How To Raise Your Sex Drive Part 20
In our continuing series, we address what your partner can do to help your libido. So in this post, we are talking to HIM.
You’re showing agenda-free affection which has brought you physically closer. You’ve created a shame-free environment by reeling in questionable comments and introducing some manners to your media and porn habits. And with the intimacy-building exercises, you’ve created a deep sense of union and acceptance. He will be far more receptive to sex than he ’s ever been. Now follow through by…
Being His Idea Of A Good Lover, Not Yours
Now that we’ve laid the foundations for his libido to grow it’s time for you to seal the deal. If you want sex, better sex, hell, any sex, then you’re going to have to find ways to light him up like an all-night liquor store.
The first step is to pay attention to the environment and make sure you…
Don’t Kill The Mood You’re Trying To Get Him Into
You can’t get him in the mood with toenail clippings on the nightstand or a pile of shelled pistachios littering the kitchen counter. You can’t set a mood when your breath is so bad he can see the words float out of your mouth. You can’t set a mood when he’s exhausted and he can see dirty dishes in the sink that you could have taken care of. Exhaustion is one of the biggest reasons men decline sex.
If you want more sex do more housework.
When men help around the house their sex lives almost immediately improve. It isn’t just that the low libido partner has more energy for sex, it’s that their resentment at having to carry most of the burden melts away, releasing waves of respect and appreciation for their partners.
Don’t let the vacuum cleaner cock-block you. Roll it out of the closet so you can roll yourself into the bedroom.
Are You Helping Or Hurting?
There’s a pretty simple way of determining whether you’re warming the path to sex or blocking it with boulders. Look at yourself and your surroundings and ask, “Am I setting a mood or killing it?”
Once you get your self-sabotaging handled, your homework is to find out what turns him on and get good at doing it. If he’s read most of this book he should have done enough self-exploration that he can recite his sexual alphabet by memory. Your job is to get him to communicate it to you. You can help the process with…
The Foreplay Forum
Lay down in a naked embrace under the covers and take turns asking and answering the following questions:
“Nothing puts me in the mood more than when you….”
“I get really turned on when you….”
“I love it when you…”
“One thing we haven’t done that I’d love to try is….”
Foreplay Forums allow you to exchange sexual ideas in a judgment-free zone. The goal is to create a relaxed setting that melts inhibitions, collects valuable data, and introduces a bit of playfulness.