I’m always on a quest to be in the know about what makes a woman’s body work and how she can achieve toe curling orgasms. Two-thirds of women can’t climax through vaginal penetration requiring oral, digital or mechanical stimulation of the clitoris to rock their world. The clitoris is a bundle of 8,000 nerve fibers making it the most sensitive spot on the entire female body. Its purpose has no other function than sexual pleasure.
Luckily, having been shagging my political science professor in college who was quite adept at sexual play, I got my orgasm on early on when he illustrated to me all the ways I could manipulate my clitoris to mind blowing orgasms. That worked well for me for a decade as I learned all the sexual positions that would stimulate my clitoris during intercourse so that I was always sexually satisfied.
Then a decade ago, I discovered my G-spot while attending a Tantric sex workshop in California. In said workshop, couples were separated into two rooms. The men were shown a video illustrating how to set the stage for your partner for g-spot exploration by creating a romantic environment including candles, bubble bath and massage. Then they documented how the man should slide his fingers into the magical tunnel of love and find the walnut feeling g-spot on the front of the vaginal opening approximately two to three inches in. Next, they illustrated the come hither finger gesture on said g-spot that would result in earth shattering orgasms and exploding gushing amounts of fluid known as female ejaculation.
The women in a separate room were briefed on relaxing the vagina, breathing through any initial discomfort while your partner probes your inner sanctuary and trying to be patient with the process. However, when a man with adept hands is probing your inner goddess area, how bad can that be? Your entire job is to say, “slower, harder, more to the right, more to the left.” “Oh yes that’s it, don’t stop.”
Obviously, I didn’t get my g-spot on in such a clinical setting but did through working with a loving and resourceful partner, become quite g-spot orgasmic.
Then holy shit, I just found out I’m not really hip and the self proclaimed sex-pert I thought I was because I didn’t realize now there is an a-spot and now I’ve got to figure out where the hell that is, what I’m supposed to do to stimulate it and get Mr. Peach Tart to get in on the act.
So Mr. Peach Tart has the clitoris, the g-spot and now the a-spot to deal with. I don’t now how to approach him about it. I fear I’m already exhausting him with all the different spots he’s got to perfect just to keep The Peach Tart happy and fulfilled.
Upon further investigation, the a-spot, formally called the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (AFE Zone) is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vaginal tube between the cervix and bladder that when stimulated can produce violent orgasmic contractions leading to delirious pleasure. It was discovered by a Malaysian physician Dr. Chua Chee Ann trying to find a cure for female vaginal dryness. He found in his experiments (how the hell did I miss signing up for that study?) that when the a-spot is stimulated, it produces copious amounts of female lubricant (not the same as the thin liquid excreted from the Skene gland during g-spot stimulation).
On his website, Dr. Chua states that just ten minutes a day of stimulation of the a-spot will result in rapid vaginal lubrication and orgasms for even previously dry as a bone and unorgasmic women. This discovery was made over thirteen years ago. How did I not know about this?
I’ve got to get my sex-pert game on again. I’m now on a quest to discover my a-spot. This could put my sex-pert practice back on the map. Mr. Peach Tart, rest up, drink that V-8, pull out that hand massager thing that strengthens your fingers or better yet, I heard the local sex toy store is now carrying an a-spot massager. So much research…so little time.