feel not just connected but “owned.” It can feel like the ultimate form of surrender—to have his seed ‘planted’ in you.

To others, it’s a kind of trophy they put on their psychic mantle. It isn’t about surrender but about conquest (“I made him cum and now I know what he tastes like”). And to others, it’s simply about feeling special—after all, how many other guys are walking around with his semen inside them? Wait, given the nature of most men, that’s probably not a good question to ask!

Here’s Mud In Yer Eye!

Watch your eyes! The average speed of a man’s ejaculation is 28 mph. Interestingly, that was Olympian Usain Bolt’s fastest run ever recorded. Meaning your guy’s jizz could win an Olympic gold!

The velocity of a man’s ejaculation is believed to give the semen a head start on its journey toward a woman’s egg since once it’s released, the sperm travels at a leisurely pace of 6 inches per hour.

Some historians point to intriguing evidence that some of the most ancient Christian sects, known as “Gnostic Christians” used semen as the sacramental wine of the communion. There are even more ancient rituals in which the ingestion of semen was considered the drinking of Life Itself. 

There is also a kind of spiritual dimension to sharing semen. A deep tongue kiss with jism in your mouths can “seal the bond” and springboard you into a deeper dimension of intimacy.

Of course, not everybody sees it that seriously. One friend says, “I love swallowing because it tickles as they wiggle going down.” 

Does Diet Affect The Taste Of Semen?

QUESTION:

Remember that famous scene in that early 2000’s classic comedy Sex & the City when Samantha complained that her new boyfriend had “funky-tasting spunk”? Well, I’m in the same pickle. I love swallowing semen but not when I have to choke it down like foul medicine. One weekend my boyfriend and I went away and I did all the cooking, preparing only the foods that are supposed to improve the taste of semen. The result? Awful. I found something I lost years ago—my gag reflex. Is there anything I can do to make his cum taste better?

—Hollerin’ about swallowin’ 

Dear Hollerin’:

Semen is produced in the reproductive tract, not in the digestive tract. Changing what you eat to improve the taste of your semen is a little like changing your toilet paper to improve the smell of your shit.

The prevailing thought by people WITHOUT medical degrees is that dairy products, which contain a high bacterial putrefaction level create the foulest taste. That and assparagus. And no that’s not something the spellchecker didn’t catch. I sexualize everything, including vegetables.

Here’s what I DO think has a chance of working: Water. Since urine and semen pass along the same tube, it makes sense that semen would be somewhat tainted by residual urine. If you drink a lot of water (and you should) your pee will be crystal clear and less likely to skank up the slank.

Dark, highly concentrated urine, on the other hand, is likely to put the funk in the spunk. It doesn’t matter what foods you eat, your urine will be dark if you don’t drink enough water. So stick a hose down his throat and turn the faucet on before he sticks his hose down yours and turns your stomach sour.

Final Thoughts About The Big Gulp

The vast majority of men want to see you swallow their load, but you are not obligated to do it. I typically categorize swallowing under the tension every couple struggles with in balancing the need to respect boundaries against the expectation of adventure. These imperatives often come up against each other and it’s up to each individual couple to negotiate things out to their satisfaction. Personally, I think you should only do it if you think it’s going to advance your sexual gratification.

Of course, the only way you’re going to find out is to try it. But beware of this business of “I’ll try everything once. ” It’s bullshit, at least when it comes to sex. My philosophy is to try everything three times. The first time you’ll get it wrong, the second time it’ll feel strange and the third time it might feel nice.

“There’s something really sexy about making your partner writhe and moan and feel good. I’ve never had an issue with any smells, tastes or anything like that. Semen isn’t the most pleasant thing I’ve ever had in my mouth, but as long as I swallow it pretty quickly it isn’t an issue.”

—K.

If you’re determined not to swallow, don’t worry. It’s fairly easy to avoid because most men give you clear signals when they’re close to ejaculating. Their cock becomes harder, their breath quickens and their thrusts become faster. And most will tell you that they’re getting close.

For heaven’s sake, do not, under any circumstances, simply stop what you’re doing because you’re afraid that he might cum in your mouth. Imagine how you’d feel if the guy stopped sucking just when you began to orgasm? You’d be like, “Say hi to the curb for me!”

If you feel him getting close to climaxing, pull your mouth off and keep stroking him with your hand until he comes. You won’t get the silver or the gold, but hey, bronze is a medal!

If you can’t read the signals (some guys are remarkably calm when they ejaculate) or he stays silent, you can still avoid it by being clear upfront. Tell him that you don’t want him to cum in your mouth and to warn you when he’s getting close.

Why Does Semen Go From White To Clear In Minutes?

There’s a wide variety of consistency and viscosity in semen, but for the most part, it comes out white and then turns clear. Here’s why: The two glands that make up most of the liquid in semen are at odds with each other. The seminal vesicle contains sugars and proteins that cause semen to coagulate, turning it white. But fluid from the prostate gland contains enzymes that break down that coagulation. So basically, his ejaculate doesn’t know whether it’s coming or going. So it does both. It coagulates as soon as it leaves his penis, then immediately goes into “liquefaction.”

If you have to take one for the team (either by accident or because you simply want to please him) it’s best to look on the bright side of having to swallow or receive a facial: 

1. It’s usually a small amount to have to deal with.
2. Semen is loaded with proteins, nutrients and few calories.

And if it does end up in your mouth, just spit it out on a towel or the sink without judgment. Don’t make a face like the cat just died, or spit it out like it’s poison or reenact the Death Scene From Camille. You’ll just make your guy think you don’t like him very much.

Okay, everything we’ve talked about so far is going to make you a competent partner, but if you really want to be a sublime lover you need to make him forget the universe exists outside of your lips and tongue. And that can only be done with an approach I’ll describe in the next blog installment.

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How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 20

Spit, Swallow, Or Cry?

 

“I have no problem with giving a blowjob until my job makes him blow,” a friend once confessed to me. Semen is indeed an acquired taste, whether it’s sliding down your throat or splattering against your face. Some guys are born with a love for its taste and texture, while many others bemoan the messiness.

Like alcohol or caviar, the macho gazpacho rarely tastes good the first time you swallow it, but like many things in life what starts out as an abhorrence becomes an obsession.

“Anyone who tries coffee or red wine for the first time discovers that it is an acquired taste. But over time as the beverages are associated with a stimulating lift or a pleasant buzz, one enjoys the taste more and more.

Eventually, one starts to crave it. Likewise, while I didn’t enjoy my first gulp of semen, over time I associated it with my lover’s joy and adoration, as well as my own arousal and orgasm.

Eventually, like Pavlov’s dog salivating at the sound of a bell, the smell, taste and texture of semen became something that I actually enjoyed…to the point of actually craving it.”

—V. in Quora.com

I Scream, You Scream, We All Scream
For Mancream.

Whether you like the taste, texture, look, and smell of semen depends on how you interpret its release. If you ascribe no other meaning to it than a simple biological process—like peeing—then you are going to like it about as much as you like masturbating with a cheese grater. The bleachy smell, the oysters-going-down-your-throat feel, and the knowledge that it came from deep inside your partner’s body will probably make you blanch.

But if you perceive semen as an elixir of masculinity, the very embodiment of your man’s essence, a symbol of the sacred fire burning within him, then you’re going to be turned on by swallowing it or feeling it on your skin. You’re going to experience it as a form of taking communion. Life-giving communion, actually. After all, it’s filled with millions of sperm that in another time and place (your vagina) would produce life.

“For me, the greater my love for the man, the greater my fascination with his cum. Now I love to smell it and lick the little droplets of pre-cum off the tip of his cock. I love the feeling of accepting his ‘offering’ to me like a reward for my efforts when he finally cums.”

—A. in www.literotica.com

Milking It For All It’s Worth

What’s in the milky white stuff anyway? For the most part, semen is made of sugar, water, enzymes, protein, zinc and citric, and ascorbic acid (Vitamin C). There’s not enough of anything in it to cause harm or good. Here’s the breakdown:

• Only 2% of semen is actually made up of sperm (that’s why men don’t notice any difference in semen volume after they get vasectomies).
• The average man ejaculates about a teaspoonful or two of semen
• The average ejaculation has 12 calories.
• There is enough sperm in pre-ejaculate to impregnate women. That’s why “pulling out” just before you ejaculate doesn’t always work.

