How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 19
Dealing With Difficult Penises
If your man’s penis has more curves than a Coke bottle it may simply be impossible to get it in your mouth beyond an inch or two. While you should make a good-faith attempt to let his penis reach your throat, if you’re unable to do so then it’s clutch time for the tongue and lips.
It’s easier to explore and stimulate all parts of a curved penis with these two parts of the mouth, so send them into overdrive licking the head or massaging the shaft with your lips. Fit as much of the penis into your mouth as you can, and grip with your lips while letting your tongue go wild.
You’re far more likely to brush your teeth against a curved penis than a penis that sticks to the middle of the road. Be conscious of that, especially during back-and-forth strokes.
Dealing With A Piercing?
Grab it with your teeth and gently—gently!—tug it up and down, left to right and in circles. Ask your partner what feels good. Believe me, he knows. He’s been playing with it a lot longer than you have.
Have you ever had metal clang against your teeth? Not a good feeling. It’s right up there with lightning strikes. Best to slow down the pace of your blowjob, using longer, more concentrated strokes. Take your time learning how the metal feels in your mouth, and soon it will be as normal as a standard blowjob.
And while you can develop into someone who can deep throat a Prince Albert, most guys with genital piercings aren’t expecting you to take it all. Hell, nobody expects a sword-swallower to inhale the rod if there’s a tennis ball attached to it.
Now that we’ve gone over most of the basic techniques about using your mouth as a living sex toy, I want to share a secret about men you might not know:
It’s Hard For A Man To Orgasm With A Mouth-Only Blowjob
While every guy is different, many men find it hardest to cum while getting a blowjob compared to other forms of sex. For starters, most guys aren’t great at giving head (but not you—not after reading this book!).
But it’s mostly because a blowjob wrests power away from a man in a way that other sexual acts don’t. A guy has the most control when he uses his hand to pleasure himself. He can regulate the tempo and pressure of his strokes and time his ejaculation to occur with his most lustful thoughts. But he relinquishes all control during a blowjob. It’s YOU that determines the speed, pressure, rhythm, wetness, and friction. And unless you know your man really well, you’re basically guessing at what will bring him to orgasm.
In addition, mouths don’t cover as much surface area of the penis as his hand or your vagina or anus. The vagina and anus submerge the entire penis in warm, wet, and gripping flesh, stimulating thousands of nerve endings simultaneously.
The bottom line is that a man needs a certain level of pressure, force, and rhythm exerted on his penis that is almost impossible to attain with a mouth alone. If you’ve ever witnessed a guy getting close to orgasm through masturbation you’ll note how much stronger his grip gets and how much faster his strokes become. Once he reaches the point of “ejaculatory inevitability” the hounds are released and everything goes into overdrive. Again, this is almost impossible for a mouth to emulate. Fortunately, you have a body part that can lend you a hand.
All Hands on Deck
Your hands can form a tighter grip than your mouth and expand the contact surface on the penis. Think of them as an extension of your mouth, or at the very least, partners in pleasure. The hands create the pressure, friction, and rhythm while the mouth and tongue provide the heat, moisture, and lubrication. It’s a partnership made in heaven.
There are lots of variations to hand-and-mouth blowjobs but if you master this particular one, everything else will fall into place. Do what I asked you to do earlier in this chapter: Make a fist and punch yourself in the chest. Your knuckles should be touching your chest, with your thumb facing toward you. That’s your starting position. With your hand in that position, twist/stroke on the way down and stroke/twist on the way up. You’re basically doing a corkscrew motion as you wet him with a constant stream of saliva.
Start slowly and gradually speed up while simultaneously gripping your hand tighter. As you reach the base start pooling saliva at the bottom of your mouth (visualize lemons, etc.) and as you get to the top of his head, lift your mouth completely off it and swiftly let the saliva spill on the top of his head as your hand corkscrews down toward the base and your wet mouth joins it. Congratulations, you’ve just lubricated his dick so that the corkscrew motion of your hands will feel even sexier.
What Speed Should You Use?
There’s no one right speed. It all depends on the man and the mood. However, there is one general rule that applies to almost everyone almost all the time: Start slowly and gradually build up speed.
STOP!
CHECK-IN WITH YOURSELF AGAIN
The guest at the party seems to be having a great time but what about the host? How are you doing? Did you remember to ask yourself those all-important questions—How can I get more physical pleasure out of what I’m doing? How can I make my body feel better? How can I enhance the physical sensations I’m experiencing? What can HE do to make it more stimulating for me?
Is he too passive? Ask him to be more active. Is he too silent? Tell him to vocalize his feelings. Would stimulating your dick help? Try it. What if he stimulated your dick? Ask him. Again, he may be the guest of honor but there is no point in throwing a party if the host isn’t going to have a good time.
How much speed you build up depends on what your partner enjoys. How do you find out? Ask him! Or watch him as he masturbates and take mental notes of his style. Once you understand how different speeds affect your partner’s experience you’ll be able to figure out which speed is appropriate for each stage of your encounter.
Go Gradually Faster & Gradually Slower.
You can spice up a blowjob by suddenly changing up the speed of your bobs and strokes, but don’t use a “Stop/Start” technique too much because frequently changing your thrusting pace is likely to throw off your partner’s rhythm. Fluidity and flow are your goals, not any preconceived notions of the “right” speed or depth.
Your partner isn’t going to be an innocent bystander in the proceedings. If he’s any good (God willing) he will not just simply lay there like a crash test dummy that just had a big helping of wall. He’ll change positions, move you around and be an active receiver. If he doesn’t, and you think it will turn you on (trust me, it will) ask him to be more active. For example, he could prop you up against the headboard and “feed you” his cock. Then, you could pleasure yourself as you feel his strength and hardness moving gently in and out of your mouth. Prioritize your pleasure and I promise it will increase his own.
Taking It To Pound Town.
Generally speaking, you can bring a guy to climax with faster strokes than slower ones. This is because almost all males like an increase in speed and pressure as they approach orgasm. Watch him masturbate and you’ll see what I mean. As he gets closer to the detonation, his grip strengthens and his strokes quicken. And, if he’s like most men, he’ll orgasm looking like Jerry Lewis being electrocuted.
The Unforgiveable Sin: Changing The Stroking Pattern When He’s Close To Coming.
Whatever you’re doing the instant you sense that he’s going to come is what you should keep doing until he completely ejaculates. Now is not the time to try a different position or change the depth or speed of your strokes. The reason is simple: Never interrupt the momentum. Ever notice that during masturbation men don’t change their stroking pattern as they near the point of no return? They might grip it with more pressure and increase the speed but they don’t fundamentally change the stroke, say from tight and fast to loose and slow. Keep that in mind as you’re blowing him. If he’s showing signs of an approaching eruption while you’re pumping him slow and deep, continue pumping him slow and deep. Do not fundamentally change your stroking pattern unless he says, as many men do, “Faster! Harder!
At that point you have a wet, and may I add, sticky decision to make: Spit or swallow. Stay tuned for our next installment in the series.