How To Deal With A Low Sex Drive Part 2
How To Increase Your Sensual Potential.
Be brutal about your pleasure. If something is not making you happy toss it out. If you open those drawers and those panties don’t make you smile, get rid of them. Edit things out of your life that aren’t sensually appealing. And make sure you never throw something out without replacing it.
Train yourself to stop whatever you’re doing and ask, “How can I get more physical pleasure out of what I’m doing?” If you’re reading a book, put it down for a second, and add some ambiance by lighting a candle. If you’re tired of walking into a room that depresses you, buy flowers. In fact, get a flower budget. The colors and fragrance will completely change your experience of the room. Don’t wait for guys to buy you flowers. They only do it when they want something or have done something.
Insist on sensation. Demand on delight. Be merciless. Take your clothes as an example. Do they pull where they should lay? Sag where they should hold you up? Are they itchy? Do they make you feel good? No? Throw them out.
Don’t Worry About Looking Sexy.
Cultivating sensuality isn’t about making your body look the part; it’s about making it feel the love, so don’t worry about looking properly sexy. Instead, I want you to concentrate on picking out clothes that feel good against your skin.
Want to look sexy? Fine, just don’t wear clothes that pinch or itch. Want to look frumpy? Fine, as long as the baggy clothes make your skin dance in its softness. It’s not a look we’re going for; it’s a feeling. Remember to always buy quality. Better to have one piece of clothing that feels luxurious against your skin than three that don’t.
The Nose Knows.
There’s a reason why priests wave certain types of incense in a Catholic mass. There’s a reason why department store sales people spritz cologne on you. Smells influence your emotions. Smells can attract or repel. It’s important to have things that smell good on you and around you. Add fragrance to your environment—your car, bathrooms, office. Be surrounded by pleasant fragrances and your body will reward you with an uplifted mood.
Take Inventory of What You Like.
You can probably recite which parts of your body you don’t like in your sleep. But I bet you can’t itemize the parts you like without scratching your head or rubbing your chin. If you’re like a lot of men I know you’re probably thinking, “But I don’t like any part of my body!” Trust me, you do. Studies show that even men with extreme body dissatisfaction can point to small things they like about themselves.
Sometimes it’s as simple as the shape of their fingers or the curls in their hair. If you honestly can’t think of a single thing you like about yourself, you’re still not off the hook. Pick things you feel neutral about.
Pamper What You Like.
Now that you’ve identified what you like (or feel neutral about) it’s time to celebrate, nurture and cultivate your best assets. For example, if you like the shape of your feet, you need to regularly treat yourself to a pedicure.
If you like your hair you need to buy the kind of products that make it shinier, fuller, curlier or whatever it needs to enhance what it is you like about it. This isn’t just about rewarding the body you’ve been punishing; it’s about appreciating, cultivating and experiencing sensuality.
Remember, the goal isn’t to make you feel better about about your body; it’s to make your body feel better things.
Two Simple Questions To Light Up Your Sex Life.
Adding sensual pleasure to your everyday life requires an acute sense of awareness. No matter where you are or what you’re doing, you should always pose this question: “How can I make my body feel better?” If you’re in a cubicle at work, it could be as easy as putting soft music on. If you’re tired, it could be a foot bath. It doesn’t matter.
Get yourself in the habit of asking, “How can I enhance the physical sensations I’m experiencing?” Because once you’re in the habit of asking–and delivering–what feels good, you can transfer this skill to the bedroom. Of course, that won’t do much good if your bedroom is so messy it looks like a crime scene.