 

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How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 19

Dealing With Difficult Penises

If your man’s penis has more curves than a Coke bottle it may simply be impossible to get it in your mouth beyond an inch or two. While you should make a good-faith attempt to let his penis reach your throat, if you’re unable to do so then it’s clutch time for the tongue and lips.

It’s easier to explore and stimulate all parts of a curved penis with these two parts of the mouth, so send them into overdrive licking the head or massaging the shaft with your lips. Fit as much of the penis into your mouth as you can, and grip with your lips while letting your tongue go wild.

You’re far more likely to brush your teeth against a curved penis than a penis that sticks to the middle of the road. Be conscious of that, especially during back-and-forth strokes.

Dealing With A Piercing?

Grab it with your teeth and gently—gently!—tug it up and down, left to right and in circles. Ask your partner what feels good. Believe me, he knows. He’s been playing with it a lot longer than you have.

Have you ever had metal clang against your teeth? Not a good feeling. It’s right up there with lightning strikes. Best to slow down the pace of your blowjob, using longer, more concentrated strokes. Take your time learning how the metal feels in your mouth, and soon it will be as normal as a standard blowjob.

And while you can develop into someone who can deep throat a Prince Albert, most guys with genital piercings aren’t expecting you to take it all. Hell, nobody expects a sword-swallower to inhale the rod if there’s a tennis ball attached to it.

Now that we’ve gone over most of the basic techniques about using your mouth as a living sex toy, I want to share a secret about men you might not know:

It’s Hard For A Man To Orgasm With A Mouth-Only Blowjob

While every guy is different, many men find it hardest to cum while getting a blowjob compared to other forms of sex. For starters, most guys aren’t great at giving head (but not you—not after reading this book!).

But it’s mostly because a blowjob wrests power away from a man in a way that other sexual acts don’t. A guy has the most control when he uses his hand to pleasure himself. He can regulate the tempo and pressure of his strokes and time his ejaculation to occur with his most lustful thoughts. But he relinquishes all control during a blowjob. It’s YOU that determines the speed, pressure, rhythm, wetness, and friction. And unless you know your man really well, you’re basically guessing at what will bring him to orgasm.

In addition, mouths don’t cover as much surface area of the penis as his hand or your vagina or anus. The vagina and anus submerge the entire penis in warm, wet, and gripping flesh, stimulating thousands of nerve endings simultaneously.

The bottom line is that a man needs a certain level of pressure, force, and rhythm exerted on his penis that is almost impossible to attain with a mouth alone. If you’ve ever witnessed a guy getting close to orgasm through masturbation you’ll note how much stronger his grip gets and how much faster his strokes become. Once he reaches the point of “ejaculatory inevitability” the hounds are released and everything goes into overdrive. Again, this is almost impossible for a mouth to emulate. Fortunately, you have a body part that can lend you a hand.

All Hands on Deck

Your hands can form a tighter grip than your mouth and expand the contact surface on the penis. Think of them as an extension of your mouth, or at the very least, partners in pleasure. The hands create the pressure, friction, and rhythm while the mouth and tongue provide the heat, moisture, and lubrication. It’s a partnership made in heaven.

There are lots of variations to hand-and-mouth blowjobs but if you master this particular one, everything else will fall into place. Do what I asked you to do earlier in this chapter: Make a fist and punch yourself in the chest. Your knuckles should be touching your chest, with your thumb facing toward you. That’s your starting position. With your hand in that position, twist/stroke on the way down and stroke/twist on the way up. You’re basically doing a corkscrew motion as you wet him with a constant stream of saliva.

Start slowly and gradually speed up while simultaneously gripping your hand tighter. As you reach the base start pooling saliva at the bottom of your mouth (visualize lemons, etc.) and as you get to the top of his head, lift your mouth completely off it and swiftly let the saliva spill on the top of his head as your hand corkscrews down toward the base and your wet mouth joins it. Congratulations, you’ve just lubricated his dick so that the corkscrew motion of your hands will feel even sexier.

What Speed Should You Use?

There’s no one right speed. It all depends on the man and the mood. However, there is one general rule that applies to almost everyone almost all the time: Start slowly and gradually build up speed.

