My new column in Creative Loafing tackles a common problem: Female-bodied men who want to top gay guys.
Oh, my.
Dear Sexorcist,
I have always felt like a guy. I don’t own a stitch of women’s clothing. In low light I can “pass,” hiding my small breasts and wearing a “packy” (I can’t stand the way my jeans look without it).
Basically, I’m a female-bodied guy who wants to have sex with a gay guy. Not a straight guy. I want a man-on-man experience. Although my relationship history is mostly with women, I’m now into fags and femmes. With this profile I obviously don’t get laid very often.
My question is, how do I get the gay male experience that I want? There’s a safety risk because nothing pisses people off worse than people like me who fuck with gender. What if big Daddy Trick wants me to drop trou so he can bang me from behind? (Hey, a guy can dream!)
I’m so ready to suck a guy off that I’ve lined up a hookup with a straight guy. I’ll either allow myself to experience my feminine side (every guy has one, right?) or close my eyes and pretend he’s a fag. Maybe he will at least call me “faggot.” (Hey, a guy can dream!)
What I really want to do is fuck a guy in the ass. Is that too much for female-bodied guy to ask? How do I proceed? This isn’t just a bucket list item– it’s a real desire I have sublimated for way too long.
— Packing in the Perimeter
Dear Packing: