How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 22
The Peacock Technique
“My favorite part is having my guy squirming and unable to string two coherent thoughts together.”—K.
“I love to hear him make little sounds and moan and look at him in the eyes. So sexy.”
—M.
“I love how he sucks in his breath when I move my tongue a certain way. Or when begs me not to stop. It’s an incredible rush.”
—L.
The most powerful sexual organ isn’t between your legs or between your teeth; it’s between your ears. As important as skills are to the end result, they will fall flat unless they’re guided by a vision of sex that’s beyond the physical. Let me clarify this with a guiding principle about memorable sex:
It’s not what you do to him. It’s where you take him.
All the skills, tactics, and techniques you’ve read so far will make you a competent lover, but if you want to be a peacock among common poultry you need to have more than skills. You need the ability to transport him into a different plane of existence. And in order to do that, you have to understand how to create an agonizing joy called anticipation.
Anticipation is the feeling of excitement about something that is going to happen. I’m going to show you how to capitalize on this feeling to deliver (and receive) maximum pleasure but first, let’s talk about how anticipation works. I give you two scenarios:
Scenario 1:
You walk into a friend’s home and he immediately waves a plate of delicious home-made chocolate chip cookies under your nose. “Eat, EAT!” he says. So you do.
Scenario 2:
You walk into your friend’s home and he waves a plate of home-made chocolate chips cookies under your nose. “Smell,” he says. You reach for one and he says, “Not so fast! We have to wait for the other guests to arrive.” He puts the plate right in the middle of the table so you’re constantly looking at its chocolaty goodness, salivating and fantasizing how good they’ll taste. Finally, the guests come and he offers you one.
Which cookie tastes better?
Almost everyone will say the cookie under scenario #2. Why? The cookies have exactly the same ingredients. The answer is simple: Anticipation amplifies pleasure. It creates so much excitement, activates so many nerve endings that things taste better with it than without it.
Build Anticipation
It’s the same thing with blowjobs. If you want him to have the experience of the chocolate chips in Scenario # 2, learn how to build anticipation. The object is to keep your partner’s body in suspense by only delivering an aspect of what he’s expecting (the way your host did by letting you see and smell but not touch or eat the cookies). This builds desire and curiosity, keeps your guy eagerly anticipating your next move and makes him crave you more. By the time you’re done, the sexual encounter becomes more intense and satisfying (just like the cookies).
Robin Skynner, the great psychiatrist, once famously said, “Anticipation is the central ingredient in sexual desire.” His studies proved that “Sex has a major cognitive component—the most important element for desire is positive anticipation.”
Anticipation is an emotion that mixes enthusiasm, pleasure, excitement, and anxiety toward a longed-for event. Like having your girlfriend’s mouth on your cock. Wait, did I say “anxiety” in that earlier sentence? Why would anxiety figure into sexual anticipation? Because there is always some concern that the highly anticipated event will not occur. In the next installment of our series on blowjobs I’ll explain with a concept called “Suspense and Resolution.”