STOP!
CHECK-IN WITH YOURSELF AGAIN

The guest at the party seems to be having a great time but what about the host? How are you doing? Did you remember to ask yourself those all-important questions—How can I get more physical pleasure out of what I’m doing? How can I make my body feel better? How can I enhance the physical sensations I’m experiencing? What can HE do to make it more stimulating for me?

Is he too passive? Ask him to be more active. Is he too silent? Tell him to vocalize his feelings. Would stimulating your dick help? Try it. What if he stimulated your dick? Ask him. Again, he may be the guest of honor but there is no point in throwing a party if the host isn’t going to have a good time.

How much speed you build up depends on what your partner enjoys. How do you find out? Ask him! Or watch him as he masturbates and take mental notes of his style. Once you understand how different speeds affect your partner’s experience you’ll be able to figure out which speed is appropriate for each stage of your encounter. 

Go Gradually Faster & Gradually Slower.

You can spice up a blowjob by suddenly changing up the speed of your bobs and strokes, but don’t use a “Stop/Start” technique too much because frequently changing your thrusting pace is likely to throw off your partner’s rhythm. Fluidity and flow are your goals, not any preconceived notions of the “right” speed or depth.

Your partner isn’t going to be an innocent bystander in the proceedings. If he’s any good (God willing) he will not just simply lay there like a crash test dummy that just had a big helping of wall. He’ll change positions, move you around and be an active receiver. If he doesn’t, and you think it will turn you on (trust me, it will) ask him to be more active. For example, he could prop you up against the headboard and “feed you” his cock. Then, you could pleasure yourself as you feel his strength and hardness moving gently in and out of your mouth. Prioritize your pleasure and I promise it will increase his own.

Taking It To Pound Town.

Generally speaking, you can bring a guy to climax with faster strokes than slower ones. This is because almost all males like an increase in speed and pressure as they approach orgasm. Watch him masturbate and you’ll see what I mean. As he gets closer to the detonation, his grip strengthens and his strokes quicken. And, if he’s like most men, he’ll orgasm looking like Jerry Lewis being electrocuted.

The Unforgiveable Sin: Changing The Stroking Pattern When He’s Close To Coming.

Whatever you’re doing the instant you sense that he’s going to come is what you should keep doing until he completely ejaculates. Now is not the time to try a different position or change the depth or speed of your strokes. The reason is simple: Never interrupt the momentum. Ever notice that during masturbation men don’t change their stroking pattern as they near the point of no return? They might grip it with more pressure and increase the speed but they don’t fundamentally change the stroke, say from tight and fast to loose and slow. Keep that in mind as you’re blowing him. If he’s showing signs of an approaching eruption while you’re pumping him slow and deep, continue pumping him slow and deep. Do not fundamentally change your stroking pattern unless he says, as many men do, “Faster! Harder!

At that point you have a wet, and may I add, sticky decision to make: Spit or swallow.  Stay tuned for our next installment in the series.

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How To Give The Best Blow Job Part 18

Look In His Eyes. In sex, eyes aren’t just the window to his soul; they’re the portal to his lust, so look into his eyes when you’re going down on him. The sexual charge takes the excitement to another level. Why? Because in his mind, you’re not just sucking a cock, you’re sucking his cock. It makes him feel special like you don’t want to taste just anybody’s cock, only his. This, of course, is a complete lie, but every good encounter requires fundamental acting skills.

While making him feel more special is a noble gesture on your part there is actually a far better reason to look in his eyes when your mouth is full of him—it will turn YOU on:

“I love the visual aspect of a cock disappearing into a willing mouth…and sometimes I envy the man because he gets to look down at his cock moving in and out between loving lips of a wanting woman. So, because I cannot see it from where I am…up close to all the action…I imagine how it must look to the man I am sucking…seeing it from his point of view. That turns me on BIGTIME!! I love when a man tells his man to “look up” at him while he sucks him…and I imagine that sight from his perspective.

Eye contact is so important for me during sex. Eyes are windows to the soul…so to look into them means to see more than just a cock…or a man …but instead to see right through to what makes them who they are. That is something I find incredibly attractive when I am in love. I want to see inside the man, which allows me access to even his deepest, darkest secrets and desires. When I look up into a man’s eyes as I suck his cock, my heart beats even faster and harder, making me hornier and wetter. To see a man’s eyes reflecting the emotions he is feeling…the amazing sight he is seeing…the sensations he is experiencing…THAT stays with me and affects my every thought of him from that moment on.”

