How To Relax Tight Sphincter Muscles
Kegel Exercises Designed For Anal Sex
The best way to consciously relax your anus is, oddly enough, to tighten it. That’s because the first step to relaxation is awareness of its opposite–tension. This is a key concept to bottoming without pain: Your sphincter will relax more if you make an effort to tense it first.
“Kegels” are exercises that will help you achieve this tension/relaxation dynamic. They will not only help your sphincter relax, they’ll also make your erections harder, give you more control of your ejaculations and deliver more powerful orgasms. Named after the doctor that discovered the benefits of exercising the pubogenital muscles, Kegels don’t just stimulate the sphincter muscles, but everything around them—the anal canal, the rectum, the prostate, and the puborectal sling. They’ll make you more aware of your body and give you more control over the levers of relaxation.
Kegels Will Help You Shoot Further.
Kegels won’t just teach you how to relax tight sphincter muscles, they’ll help you ejaculate greater distances.
Orgasms happen via a spinal cord reflex that causes strong rhythmic contractions in the urogenital system. Your ejaculation isn’t ruled by your hand, your partner’s mouth, or your wild imagination. It’s ruled by the urethra, the prostate, and the pubogenital muscles as they involuntarily contract. You can’t do anything to strengthen the urethra or the prostate but the rectal muscles? Kegels can make them stronger, which in turn makes orgasmic contractions more forceful, which then propels the semen out of the urethra faster.
An Interesting Aside.
Ever notice that most porn stars “shoot” rather than “dribble” when they ejaculate? All is not what it seems. To get the money shot they want, directors will often use synthetic semen, which is shot-squeezed from a small tube. The preferred substance is condensed milk.
How To Relax The Anus
Find Your Kegel Muscles
You know when you’re in the shower with your partner and you pee on him while he’s not looking? And then he notices and yells at you to stop so you squeeze the muscles that stop the flow of urine in mid-stream? That’s them!
The Basics: Contract And Release
Squeeze the muscles you use to stop peeing, then release. That’s it. Everything after that is a variation on this theme. Think of these variations as cross-training your ass, which will improve the strength, power, endurance, agility, and balance of your cheek-to-cheek encounters.
You can’t learn how to relax sphincter muscles with just one exercise. Well, at least not with just one variation. Here’s a few to mix it up.
Tighten and let go quickly. You need to do a lot of these. You can manage the boredom of repetition by repeating mantras like, “Kegels are bagels with tighter holes!” “Kegels are bagels with tighter holes!”
Pinch & Hold
Tighten and don’t let go till you count to fifteen. As you get better, hold for longer periods of time.
How To Relax Anal Muscles With Different Positions
Start off with these before trying Kegels in sexual positions as they’re easier to do. Plus, they’ll get you trained for the more challenging positions.
- Laying down on your back
- Laying down on your stomach
Doing Kegels in positions you’re likely to take during sex will be more effective. As a hole, they will make you stronger.
Lay on your back, bring your knees up as high as you can and have at it.
A great one to do in the shower.
Do it on all fours and then change it up by lowering your head and raising your butt.
One Leg Up
While standing, keep one foot on the floor and put the other on your bed, a stool, or a table. Let the Kegels begin.
When To Do Exercises That Teach You How To Relax Anal Muscles
While you could set aside dedicated time to doing Kegels it’s doubtful you’ll stick to any kind of schedule. They’re fairly boring to do and the benefits take a while to manifest. Instead, shoehorn them into regular activities like watching TV, surfing the internet, or driving to your next appointment. You can even do Kegels while you’re exercising at the gym (when you’re doing sit-ups, for example).
From personal experience I can tell you it’s best to set reminders. For example, you could schedule Alexa, Siri or Google Assistant to remind you in the early evening after work. Of course, there are drawbacks to automating these types of reminders. Imagine if Mom comes over and Alexa interrupts the conversation by screaming, “REMINDER—DO YOUR KEGELS SO YOU CAN TAKE BIGGER DICKS UP YOUR ASS.”
HOW MANY YOU SHOULD DO
Like sex toys, start small and go big. Start with three sets of 10 and keep going until you’ve hit several hundred daily. Another way to approach it is to forget the math and go for the clock. Set the timer for 30 seconds every day and see how many you can do. In a couple of days, set the timer to 45 seconds and go for it. Make incremental increases until you reach a solid 5 minutes. You’ll know you’ve achieved something when your partner starts introducing you as his “Main Squeeze.”
Don’t expect overnight success. While it should only take a couple of weeks to heighten the sphincter’s relaxation response, it takes four to six weeks of daily exercise (aim for at least 100 contractions) to see the other benefits, like stronger erections and more intense ejaculations.
ADVANCED KEGELS FOR RELAXING ANAL MUSCLES
Kegels With Sex Toys
Warning: Do not try to do kegels with a sex toy inside you until you’re able to do hundreds of “regular” kegels at one time in varying positions. Otherwise, weak pelvic muscles will only allow you to squeeze out a few paltry pulses and it will not feel good.
Start with the missionary position and do all the variations outlined above. Then shift to others, especially sex positions. If you can build up to hundreds of kegels while sporting a sex toy you’ll train your muscles enough to the point you can hold in Mount Vesuvius’ wrath.
Kegels While You’re Erect
Squeezing the PC muscles when you get an erection makes your penis jerk up. Hold a finger about an inch above your penis and flex hard enough to touch it 10 times in a row. Or go for the bonus round by placing your partner’s mouth an inch away. It’s called home fitness training.
You can add ‘weight training’ to erection kegels by putting a towel on your penis and doing the contractions. You want bragging rights? Do them with wet towels.
A Butt-Tightening Conclusion
The cool thing about kegels is that you can do them anywhere—driving, walking, watching TV, doing dishes, or knitting a doily. No one will ever know. About the exercises I mean, not the knitting.
The absolute best time to do kegels? In social settings, when you’re standing next to a guy you want to bottom for. It’s a naughty secret no one needs to know butt you.
The sheer boredom of the repetitive actions can make you give up quickly so make them more interesting by introducing variety. Hit a target of 100 reps one day and a target of 3 minutes the next. Do them laying down one day and squatting the next.
The rewards are fantastic—cumming more, shooting farther and bottoming painlessly—but you have to put in the work. And when you do, everyone you bottom for will start calling you, “Jacked-In-The-Box.”