Combining Blowjobs With Prostate Massage Part 1
If you want your partner to experience a seismic orgasm that would register on a Pacific Rim Richter scale, then massage his prostate while you’re blowing him. This, of course, would require you to penetrate his rectum with a lubed-up finger and stimulate his prostate gland.
There’s just one problem if your dude is Mr. Macho Top. He will most likely perceive you finger-banging his bum as a violation of his masculinity. What’s next? he’ll ask. Designing the Macy’s Christmas window? Figure skating? Cock-flavored lollipops? We’ll talk about the best way of convincing him later. First, as every gay man likes to say when he’s in a tight spot, “Let me back up.”
Let’s talk a little more about the prostate. It’s a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and the penis (just in front of the rectum). It produces fluid that nourishes and protects sperm. During orgasm, it squeezes this fluid into the urethra where it mixes with sperm and comes out as that whitish semen many of us think of as the nectar of the Gods.
Obviously, the prostate is crucial to a male’s experience of orgasm. You constantly experience “ejaculatory inevitability”—the point when you’re about to come and you feel it deep inside before anything comes out. The vas deferens, seminal vesicles, and the prostate generate that feeling.
If the prostate plays such a critical part of a man’s orgasm, it makes sense that stimulating it is going to dramatically heighten the pleasure of an orgasm. Being anally penetrated doesn’t say anything about your masculinity. It simply means you discovered a way to make your orgasms more pleasurable.
Dorothy, You’re Not In Ken’s Ass Anymore
Stimulating the prostate in just the right way can create enormous sexual excitement. In some men, simply stroking the prostate can make them spontaneously orgasm.
The biggest obstacle to massaging the prostate is getting past the two sets of sphincter muscles that guard the goods inside.
Everybody Has Two Sets of Sphincter Muscles.
The two sphincters sets are distinct but overlapping bands of muscle tissue. And while they serve the exact same function (regulating grand openings and final close-outs) they go about it in different ways. You are most familiar with the external sphincter because you can order it to tighten and release. Here, try it. Squinch your starfish by using the muscles to stop yourself from peeing. Got it? Tighten, release, tighten, release. Now, this time with feeling! Tighten, release! Tighten, release!
Now do five fast tightens. Get it? You can boss that part of your butt around. Feel like taking a crap but there’s no bathroom around? No problem. You can will your external sphincter not to open. At least for a while.
But the internal sphincter? You can’t tell it to do shit. And I mean that in every sense of the word. You are not its boss. Like your blood pressure and heartbeat, you cannot directly control it.
Do this: Put your hands in front of you as if you’re praying. Now intertwine your fingers down to the webbing and press your palms together as tight as you can. Now keep everything connected and completely relax both hands. Notice the small opening between the side of your thumb and your index finger? This is the opening to your anus. If somebody tried to poke their finger through that opening it would feel snug but it’d go in pretty easy.
Now tighten both hands as hard as you can. The left hand is the internal sphincter you cannot directly control. The right hand is the external sphincter you can. Keeping the left hand tight as a drum, completely relax your right hand. Your right hand (external sphincter) is relaxed so a slight opening was created. But your left hand (internal sphincter) is so tight that it won’t let a poking finger through very easily.
Welcome to anal play’s first dilemma: The left hand doesn’t know what the right hand is doing. Or more accurately, the left hand doesn’t care what the right hand is doing. The internal and external sphincter can and often do work independently of each other. In order to make penetration smooth and effortless both sphincters have to get on the same page.
Next in Part 2 of our series: Techniques!