Q:
This boorish trick came by on a Sunday afternoon. What a clod. He was dressed and headed for the door before the cum had even begun to coagulate on the sheets. I mean, hold me for God’s sakes! He was up and standing right away, and I’m like, please, relax on the bed, let me get you a warm towel, you know? And besides, you’re dripping on the hardwoods. So my question is, how do you get a trick to just stay put long enough to have some post-coital snuggling? I don’t want to marry the guy, I just want to be held and do some playful touching.
— Touch & Go
Dear Touch:
I’m right there with you, babe. There’s something so delicious about holding a man after sex, to feel smothered by his body as your mind gently drifts and your body descends into a blissful peace and calm. There’s nothing worse than a guy who comes and goes.
There’s really nothing you can do if he’s just a ship passing in the night. There’s a period right after orgasm when a lot of guys like you and I feel vulnerable and want the warmth and intimacy you only get from cuddling after sex. But you don’t discuss vulnerabilities with tricks. The most you can do is what you did—invite him to stay for a pretzeled snooze.
If he doesn’t accept the invitation you need to be a champ and honor his decision without trying to talk him out of it. Remember, one does not talk to tricks. One moans, groans, points and spreads. Heavy discussions about intimate needs? That’s what brunch with straight girlfriends is for.