Gay guys tend to ask how they can get their partners to stop watching porn while straight guys ask how they can get their partners to start.
To wit, my answer to a guy who couldn’t get his girlfriend to fondle the remote:
Do what a porn director does–put it in the best light. Ask her to watch porn and you’ll get a flat no. Ask her to embark on a joint sexual journey and you’ll be watching the bompa-bompa-chicka-wow-wow together in no time.
The reason you have to go through all this nonsense is because you are, ahem, asking her to watch other women turn you on. Not exactly hitting an emotional G-spot with that one.
By putting it into a context of broadening your sex lives—and ultimately bringing you closer together– you’ll disarm her main objection. But not before you anticipate the next obstacle—her fear that you’re going to pay more attention to the boob tube than her own boobs. So spell out the plan—you’re going to share an adventure, discover new things about each other, and talk about the things that turn you on and off as the film rolls.
She’s going to be a lot more willing to watch if she thinks porn is going to be a fun addition to your relationship rather than a troubling subtraction.
The type of video you watch is another thing that’s going to make her bob and weave like Jenna Jameson in a multi-cast pile-up. So, insist that she choose it. She’s not going to have the encyclopedic knowledge you have, so ask her the type of men, women and action she’d be most comfortable seeing and then find it.
Finally, don’t forget to beg. Put on your crying cow eyes and say, “This is really important to me, please?” If you’ve done everything right, she’ll point to the DVD player and say the three magic words every man wants to hear: “Stick it in.”