Guided Tour of A Painless Bottoming Session Part 5
HAMMERING IN A FEW CONCLUSIONS
Do you know why Steve’s first bottoming experience was so successful? He took control. Your success will depend on your willingness to take charge and clearly communicate what you need. Only you know what you need and if you don’t, you’re the only one who can find out.
The experience of bottoming is different for everyone. Some guys literally come within thirty seconds of being penetrated. Others can’t get hard, even when they’re enjoying it.
Some guys love missionary because they like the body heat and the feeling of submission that comes from being on the bottom. Others find it suffocating and prefer less confining positions.
Some guys like slow, deep thrusts, others like shallow, jackhammer thrusts. Everybody is different. Find out what you like, not what you’re supposed to like.
It may take you longer to prepare yourself for bottoming than it took Steve. The tightness of your sphincter, the shape, and elasticity of your rectum, and the shape, location, and severity of your S-curve will determine how long it will take to train your puborectal region to accept a hard penis.
Do not despair if it takes you longer than you had anticipated. It doesn’t mean you’ve failed; it means your puborectal region is built in a way that requires more training. This isn’t a race. Don’t let impatience rob you of a lifetime of great bottoming experiences.
A Few Last Tips
Use A Pillow Or Two Under Your Butt
It’ll change the angle, ease the strain on your lower back and make you more comfortable.
Try To Avoid Doggie Style At First
This position allows the maximum insertion of the penis into the rectum, which may be uncomfortable the first few times you bottom.
Expect Gas.
Any time air gets pushed into a small, enclosed area, it’s highly likely to create an unwanted sound. Don’t worry about it. If it happens, the only appropriate response is laughter.
A Penultimate Thought
Anal intercourse stimulates three areas: The prostate (“the male g-spot”), the nerve endings in the opening of the anus (the rectum itself has few nerve endings. It primarily transmits sensations of pressure.), and the “penile bulb” located at the base of the penis, just below the surface of the perineum.
Guys have different reactions to having these areas stimulated. Some, like Steve, have astonishingly pleasurable reactions, while others shrug it off with an “is-that-all-there-is?” dismissiveness.
Still, others simply don’t like any of the sensations. Where you fall in the spectrum of reactions is strictly a personal preference that you should not judge. Don’t feel like there’s something wrong with you if you didn’t experience the earth move under your feet. Lots of guys try pain-free bottoming and don’t like it.
Still, I’d like you to consider a core philosophy I have about sex: Never try anything once. Try it three times. The first time you’ll get it wrong. The second time will be awkward. The third time you’ll fully experience it.
If you were underwhelmed with your first time bottoming, don’t worry about it. You’ve got two more times to go!