Q:
My partner and I don’t have sex very often even though we’re still physically attracted to each other. Don’t laugh, but the problem is exhaustion! We both have incredibly stressful jobs and we’re just too damn tired to have sex. What can we do about this, short of quitting our jobs?
— Tired of it
Dear Tired:
Why would I laugh? Nearly 25% of couples miss out on sex because they’re too sleepy, according to a recent poll by the U.S. National Sleep Foundation. Sleep deprivation not only saps your libido, it makes you cranky, aggravated and irritable. Sex with a psycho bitch, anyone?
My advice: Get more sleep. You can do that by getting to bed earlier (duh!) and going away for short, “dirty weekends” (if you’re working that hard you’re making the bucks to afford it). There’s another thing you can do, though it seems patently obvious: Go to bed together. You can’t believe how many couples don’t go to sleep at the same time. One stays up to watch TV while the other goes upstairs to read. Nothing acts like a sex-zapper more than going to bed at different times. Make it a point to lie on the sheets simultaneously and I promise you’ll end up staining them more often.