Chapter One

Blowjobs: Turning Tasks
Into Turn-Ons

“Personally, I absolutely LOVE oral sex. I have fun with it. I kiss it, nuzzle the base, stroke the balls, lightly suck them, blow on the head, sometimes swallow and generally just adore it. I feel like I’m orally superior than most. It’s the enthusiasm that I put in to my blowjobs that make them fun.

—C.

You simply cannot give a good blowjob unless you see it as a way of satisfying your own sexual needs. You can have the best technique in the world but if you don’t see it as an avenue to satisfying your own sexual pleasure, you’ll just say things like, “Put it in my mouth, already. I got clothes to fold!”

Think back to the most memorable oral sex a man has ever performed on YOU. What do you remember most—that thing he did with his tongue or the feeling of getting sucked into a vortex of sexual energy that made you temporarily forget your name?

Let me make a few assertions about your memory of that session. That guy who went down on you? He LOVED doing it, didn’t he? It wasn’t just that he was good at it, he L-O-V-E-D licking and kissing you, the taste of you, the everything of you. Technique? Skills? Yes, I’m sure he was good, maybe even great. But that would have just made him a talented laborer. You have that searing memory because he was a passionate lover who loved going down on you. THAT’S what made him great and that’s what’s going to make you great at going down on your partner.

So the question becomes, how do you start seeing blowjobs as vehicles to your own pleasure (the way your guy did in that memory of yours)? How can you start seeing it as a sex toy for your mouth? How do you get yourself to like blowjobs (as foreplay or the main event) so much that you want to do it as much or more than your partner wants to have it?

It starts by seeing proof that other “givers” are indeed turned on by blowjobs and not just because they like the effect it has on their men. Here’s one of my favorite testimonials by an extremely perceptive and articulate guy on Reddit:

“I love blowjobs because:

1. The epitome of his manhood is right there, right in front of me. I get an excellent view.
2. My face has much more heightened sensation than my ass. I can see him, I can smell him, I can taste him, I can touch him with my hands, I can explore all of his contours and textures with my tongue, etc. The feeling of his cock pulsing in my mouth as he gives me his load … None of the sensory stimulation of his cock is as heightened in the ass as in the mouth.
3. I can more directly control his pleasure. Him being sexually stimulated is a huge mental turn-on for me—it doesn’t give me literal sexual stimulation, but it’s a big mental turn-on, and sex is half mental anyway.
4. If I don’t think I can take a pounding at the moment, they’re a great way for me to still enjoy sexual contact.
5. Blowjobs are an act where I’m in control. I usually enjoy being quite submissive, but when I give a blowjob I’m the one doing all the work and controlling everything—he is surrendering his vulnerable manhood to my mouth, and I’m in control of it.”

—V.

Now there is a guy who’s in touch with his sexuality! How can you get closer to his sensibility? By getting in touch with why you like penis in the first place and letting those thoughts SWELL to huge proportions. Let’s take a look at some of those thoughts and why it would make sense to be turned on by giving a blowjob.

A Hard Dick Is A Powerful Symbol of Something You Love: Masculinity

You are attracted to maleness, strength and virility and nothing personifies these traits more than the erect cock. It’s strong, it’s hard and it commands you to surrender. Few things can put your femininity in stark relief to masculinity more than a hard penis. It is not just the staff of life but the stuff of dreams. Wet dreams. It epitomizes almost every aspect of masculinity: It’s big, thick, hard, strong, muscled, driven, and, it must be said, without conscience.

If you like a man for being a man, then it’s only natural to crave the symbol of his manhood. When you hold your partner’s erect penis you should (hopefully) be in awe of its strength and want to feel its masculine prowess in every part of your body.

 

“I love, love, love blowjobs. I would be permanently attached to a penis if I could. I just love ’em so much.”

—S.

“Cock is yummy! You hear that ’Merica?”

—R.

