Long Distance Dating

This poignant letter from Chicago asks an important question:  What do you when you live in Boystown  and he doesn’t? I’m not talking about the possibility that he just lives a couple of Metro stops up, like in Andersonville, but a couple of states away. It’s time for a little Chicago gay dating advice!  Here’s his question:

 

I met the most wonderful, awesome, man I’ve ever known in my life on a gay dating app a little over a year ago and we’ve been in an LDR (Long Distance Relationship) ever since, hooking up at least every 3 to 4 weeks, taking short trips together, and spending many days & nights of pure euphoria and ecstasy together. I have not experienced such raw passion from another guy since my ex many years ago. At first I was totally infatuated with him, then obsessed, and now I am completely in love with him, and all of this was way beyond my control. Not only is he totally HOT but he has been so good to me it’s unbelievable. It is however, an uneven relationship. I’m in love, he is not, but I am so fortunate to have him in my life that I’ll accept him on any terms and I’d be a fool not to. We have agreed to be totally honest with each other and while I can’t even imagine getting physical with anyone else, with him it remains a possibility. And because we have no secrets, he’s told me that it’s happened once since we’ve known each other, with a “part time” boyfriend in another city.

His honesty overrides anything that might happen and just makes me love him more. I believe him and have no problem with it. I told him that I love him, don’t own him and possession and jealousy just aren’t part of that love. I just want what’s best for him, and of course for him to be careful.  Guess I’m just venting here because I have no intention or desire to change anything about our relationship, but I’m wondering if you have any thoughts about it. What kind of gay dating advice would you give me?  Thanks for “listening”.

 

I am going to answer this letter very soon but for now I want to know what you guys in Chicago think. Just put your answers in the comment section and  if they are particularly good I will use them in my own answer.