How To Ask A Guy For His Phone Number

Welcome to our series on asking men for their phone number or email! Here is what we are going to cover in our series:

Factors That Influence A guy To Give Out his Number
Why You Should Ask For his Email Instead Of his Number
Examples Of How To Ask For his Email Address
What To Write In Your First Email To Him
The Ten Most Effective Ways To Get his Phone Number
How To Get A Stripper’s Phone Number
Should You Keep Talking After You Get his Number?
Don’t Ruin Your Chances: Avoid These Five Common Mistakes
How Long To Wait Before You Make The First Call
Should You Leave A Voice Mail Or Call Back?
What To Say On The First Call (Or Text)
How To Avoid Conversational Dead-Ends On The First Call

Asking for a man’s phone number is one of the most nerve-wracking things you can ever try. You get so wrapped up in the possibility of blowing it that you lose sight of why he’s talking to you in the first place–because he’s interested. Even if that interest is mild or ambiguous.

Desperate Much?

In the wake of all that anticipatory anxiety it’s easy to sound so desperate, meek or try-hard that you practically guarantee some form of rejection (like when he says, “Why don’t you give me your number instead?” or “I don’t give out my number to people I don’t know”).

We all know guys who are great with men. They’re confident, they’re experienced and they know just what to say. They’re so smooth they can drive a convertible through a car wash and not get wet. What’s their secret?

You’re about to find out. This series is a little different than what you may be used to, though. If you’re looking for a seduction guru who “cracked the code” and brags about how they can get a phone number in 3 minutes flat, go somewhere else. You’re not reading an autobiography; you’re reading a journalist’s investigation into the best ways to get a guy’s phone number so you can ask him out.

No Guru Zone

Typically, some self-styled “seduction guru” tells you that his technique, and only his technique, will work and that it will work under all circumstances with all men.

The problem with listening to any one expert is that you only get one perspective. And while these experts may be wildly successful, most of them are raging extroverts. What if you’re not?

I mean, it’s fine if you have the kind of personality that could talk to a wall and go home with its plaster, but most guys don’t have that kind of personality.

To combat the One Perspective/One Personality trap I interviewed many of the top seduction gurus as well as a wide variety of good-looking men who constantly get hit on. I also talked to respected psychologists in the field of persuasion and leading sales experts who know a thing or two about “Getting To Yes.”

The result is this: A “Best Practices” Guide to getting a man’s phone number. You will not be learning “my” techniques, but the techniques that players, men, psychologists and sales geniuses all agree have the best chance to land you a number. Whether you’re in a bar, restaurant, a park, hell, even an elevator.

By providing different perspectives and solid rationales from the fields of sales and persuasion, you’re going to find solutions that you’re more comfortable using, given that everyone has different personalities.

One last thing. This isn’t a guide to trick or manipulate men into doing something they may not want to do. After all, what good is tricking or pressuring a guy to give you his number if he has no intention of calling you back?

This is a manual that helps you connect with a man more fully so that he wants to give you his phone number and in turn, wants to pick up the phone when you call.

So make some space in your phone. By the time you finish reading this guide, you’re going to need it!

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