—From Literotica.com

Make It Sound Like There’s A Half-Off Sale At The Liposuction Center

“Sex sounds” will make your head sessions feel like a manned moon shot. Along with talking dirty, the natural sounds of a wet mouth on a hard cock are especially appealing to men because it adds another dimension to the experience. Especially if you’re in a position where he can’t see you. What he lacks in visuals you’ll more than make up with sounds.

Try an experiment on your partner: Have him turn his back to you while you pull up a porn video with a fantastic oral sex scene. Turn the volume up. The squelching sounds of hands and a saliva-covered mouth rubbing over a pulsing hard cock will bring him to his knees (and hopefully you too!).

Why are sex sounds such a turn-on? Because they amplify what you’re seeing and feeling. It’s easy to see why ambient sounds are important—because they can create emotions. For example, imagine making love in a room next to a construction site with all kinds of noise pollution—beeping backup trucks, jackhammers on concrete and strange men yelling at each other. Not terribly conducive to love-making.

Now pretend the room is outside a deserted beach with waves lapping at the shore. Big difference, no? Sounds don’t just create an emotional state, they also give context to what you’re doing. Ever driven an all-electric car? There’s almost no sound from the engine. It’s a little unsettling. Whether it’s an electric vehicle or a hot man, you do NOT want to be in a position of wondering whether you’ve turned them on!

Prick His Pressure Point

You’re kneeling between his legs. You spread his legs apart but with his knees bent toward his chest. You hold his dick in your wet mouth, bobbing gently while your hands find the middle of his hamstring muscles. Gently press one or two fingers into each hamstring (no nails please). Move your fingers a little to the left or right and press (trigger point locations differ slightly). Press gently at first and then with increasing pressure (but never enough to hurt). It’s an incredible sensation.

Freshen Him Up With A Crescendo

 This is actually best done before you start giving him head, as a gentle way to heat him up, but it’s also a way to introduce variety in the middle of things. Lightly brush your hair against his body. It’ll feel like feathers. Start with the chest and work your way down to his crotch. Then go down the side of his thighs, even to his calves. Work your way up to his crotch again. Dangle dangle on his dingle dangle.

Externally Stimulate His Prostate

Wait, how can you stimulate the prostate without inserting a finger into his anus? Because the prostate lays just inside the “taint.” It’s fairly easy to locate because an erection causes the prostate gland to swell to the size of a walnut. Gently reach underneath his scrotum and hold his testicles up. Using a well-lubricated hand (spit is okay, lube is better), gently run your fingers between half an inch and an inch behind the scrotum. You should be about halfway between the back of the scrotum and the anus at this point. The prostate will be about one inch below the rectum towards the scrotum.

As you stroke his penis (or keep it in your mouth), gently massage two fingers into the area. Try to move your fingers down and back, toward his tailbone. You will begin to feel a soft, but firm, spot. This is the prostate gland.

The prostate gland becomes very sensitive when a man is sexually aroused. It has a circular feedback loop: When he gets hard, the prostate swells up. Stimulate the prostate and you make his erection harder. Once he begins to orgasm, apply some pressure on the prostate and he will cum harder and with more volume.

And then you will have the keys to his kingdom.

 

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How To Give The Best Blow Job Part 17

STOP! CHECK-IN WITH YOURSELF.

We’ve talked a lot about using techniques to further his pleasure but what about yours? Remember, this blowjob is for you as much as it is for him. Throughout a blowjob session, you should be asking yourself questions like, “How can I make this feel better for myself? How can I enhance the physical sensations I’m experiencing? What can I do that will turn me on more?” Actually, the most important question you can ask yourself is, “What can HE do that will give me more pleasure?”

These are not rhetorical questions—you need to answer them. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking his penis out of your mouth so you can look at it up close and admire it. As a co-pleasuring activity, you have the right to ask him to do what pleasures you. Would it be hotter for you if he gently moved his manhood in and out of your mouth? Then ask him to. Would it make you wetter if he talked dirty to you? Ask him to.