A Hard Dick Is Proof That You’re Desirable

A penis gets hard when its owner spies a beautiful, desirable guy. Namely, you. Knowing you can turn your partner on (look at that erection!) is the ultimate sexual compliment; a statement of your desirability. It’s a sexualized electrical current with a feedback loop—he gets excited so you get excited. He sees your excitement and gets more excited. And soon you’re both sucked into a vortex of desire.

But what is the outer manifestation of his desire? His hard cock. It’s not only about you, it’s for you.

A Hard Dick Is Your Chance To Be In Control & Exert Dominance

There is yet another way to fall in love with your partner’s yogurt chucker and that is to understand how powerful his erection makes you. After all, his hardon is a response to your presence. YOU are eliciting this response from him. I don’t know of a more convincing display of power than to completely own a man’s attention, to change his physical, emotional and psychological state. You got him hard? You have him right where you want him. Well done!

So how do you dominate him if it’s you pleasuring him? Because YOU decide how he’s going to feel by where you place your hands. YOU decide how he is going to react when you put your warm moist mouth on his member. Again, he is reacting to what you’re doing and that means you’re in control. Revel in it like these guys do:

 

“Blowing my partner makes me feel sexy and powerful because I can so completely control a man simply with my mouth and tongue. And afterwards, he (my man, at least) has a cute, tired smile on his face, and always wants a nice long cuddle-session.”

—T.

“I love the sense of power that I have when I hold my man’s cock in my mouth or hands. At that moment and for the next hour or two … I am in control of what happens … and I am responsible for him having the most sensational, meaningful experience possible.”

—A. in www.literotica.com

“It makes me feel so sexy and powerful. I love to watch my guy while I give him a BJ, seeing the ecstasy on his face and knowing that I’m making that happen with my mouth—it feels awesome. Often by the time I’ve finished, I’m so turned on by HIM being turned on, I’ll be ready to go…”

—G.

“I love the emotional power I have over my partner in being able to dictate speed, bringing him to the edge, stopping … having him scream, beg, or moan. And either letting things calm down and begin again, or bringing things to a head. It’s TOTAL control, one that you decide on, there on the spot.”

—A. in Quora

 

A Hard Dick Is Your Chance To Enjoy The Pleasures Of Submission

I don’t mean submission in a degrading sort of way, but in the fullness of pleasure sought. You play with dominance and submission all the time, you’ve probably just never categorized it in those terms. If you like to be pinned under your guy, you’ve experienced the thrill of submitting to power. If you like holding him down, you’ve experienced the thrill of wielding it. It’s not possible to have sex without some kind of power exchange. At one moment or another you are wielding or yielding.

In this case, we’re talking about yielding to the power of a hard cock. What does that mean? It means losing yourself in the adoration, the ritual of kissing, touching, and suckling on the force, might and power of his hardness. It means giving in to the exhilarating, liberating feeling of being “owned” by his masculinity. Of showing reverence to Strength.

 

“I love pleasuring someone else, taking my time, learning all their little buttons. And the submissive side of me really likes being on your knees.”

—T.

“Giving blowjobs is a submissive act for me, and I think that’s what I love about it. I love being on my knees while my SO [significant other] stands over me, looking up into his eyes for approval, the way he grabs my head by my hair and directs what he wants me to do, how much trouble I get in if I forget the rules and start touching myself during it … I’ve absolutely orgasmed while giving a blowjob without even being touched.”

—D.

Submission means that by bending your will to the authority vested in his cock you can experience a form of therapeutic escape, of safety, protection. Of glorifying strength and disappearing into the unavoidable nothingness that comes from relinquishing all power. In this scenario, your mouth is a spiritual offering, a way to exalt his command of you.

Damn. Anybody else feel like a biscuit that just got buttered? Whew!

And now more … butter? Listen to what this guy on www.lpsg.com advises on the romance of submission:

 

“Succumb to his cock … mentally, physically, emotionally. Give yourself to it. In your mind his cock must be your Sun. It gives you life, you depend on it. Put it far into your throat, gag slightly on it. Tell him it’s overpowering to you. Stroke it with your hands and stare at it like it is made of gold. Think of all the pleasure his cock brings you and reciprocate those feelings. Sit him in a chair, a nice comfy one, and get on your knees in front of him and suck on his cock like he is King of the World. Then tell him to stand up above you, with you on your knees, and ask him to overwhelm you with his cock. Tell him to take control. Obey his cock.

If you can internalize all of this before going into that night, it will show in your performance. I think what really turns a guy on (or at least me) is when you KNOW the guy is truly into it. Truly connected to you and your cock. Totally enamored with it. Techniques and skill pale in comparison to passion and lust.”

—T.

 

A Hard Dick Helps You Experience Submission & Domination Simultaneously

One of the unique things about giving head is that different sexual positions can give you radically different experiences of power. For instance, there’s a big difference between giving a blowjob to a man that is lying on his back vs. kneeling in front of him while he stands vs. him sitting relaxed in a chair. The power dynamics just feel different. Talk to most guys who enjoy blowjobs and you’ll find that they revel in a hard cock’s ability to make them either feel powerful or powerless at almost a moment’s notice. As one guy in a discussion forum put it, “the psychological sense of simultaneous submission and power/control is very heady.”

 

“I love giving my man head. I love how in control I feel if he is laying on the bed, or how he can make me feel dirty and submissive if I’m on my knees. Giving my man a 5 star blowy is the fastest way to get me ready for him to top me.”

—R.

“I love sucking my partner’s cock. It’s like the pleasure you get from a good make-out session, plus the turn-on of taking someone inside you, plus the option to switch the dynamic up as you please between submission and control.”

—D.

“It makes me feel incredibly sexy. I love the feeling of having all the power while simultaneously feeling the ultimate submission to him.”

—W.

 

A Hard Dick Is The Chance To Take Pleasure From Pleasure Delivered

Pleasure is a coin with two sides. “Heads” means you’re giving pleasure and “Tails” means you’re getting it. Both states of pleasure exist at the same time. All you have to do is flip the coin to experience one or the other. The pleasure of pleasuring cannot be underestimated or overstated. You know you’ve achieved a new consciousness about cock when you think, “I would pay HIM for the chance to blow him.” Now, that’s amore!

“I’m someone who is turned on by my partner being turned on. I love when I can see his toes curl and he grips my hair. I also love hearing him moan. Like… The amount of pleasure I get out of him cursing and telling me how good I am is my favorite thing ever.”

—M.

“I love it when they go into overload and start shuddering like they’re being hit with little electric shocks and the breathless words they try to form turn into incoherent fragments of linguistic ecstasy—like incantations from the Orgasmanomicon.”

—N.

“I love giving blowjobs to my partner! It’s so fun and I love to hear how much he loves them. When I have him in my mouth and he’s losing his mind I kinda think ‘Wow, I’m making this happen with my freckin mouth’ (with a little help from my hands, mostly to support myself and have greater control of his penis). It’s pretty awesome! And he returns the favor pretty regularly :)”

—S.

“I really like when guys get vocal. Fucking love it. I enjoy dirty talk but I also just love the sound of a guy moaning, especially if it’s almost like a surprise (i.e., as though he wasn’t expecting it). I find that giving head is a way to almost guarantee some moaning.”

—K.

Again, the pleasure of giving sits side by side with the pleasure of taking. Like Frieda Kahlo’s eyebrows, they cannot be separated. Of course, you’re not the only one enjoying the scene. Your guy has some, er, skin in the game. But his pleasure isn’t always about what you’re doing to him. It’s as much about what you’re making him feel emotionally. Listen to the man who founded www.mydissolutelife.com:

 

“What do I love about getting blown? So much. Obviously, there are the pleasurable feelings. But they’re just the tip of the iceberg. I mean, on the one hand, who wouldn’t love sustained, loving attention to one’s cock, to the part of one’s body most wired for the receipt of pleasure?

But on the other hand, the bulk of my sexual pleasure and enjoyment happens not in my cock, but in my head: in the land where desire for me is registered. The greatest blowjob, the funnest fuck, pales in comparison to the jolt I receive simply from knowing that you want me – and not just me, but my cock.”

 

Raise Your Hand If You DON’T Have An Oral Fixation.

Now, slap yourself with it for being a liar! Everybody has an oral fixation to some degree. We’ve been gleefully putting things in our mouth since we were babies. Why? Because it’s pleasurable.

Sure, as we grow older, the oral fixation wanes but it never truly goes away. Almost everybody enjoys the sensation of having something in their mouths. In some, that enjoyment becomes a mild to wild fixation. Whether nail biting or excessive eating, oral fixations are thought to develop during childhood and have a high prevalence among adults.

Oral fixations can range from excessive application of lip balm to the pica disorder, where a person chews on non-edible materials such as chalk, matches or mattress foam. An overindulgence in any oral fixation could become problematic, but hey, cock tastes a whole lot better than chalk!

So if you’ve got the slightest proclivity toward an oral fixation (and who doesn’t), think of your partner’s penis as the thumb you used to suck on when you were a kid (only a lot bigger!). It’s comforting. It tastes good. And it feels good.

Just ask him.

“I love dicks and I’ve always had some degree of an oral fixation (lots of saliva!). So blowjobs are like putting two of my loves together in one activity. When I’m giving a blowjob, I feel like I’m basically checking out a penis up close and personal. It’s like eye candy that I can put in my mouth. Every time I stop and start jacking the guy off instead, I’m actually just stopping to visually admire what I’m working with.”

—J.

“I ask/beg my partner to do it. It drives me crazy even fantasizing about it. My vulva gets puffy and wet from giving head. Every time. It gives me a similar sensation I get from deep kissing. I think I have an oral fixation.”

—G.

Another Great Reason To Give Head:
It Brings You Closer

While there are indeed physical pleasures to extract from giving blowjobs, the true treasures are in the psychological highs they unlock. Here, the forbidden nature of oral sex can be re-appropriated for erotic effect, as nothing fuels hedonism like a little naughtiness.

Both you and your man are at your most vulnerable at the onset of oral sex. You may feel emotionally at risk as you prepare to insert his penis into the mouth that you eat, pray and kiss your cat with. Meanwhile, your man is sticking his most sensitive body part into a dark unknown that contains sharp, calcified teeth. This shared vulnerability increases the potential for intimacy by easing each other into comfort, rather than withdrawing into your separate insecurities.

Going down on your guy is one of the best ways to tap into your sexual id and reach heights of arousal that you can’t with penetration alone. Sniffing his balls or deeply inhaling his pubic hairs, for example, gives you a big hit of male pheromones, the chemicals that send sexual telegrams to willing recipients. Nothing uncaps your primal desires more than the aroma of rising manhood.

“I do really like giving head! I genuinely enjoy it. But my favorite part of it is when it’s over and my boyfriend pulls me up in a big hug and kisses me. He always has the biggest dumbest smile on his face and he is so cute and tired and it makes me happy to know that I can make him feel good.”

—J.

What If You Don’t Like Giving Head?

A husband and wife went to see a marriage counselor because they were unhappy about their sex lives. The therapist, in an attempt to find some common ground, said, “Tell me anything the two of you have in common.”

The husband said, “Well, neither one of us sucks dicks.”

Some gay men look at penises and think of Mink Stole’s immortal words in the John Waters film, Female Trouble: “I wouldn’t suck your lousy dick if I was suffocating and there was oxygen in your balls.”

Please, God, I hope you’re not one of them. But if you are, no worries, because this next section is going to help you overcome your aversion to giving head.

So Why Do You Hate It? It’s important to understand that you inherited much of your dislike from the messages society has been sending for eons—that giving head signals submissiveness (and not the good kind), lower status and humiliation.

When a guy yells, “Suck my dick!” outside of the bedroom (and sometimes in it) he means it as an insult. It’s designed to show power, to degrade. There’s a certain arrogance in guys expecting you to get on your knees and service them. Porn takes this degradation to the extreme, showing men “punishing” guys with their cocks and climaxing on their faces so that they’re swallowing in the most humiliating way possible. So it isn’t crazy, given these cultural facts, for some guys to be uneasy with the power dynamics that are associated with oral sex. They may be overcome by shame or view a blowjob at the very least as a non-reciprocal sexual act, where they do all the work and somebody else gets all the pleasure.

 

If You Don’t Like It, Why Should
You Have To Change?

You don’t. But how many times in your life have you tried something that you initially didn’t like and ended up loving? No one likes their first martini, for example. But then the buzz works its magic and next thing you know you’re drinking so many that olives come out every time you pee.

Which reminds me, why is alcoholism the only disease you get yelled at for having?

At any rate, if you find yourself a little resistant to blowjobs, think about all the times you didn’t like something in the beginning and came to love at the end. The television show that was uninteresting the first couple of episodes, for example, that turned into must-see TV. Or the Pulitzer prize-winning book that bored you in the first couple of chapters and then turned into all-night page-turner.

Have you ever noticed that some things feel a lot better with more practice? Dancing, learning a language or cooking, for example. There’s not that much enjoyment to be had in the beginning. At first, you’re stressed and self-conscious and uncertain of the best way to proceed. But with practice and experience you get a lot more enjoyment out of them. Blowjobs are like that. Once you understand what works for you and what doesn’t, once you understand strategies to help you enjoy it more and get better at it, chances are you’ll completely change your mind. Whether you’re in the kitchen, the ballroom, a classroom or your bedroom, practice doesn’t just make perfect, it makes pleasure.

Millions of guys have changed their minds about blowjobs but only after they got clear about what they needed to make it enjoyable. I am particularly taken by this guy’s experience:

 

“When it comes to blowjobs, I’ve traveled the full spectrum from hate to love and it really depends on the partner. I’ve never loved sucking a man’s cock as much as I love my current fwb [friend with benefits]. Things that really help:

• I find his penis excruciatingly gorgeous.
• Great hygiene—hair is well-kept, always smells clean, doesn’t put any cologne down there (tastes horrible).
• He experiments with dominant/porny moves but always always immediately stops if I say or imply a no. He’s really amazing about that. He’ll go from brutally fucking my throat to gentle and caring if I push him away or shake my head. I really don’t mind hair-grabbing, head-pushing, etc., but the #1 thing is that I have to know in my heart that if I ever feel like it’s too much he WILL stop. I’ve had guys in the past who made me uneasy, like maybe they weren’t just role-playing, you know?
• Appreciative noises. So important. My last ex was so quiet and it made it hard to feel encouraged and I had no idea how close he was. My current guy moans and says little things to cue me into how he’s doing.
• Nice-shaped balls to suck on. Balls are fun.”

 

You Shouldn’t Be Doing It For Him.

The first thing that’ll help you change your mind about blowjobs is to reframe why you’re doing it. Whenever we do something for somebody else we quickly turn it into a “chore.” A job. An unwelcome necessity to keep your partner happy. You should be doing this for yourself because it gives you pleasure.

Are You Groaning About Groins?

Perhaps the reason you don’t enjoy giving blowjobs is that guys you’ve gone down on smelled like swamp ass.

There’s also understandable anxiety about one’s mouth coming in contact with the part of a man’s body that excretes bodily waste. Even if not a drop of his pee enters your mouth, plenty of guys can’t tolerate the faint scent of urine and sweat that can build up while his package is tucked into underwear.

Unlike ovens, a man’s penis is not self-cleaning, so it’s important to make sure your partner washes his private areas thoroughly before oral sex. This is especially important for uncut guys, as their foreskin retains a natural lube or lubricant known as smegma, which can accumulate and acquire an unappealing odor.

 

If you’ve had bad experiences with smells and odors, good news! Your man can cure it with soap and water! Yes, it’s that easy. Sometimes you’ve got to draw a line in the sand by punishing bad behavior (“no bjs for you, buddy, until you clean up!”) and rewarding good, clean deeds (“Spread your legs, I’m coming in!”). The simple truth is that you have to be demanding of your men. Quick story to make my point:

 

A Jewish grandma and her grandson are at the beach. He’s playing in the water, she is standing on the shore, not wanting to get her feet wet, when all of a sudden, a huge wave appears from nowhere and crashes directly onto the spot where the boy is wading. The water recedes and the boy is no longer there. He was swept away.

The grandma holds her hands to the sky, screams and cries: “Lord, how could you? Haven’t I been a wonderful grandmother? Haven’t I been a wonderful mother? Haven’t I kept a kosher home? Haven’t I given to the B’nai B’rith? Haven’t I lit candles every Friday night? Haven’t I tried my very best to live a life that you would be proud of?”

A voice booms from the sky, “All right already!”

A few minutes later another huge wave appears out of nowhere and crashes on the beach. As the water recedes, the boy is standing there. He is smiling and splashing around as if nothing had ever happened.

The voice booms again. “I have returned your grandson. Are you satisfied?”

She responds, “He had a hat.”

My point, and I do have one, is that you must demand more of your men if they expect a blowjob. Take heart from these demanding guys, who make no bones about their expectations:

“I only, ONLY give blowjobs if the guy looks after himself, especially down there (shaven, cleaned, and a good diet). I’ve slept with guys who didn’t look after themselves (bad diet, didn’t think about cleaning down there, didn’t shave) and it’s unpleasant to the point where the cum made me want to hurl.

I’ve also given blowjobs to guys who did look after themselves. One guy in particular was very into being in tip-top condition, had a Pinterest-worthy diet and he was a bit of a clean freak. It was absolutely magical to suck his dick. It was smooth and everything smelled nice. His semen had the slightest sweet tinge to the taste but other than that it was tasteless and had no smell, and it was so smooth and silky in my mouth too. I literally could have sucked his dick all day. He was also very vocal about his pleasure, which I found satisfying. I think there is a lot to be said for having a guy look after himself down there.”

—N.

“I love blowjobs only if guys meet my criteria. If it’s a dick that I really find attractive, attached to a guy who knows what he’s doing in that department (grooming, diet for the sake of cum taste, etc.), I want to suck it for hours. Even longer if it’s a guy who’s vocal and shows the pleasure he’s receiving through squirms and moans and shudders.”

—A.

“I can’t feel like I’m OBLIGATED to blow him. When I go down on my manfriend, I really want to, and I suck that thing like I’m on The Price is Right and I want to win the fucking convertible. You’ve got to worship the dick, but on YOUR terms. That’s all I’m sayin’.”

—D.

 

But It’s Uncomfortable!

Some guys actually like giving head but don’t want to put up with the physical discomfort they experience. Their lips are easily stretched to the limits of their elasticity, or they can’t take more than two inches before they choke like a crow with too much in its craw.

We’ll explore overcoming the physical discomfort of giving head in the next chapter, so you can cross discomfort off your list now. Meantime, admit it, do you…

Suck at Sucking?

If the reason you don’t enjoy giving oral sex is because you’re bad at it, I admire your self-awareness. Maybe you’ve been told your blowjobs are heartless, dry and toothy, and you see no point in subjecting other penises to such mistreatment. Bartender, another round of lack of confidence, please!

Kudos to your sensitivity, but incompetence is a flimsy excuse to rob yourself of giving or receiving pleasure. I remember a friend telling me that after one of his first attempts at giving a blowjob, his date said, “If this were a restaurant, I’d send it back.” He was crushed. But not for long, because it gave him the determination to get better.

