How Long To Wait Before You Make The First Call

 

We’ve all been there. You meet a man, score his phone number and wrestled with dating’s original question: How long do you wait before you call him?

There really is a golden rule but the rule, properly applied, will result in different answers. Let me explain.

Meeting a man at a Starbucks at four in the afternoon is different than meeting him at a club at two in the morning.  Meeting a man who’s hot for you is different than meeting one who’s lukewarm.  Shouldn’t there be different rules for different situations?

No.  There is one and only rule about the timing of a call.  And the rule is in the form of a question:

“What is most likely to increase the attraction?”

Sometimes calling RIGHT AWAY will increase the attraction because the connection is so strong that you don’t dare exercise patience.

But sometimes waiting a couple of days increases the attraction because one or both of you just aren’t that into it.  

If you still can’t figure it out, here’s the rule of thumb:  24 hours. 

Should You Leave A Voice Mail Or Call Back?

Voice mail.  Here’s the message you’re sending him if you keep calling:  “I have no idea what the difference is between harassment and persistence. It doesn’t bother me that you’re not returning my calls.  I’m too busy measuring your coffin to care.”

Wow, there’s somebody a guy wants to call back.

ALWAYS leave a message the first time you call.  If you’re too nervous and don’t know what to say, try this: 

“Hey, it’s (your name here}), call me. My number is…”

Keep it tight, keep it right.  The shortness, delivered in a friendly way, will stir his curiosity.

 

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