Don’t know what arouses you? Make it up. Give yourself a pretend answer. You’ll be amazed at how accurate you’ll be. Pretending gives honesty permission to come out and play. If that doesn’t help, try “what iffing” it. For example, you could say, “I don’t know what would make this better, but what if I asked him to take more control of me?” Or “I don’t know what would turn me on more, but what if he moved his pelvis more rhythmically?” Or think about a guy you consider sexy and ask yourself, “What would he ask for?”

Our goal isn’t to get you to endure a blowjob session. It isn’t to white-knuckle your way until his climax. It’s to enjoy the experience as much or more than he does! Remember, he may be the honored guest but you’re the one throwing the party.

More Techniques

Move Your Head Back And Forth

 You’ll be adding a horizontal motion to go with your vertical up-and-downs. Delicious! 

Take It Out Of Your Mouth Completely

 It’s important to regularly take your partner’s dick out of your mouth and lick it a few times before putting it back in. Why? Because the temperature and moisture difference between being in and out of your mouth creates a series of hot/cold sensations that amplify his pleasure. More importantly, you’ll rack up more pleasure points for yourself. Taking it in and out of your mouth will allow you to more fully experience his strength, length and “roundth.”

Keep It Moving

Don’t stay in one spot doing just one thing. If it’s monotonous for both of you the pleasure starts decaying. When a guy goes down on you properly, he’s kissing and licking you all over, not just concentrating on one spot.  Suck the head, lick the shaft, kiss his balls, keep changing the pattern. Except when he’s just about to orgasm. There is such a thing as momentum during sex and you never want to ruin the ‘mo!

“The act of giving head is awesome. I even love watching myself give head. Makes me feel sexy as hell. And plus, the vast majority of guys love receiving blowjobs, so knowing that I’m doing something I’m baller at that my partner loves is just fantastic.”

—J.

Nail It In

Here’s a great sensation for your partner: Run your fingernails lightly along his shaft, balls and perineum. Did I say “lightly?” Because I meant LIGHTLY! Done right, it’s a deliciously subtle way to make him squirm.

Befriend The Balls

 So many people let the balls dangle all alone during oral sex, neglected and unstimulated. Sad! Licking and fondling your man’s balls throughout a blowjob increases his arousal and pleasure, especially if you tickle the seam that runs along the middle of the scrotum. It’s a sensitive hotspot known as the perineal raphe.

The balls are also a great odometer for how many miles you have left before your man ejaculates, as the scrotum will rise and contract the closer a guy is to climax. On the flip side, if you’d like to prolong the blowjob and prevent your man from coming, ease off on what you’re doing and tug on the bottom of the scrotum to lower it away from his body. You’ll find more on pleasuring “the boys” in the next chapter.

Talk Dirty

Sex is terrific with taste, touch, sight, and smell, but talk brings it all together. A four-cylinder engine will take you where you want to go but adding a fifth will get you there quicker and the ride will be more memorable.

Passionate sex is about creating and releasing energy. Talking is energy—in the form of noise vibrating in distinct patterns and pitches. You don’t just hear sound, you feel it. There’s scientific backing for this. Speaking or hearing sexually charged words is known to spike dopamine transmissions in brain chemistry, triggering sexual excitement. 

Erotic talking is a release of pent-up energy. It gives voice to our innermost desires in ways that our bodies can’t. It creates energy not just by the physical vibration or your emotional intent, but by prompting your partner to respond. Energy feeds on energy. Every word you say builds a step your partner climbs up on. And everything he says builds a step for you to rise. Keep climbing. Heat rises. Sometimes words get in the way but other times they pave the way.

Tell him how much you love him, how much you want him, but mostly how much you want his (hopefully) big, thick cock going in and out of your mouth. Dirty talk can make some guys a little uncomfortable (you NASTY boy!) but it’s a huge turn-on for guys. If you love football imagine watching it without the sound. You’d cry. The game isn’t the same without hearing the play-by-play.

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How To Give The Best Blow Job Part 16

Techniques That’ll Make Him Flail Like A Deer Trapped In A Minivan 

Now, where were we before we took a detour to uncut dicks? Oh, yes, using your lips! Use them to apply more pressure in the bobbing up and down from head to base. You can also increase the pressure by elevating the tongue to reduce room in your mouth and doing a “swallowing” motion that squeezes the tip of his penis.

