How To Meet Men
A Pocket Guide To Our 21-Day Plan
THE 21-DAY PLAN |
Activity |
Notes |
| PRELUDE | Important concepts:
Shagability is not a goal; he’s a portal. If he’s not looking it doesn’t mean he’s not interested. His level of attraction (or lack of) isn’t fixed. It can grow. Competence creates confidence; not the other way around. Your goal is to BE MORE TALKATIVE |
Visualize a portal whenever you see a guy you’re interested in.
Commit to the process; detach from the outcome. |
| DAY 1 | Say hello to strangers | |
| DAY 2 | Go out of your way to say hello to friends and acquaintances | |
| DAY 3 | Make small talk with people you usually only say hello to | |
| DAY 4 | Pay strangers a compliment | |
| DAY 5 | Important concept: The road to Unconscious Competence is through PRACTICE | Do not move on to the next exercise until you’ve mastered the one before it. |
| DAY 6 | Important Concepts:
Assuming Rapport: Talk as if you know him. Answering the two questions every guy has in a bar: Are you hitting on me? Tell him why you’re talking to him How long are you going to be? State a time constraint |
Example: “Settle a bet.”
Example: “I’ve gotta get back to my friends but before I do…” |
| DAY 7 | Memorize three openers and “open” your friends | Don’t forget! Continue doing the previous exercises. |
| DAY 8 | Open strangers you’re not attracted to. | |
| DAY 9 | Open friends and strangers with newly memorized openers | |
| DAY 10 | Important concept:
Social Proof–Always go out with friends. |
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| DAY 11 | Open guys with a low-level heat factor | |
| DAY 12 | Open guys with a high-level heat factor | |
| DAY 13 | Open guys who are radioactive | |
| DAY 14 | Important concept:
Demonstrating Value: Teach him something about himself. |
Make his night more interesting than before he met you. |
| DAY 15 | Demonstrate value on No-Wattage guys | |
| DAY 16 | Demonstrate value on Low-Wattage guys | |
| DAY 17 | Important concept:
Bridging from opener to value demonstration |
“Hey, before I go, I have to ask–why the ring on that finger?” |
| DAY 18 | Open Low Wattage guys, then segue to value demonstration | |
| DAY 19 | Open High Wattage guys, then segue to value demonstration | |
| DAY 20 | Important concept:
Multiple threads. High energy conversations ping-pong between different subjects. |
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| DAY 21 | Tune ups and troubleshooting:
Take a few steps back so you can jump further. |
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