Guided Tour of A Painless Bottoming Session Part 1
“Adam and Steve” first contacted me through social media. Would I be willing to coach them through a successful session of anal sex? After dating a few months, Steve wanted to bottom for Adam but they gave up after several painful attempts. Then they decided to use my book as their guide—and asked me to augment it with coaching.
They set a date for what Steve called their “Blastoff” (the day they’d attempt intercourse) and got to work. What follows is a description of their experience, with me adding background and comments.
Three Weeks Before Adam & Steve’s Blastoff
Action: Sign a “No Pain” contract.
Background
Steve admitted he was paralyzed with “anticipatory pain” and understood he had to guarantee himself a pain-free experience. He signed a No Pain contract and adopted my motto: No Pain, No Way, No How.
Steve’s Reaction
“At first, I felt like an idiot signing the contract in the book. I just thought it was a cheesy attempt to make a point, but I have to admit I felt an enormous burden off my shoulders…and my ass! I came to see the signed contract as a promise to myself. Complying with the contractual terms was really about keeping my word and I felt at the very least I owed myself that.
Also, I was determined not to pay the author a dime for breaking the contract!”
Action: Take Fiber Supplements
Background
Steve increased his fiber intake through diet, but it didn’t seem to help (his butt was dirtier than he felt comfortable with) so he decided to take supplements.
Steve’s Reaction
“It worked! After about a week I saw a significant improvement in my cleanliness down there.”
Action: Do Kegel Exercises
Background
Kegel exercises are not strictly necessary for painless bottoming but I told Steve strengthening the musculature of the entire puborectal region will significantly accelerate his progress.
Steve’s Reaction
“I did them religiously like twice a day. One thing I noticed after a couple of weeks is that I was cumming more and shooting farther so that was a great bonus.”
Action: Inserting Fingers Correctly
Background
This is where Steve does all the exercises in Chapter Four. He learns how to relax his sphincter onto his finger (rather than inserting his finger into his anus).
Steve’s Reaction
“At first, I could barely draw in 1/8 of an inch of my finger, but I didn’t get frustrated because I knew this was a marathon, not a sprint. At least the 1/8 of an inch went in without pain!
I was fascinated by the difference between a) inserting my finger into my ass and b) letting my sphincter relax onto it. It wasn’t long before I could get my whole finger in there with no problem.”
Two Weeks Before Adam & Steve’s Blastoff
Action: Continues Fiber Supplements
Action: Continues Kegels
Action: Insert A Butt Plug Correctly
Background
Steve replaces his finger with a sex toy. While most guys only need to buy a toy around five inches in length (the average size of a man’s penis), Steve’s partner, Adam, is bigger than average so he buys one closer to his size.
Steve’s Reaction
“I kept to the letter of my No Pain contract—I inserted the sex toy slowly and if I got even a hint of pain I backed off. Also, I’m cheap and I didn’t want to Venmo the author $9.99 every time I squealed like a schoolgirl. It was slow progress but painless progress.
Whenever I inserted the sex toy further I made a conscious distinction between pain and unfamiliarity. If the sensation was more like pain I backed off. If the sensation was just unfamiliar, I stayed where I was, waited for the unfamiliar to become familiar, and moved on.
It took about 10 days of daily practice but I was able draw in the sex toy completely. I was flooded with hope because that toy was about the size of Adam’s dick and it didn’t hurt to have the whole thing in my butt. I was so ready for the real thing!”
Stay tuned next week to see Adam and Steve use the :60 Sphincter Release!