STELLAR TIP! Sniff And Lick His Armpits

“Eeew,” you might be thinking, but stay with me because you’re about to say, “Ahhhh.” This stellar tip is actually for you not him. Sniffing his armpits is highly likely to increase your libido, which will dramatically increase the pleasure you get out of giving oral.

How can that be? Neuroscientists at the University of California at Berkeley recently made a breakthrough discovery: Sniffing a compound of male sweat called androstadienone causes hormonal, physiological, and psychological changes in women that result in sexual arousal.

And hey, if it’s true for women you know it’s true for us gay men!  All of us have taken a whiff of manscent and ended up on the ceiling with all four claws dug in like Sylvester the cat.

Believe it or not, sweat is the main focus of research on human pheromones. For example, we’ve known for years that male underarm sweat improves women’s moods and affects their secretion of luteinizing hormone, which helps stimulate ovulation. Androstadienone is a derivative of testosterone that is found in all body secretions, but it is in especially high concentrations in male sweat. 

In the most recent trials, women were asked to take sniffs from a bottle containing androstadienone. Don’t worry, they didn’t gag. It smelled vaguely of musk. When compared to sniffing a control odor (yeast), the women who sniffed androstadienone reported significantly higher sexual arousal.

Researchers also noted an increased physiological response in women who sniffed the testosterone derivative. In other words, their blood pressure, heart rate, and breathing went up and stayed elevated for a full hour after the sniff test! The results of this study have been replicated numerous times.

YUM

So what does all this mean for you? If you want to raise your libido—and the pleasure you get out of giving him head—make sure you sniff and kiss his armpits. Don’t sniff when the smell is so bad it could peel the skin off a battleship. Do it when it smells good. Sweat is naturally odorless. It only begins to smell when bacteria that live on the skin digest sweat and excrete waste. That’s why sweat smells clean in the beginning and slowly turns into mustard gas. By the way, he doesn’t have to sweat enough to water a lawn; even a dab will do.

I’m not saying that sniffing his pits will immediately make you want to yell, “Take me like a vitamin!!” The effects are far more subtle. But the research is solid and beyond question: Smelling androstadienone will change your mood and increase your sexual arousal.

“I love it so much my boyfriend will be talking about something (non sexual) and I will just unzip his pants and go to town. Then he will be like umm, what was I saying? Sometimes he gets mad because he was talking. Hah.”

—M.

Stellar Tip! French Kiss His Glans

I want to let you in on a secret few know: French kissing the head of the penis will give your man one of the most intensely pleasurable sensations he can have during a blowjob. Just put the head of his penis in your mouth and pretend you’re French kissing his lips. Actually, there’s no pretending because there are a pair of lips on the top of his glans—they are labia-like formations that cover the opening to his urethra. Use the same tongue strokes and head rotations as if you were kissing his mouth. Mix in some puckered-lip smooches and I promise you he’ll be drenched in so much pleasure he’ll be, well, tongue-tied.

When I’ve instructed my friends to do it they each reported the same reaction—their partners either stopped the proceedings to ask “what the hell are you doing to make this feel so good!” Or they asked after the session was over. Here’s why it’s such a stunning sensation: When your tongue French kisses the head of the glans three things happen simultaneously—he feels the warm wetness of your mouth, the massaging action of your tongue and stimulation of an orifice most women ignore—the opening to his urethra.

This is your secret weapon, the technique few men have experienced. Do it and I promise he’s going to want you more than he wants his next breath.

Hum Like A Beehive

 It creates a vibration that adds a little step-shuffle-kick to great oral. Vibrations stiffen the penis. Why do you think so many men get horny during long drives? The car’s vibration stimulates the groin area and next thing you know, the cobra rises out of the basket.

Next week:  Even more techniques!

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How To Give The Best Blow Job Part 15

So far, we’ve taken your partner on a slow roll along a beautiful countryside in a vintage car. Now it’s time to kick the standoff the Harley, rev the engine and blow the carbon out. For that, we need to:

• Cover more area of the penis with your mouth.
• Use pressure and friction to stimulate the penis.
• Establish a rhythm and increase the speed to make the penis harder than the back of a bus stop bench.

Concentrate on giving the penis a full-length mouth massage. The objective here is to cover the entirety of his penis with your mouth (or as much as you can without gagging) while establishing a bobbing rhythm and increasing the pressure with your lips.

