Our Series On Meeting Hotter Guys On The Apps
Gay online dating is a lot trickier than it seems. At first, you’re filled with the hope of a newborn fly in an all-you-can-eat restaurant—rubbing your pincers together at the looming buffet.
But after a while you realize that a lot of that delicious fruit you see on the table is actually made of wax. And those succulent cuts of meat are often a mirage. But you spin your web anyway and hope for the best. And then it seems the only thing that you attract are freaks, flakes and flamers.
Wasn’t online supposed to be your sexual savior? You’re dating salvation? What the hell happened?
Look at your profile. Most of the answer’s in there.
As a former advice columnist and a consultant for gay dating apps, I’ve seen thousands of people hook up, date or marry over the years. But I’ve also seen thousands fail and give up.
What separates the winners from the losers?
At first, I figured it could only be one thing: Their beauty. To prove it I looked at “exit interviews” (people telling us why they’ve left the site). I looked at the profiles of the guys who wrote, “I left because I met somebody on the site” and the profiles of guys who wrote, “I left because I got so few responses.”
Boy, was I wrong. There were just as many good-looking guys in the failure pool as there were average-looking guys in the successful pool.
After looking at thousands of profiles I can tell you the real reason why some guys succeed and some don’t. It isn’t their beauty; it’s the way they present themselves.
I’ve put everything I’ve learned as an advisor to gay dating sites into this ebook. I guarantee that if you follow my advice you’re going to improve the quality and quantity of hits you get. The secret to getting laid (with hotter guys–anybody can get laid if they lower their standards enough), getting a date or finding a husband online is to master three keys:
ATTRACTION
How to get high-quality guys to look at and respond to your profile.
RESPONSE
How to get the guys you hit on to respond to you.
MEET
How to ask for, set up and get a face-to-face (or face-to-something) meeting.
These are the three keys. Not by chance is this series of posts set up in exactly those areas: Attract, Response, Meet. Almost every post is set up in two sections: What to do if you’re on a hookup site vs a dating site. While there is a lot of overlap, the two often require different strategies.
Which brings me to a most salient point. Whether you’re online to get laid or get a date, this series assumes that YOU WANT TO DO IT WITH HOTTER GUYS. Everything in this ebook is geared to attracting a higher quality type of guy. If you just want to date or hookup with anybody that’s breathing you don’t need this series.
I say this because you’re going to read some eyebrow-raising stuff–things you don’t need to do if you just want to meet average or below average guys. But if you want to up the heat factor then follow my advice–it’s backed by a lot of research and observation.
Next week: The Secret to Posting Great Photos
Gay Dating Resources
Gay Dating Advice
Gay Texting Tips
Gay Body Language
How To Meet Guys