In an ancient monastery in a faraway place, a new monk arrived to join his brothers in copying books and scrolls in the monastery’s scriptorium. He was assigned as a scriptor on copies of books that had already been copied by hand.

One day he asked Father Florian (the Armarius of the Scriptorium), “Does not the copying by hand of other copies allow for chances of error? How do we know we are not copying the mistakes of someone else? Are they ever checked against the original?”

Fr. Florian is set back a bit by the obvious logical observation of this youthful monk. “A very good point, my son. I will take one of the latest books down to the vault and compare it against the original.”

Fr. Florian went down to the secured vault and began his verification. After a day had passed, the monks began to worry and went down looking for the old priest. They were sure something must have happened. As they approached the vault, they heard sobbing and crying. When they opened the door, they found Fr. Florian sobbing over the new copy on the table. It was obvious to all that the poor man had been crying his heart out for a long time.

“What is the problem, Reverend Father?” asked one of the monks. “Oh, my Lord,” sobbed the priest, “The word is celebrate!”

 

The point to this story, and there really is one, is that you should not take a vow of oral celibacy. Celebrate! The party is in your mouth!

Let’s Review.

Why would you want to show some oral love to masculinity’s Main Representative? For starters, a hard dick is the very symbol of masculinity—something you crave and appreciate in a man.

A rock hard cock is also proof that you’re hot and desirable. There should be no greater compliment to you than having your partner’s erect cock pointing straight at you. It is proof of your desirability. In that regard, the penis could be seen quite rightly as being all about you. So when you go down on him, you’re not doing him a favor. You’re giving yourself a gift.

Oral sex also gives you the opportunity to feel contradictory yet simultaneous feelings of dominance and submission. And who doesn’t like that?!

Free Your Mind, Your Mouth Will Follow

Remember, blowjobs aren’t tasks; they’re turn-ons. Think about why you love his penis, not just what you can do with it or to it. Is it the thrill of feeling him get hard in your mouth? The power to arouse him? The feeling of submission when you look up at his eyes? Its strength and hardness? Its masculine smell and feel? How it can dominate you? Is it the sheer novelty of seeing and feeling a part of him you don’t ordinarily see? The anticipation of bathing it with your mouth before it’s inserted into your body?

 

“I get so incredibly turned on when I give my man head. I like to strip down and get on my knees and then blow him so he can watch and can control the movement by placing his hands on the back of my head. I will blow him every chance I get. Sometimes he has to push me away. I love the feel, the taste, the sensation. Any guy who doesn’t like this activity is insane.”

—Y.

Without thinking about, acting on, and expressing your love for his dick, you’re just going through the motions. Remember talent without passion makes you a skilled laborer, not a worthy lover. Get in touch with why giving oral is pleasurable for you, and you’ll be able to combine skill with passion to create a memorable experience. When it comes to sex, it’s better to suck at something you love than to excel at something you don’t.

Now that you’ve gotten in touch with why you pant for penis, you’re ready to learn some techniques, so let’s get started. By the time I’m done, your blowjobs are going to hit your partner harder than the bottom of a whiskey bottle at an Irish wake.

Let Cocktoberfest begin!

Praise For How To Give Head Like A Porn Star

 

“Most successful when it’s presenting facts and solutions, which provides a nice balance to its cheeky innuendos.”

—Kirkus Reviews

 

“Gentlemen, the balls are in your court! With Woody as your penis coach—and a winning strategy that places your pleasure up front and center— you’ve got game and then some.”

—Ian Kerner, PhD LMFT, sex therapist and NY Times best-selling author

 

“Beautifully reframes what has generally been considered a “job” into a sexually satisfying activity. Filled with laugh-out-loud humor, sharp insights and powerful advice. A great addition to the canon of sex self-help.”

—Dr. Sadie Allison, Founder TickleKitty.com
and Bestselling Author, Tickle His Pickle