Flatten That Tongue

As your mouth descends on his hardness, flatten your tongue to provide fuller contact with the penis. It’s warmer, moister, and creates a better pressure seal. It also opens your vocal canal, allowing you to take more of your guy’s cock in your mouth. Remember: Grip with the Lips, and Flatten with the Tongue.

Your tongue should be in near-constant motion, massaging the underside of the shaft on downstrokes and circling the head on upstrokes.

Depending on the size of your partner’s penis (is it a taco? A burrito?) you’re going to gag sooner or later. The trick is to know when you’re getting close to your gag reflex and stopping before you get there. We’ll talk about getting rid of your gag reflex in a later chapter but for now, simply avoid the trigger spot. It isn’t pleasant for either of you. You’ll cough up a lung and he’ll have his pleasure interrupted. Nobody wins!

Speaking of nobody winning, let’s talk about teeth. Don’t. Ever. Do you know how a man spells “pain” when his partner uses teeth? IN ALL CAPS. 

Let’s Cut To The Uncut

A true paradox of the uncut penis is that the foreskin contains thousands of nerve endings that can drive a guy wild, yet it can prevent other parts of the penis from experiencing pleasure. You cannot give a proper blowjob to an uncircumcised man without pulling the foreskin back toward the base of the penis. If you suck an uncut penis without pulling the foreskin down, it leaves the head covered and neglected of most stimulation. It’s like oral dry-humping, and if you’ve learned anything in this book, it’s that “dry” is to a blowjob what “rough” is to cunnilingus—grounds for divorce.

Aside from not pulling the foreskin away from the head, the next most common mistake is yanking the foreskin toward the base. First, you shouldn’t be “yanking” anything near a man’s junk. Stimulating an uncut penis isn’t like playing the guitar—you don’t grab it by the neck and make it holler.

Rather, imagine “unrolling” the dick, slowly exposing the head. Gently tug the foreskin to the base of the penis but don’t keep it there. Stroke it back-and-forth and you’ll activate the nerve endings in the foreskin and the head of the penis. It’s a double shot of pleasure, as he’s going to feel your hand on his dick and a delicious sliding as the foreskin glides over the shaft and glans, alternately covering and exposing it.

“Blowjobs are part physical, part psychological. The real appeal doesn’t come from the physicality of it for me, but for the fact that I know the sight of me with my mouth wrapped around his dick is something he’ll have a mental snapshot of forever. Pretty sexy, right?”

—P.

Tug and Glide

Mastering the foreskin “tug and glide” is essential to unlocking your uncut guy’s orgasms. In order for your man to fully feel the moist wonders of your mouth, you must gently pull back the foreskin in a back-and-forth motion. Did I mention gently? Because I meant GENTLY!

Notice: Some uncircumcised guys have a lot of foreskin and others have very little. The less skin present, the more gentle you should be when pulling the foreskin toward the base of the penis, as it will cause a guy a lot of pain if you pull too tightly.

Generally, the more foreskin a guy has, the more you can “roughhouse” with the foreskin. Try using your lips to gently nibble on the hood of your man’s foreskin, tugging the skin toward your mouth. Directly or indirectly, he’ll let you know whether that is something he enjoys, and if it appears to bring him pleasure, work your way around the foreskin using the same soft “bites” with your lips. 

Some uncut guys also enjoy actual bites on the foreskin, but the possibility of your guy not liking it is great enough that you should either forget it or do it so softly that he doesn’t panic and lift your face off him.

When trying to understand how to pleasure foreskin, think of your nipples. Maybe you like your nipples licked and softly sucked, or perhaps you want a guy to gnaw on your tips like he’s trying to untie a knot with his teeth. Either way, it can be agonizing when a guy gets it wrong. The same is true with foreskin. Some dudes can’t stand any friction against it, while other guys don’t mind if you nibble it just a little bit.

Fabulous Tip For Men Who Have Tips!

Once the dick is hard, position your tongue along the shaft or head of the penis while you have the foreskin pulled back. Then release your tug and let the foreskin roll over your tongue. He’ll feel your warm wetness both on the underside of his foreskin and the surface of his penis. It’ll feel so good you’ll have him pronouncing all four “e’s” in shit.

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