How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 12
Bestowing A Bedazzling Blowjob
“Penises are always thought of as being so sensitive and powerful. And I get to put it in my mouth? It’s so empowering to know that you have that much control over someone, and it’s exciting to try out different things and see what makes them squirm. It’s nice to be able to really please someone.”—L.
It goes without saying that men will receive pleasure during a blowjob and yes, of course, you will experience the “pleasure of pleasuring,” but I want you to be a little more selfish than that. I want you to approach blowjobs as if they were meant to give YOU pleasure. Think of his satisfaction as an important marker of your efforts but more as “collateral pleasure”—something he gets as a consequence of pleasuring yourself.
One of the best ways of enhancing your own satisfaction during blowjobs is to become really good at giving them. Competence breeds confidence which enhances self-pleasure. Word up:
“Plain and simple, I’m good at it and I know it. Which makes me enjoy it so much more making a guy squirm and moan. It’s hot and turns me on hardcore. Plus it’s fun and I could go to town on one all day long if I could. When I haven’t done it for a while I start to get withdrawals and wishing I had a nice dick in my mouth to suck on. 100% my fave part of sex.”—Y.
“I’m really, really good at it, and knowing I’m making a dude squirm is pretty great.”
—V.
“I love his whimpers of “Oh fuck. Oh my fucking god,” etc. And, overall, it’s something I’m really, really good at, so it’s a huge ego boost for me.”
—B.
Confidence = Enjoyment
As these people plainly understand, confidence significantly increases your enjoyment of giving a blowjob. There’s only one way to gain confidence and that’s to earn it through competence. That’s why we are going to concentrate on improving your skills in this chapter.
Let me start by reminding you that we men are alarmingly attached to our penises. In fact, we love listening to “He’s Got the Whole World in His Hands” when we pee. With the right kind of oral, you can make your partner feel like he’s got the whole galaxy in his hands.
Sending him into that galaxy requires four things: moisture, speed, pressure, and friction. Success starts with saliva. The most natural way of generating it is to bite into a sour apple or suck on hard candy. Go ahead and buy some at the store. I’ll wait.
Back so soon? Good, now bite into the sour apple. Notice how it makes you drool? It’s your body’s way of fighting off the acidity in the mouth (the saliva dilutes it). Of course, that’s hard to do in the middle of unzipping him, so try this instead: Visualize biting into a lemon. Do it right now. Concentrate on the citric juices hitting your tongue and the sides of your mouth. Notice anything? You’re salivating more! Conjure up that vision whenever your mouth starts getting dry during oral.
Hands Where You Can See Them
Your hand is the next most important thing. You need to deliver three things with it: friction, pressure, and speed. Use your hand as an extension of your mouth. Do this: Make a fist and punch yourself in the chest. Your knuckles should be touching your chest, with your thumb facing toward you. That’s your starting position. With your hand in that position, twist/stroke on the way down and stroke/twist on the way up. You’re basically doing a corkscrew motion as you wet him with a constant stream of saliva. Your mouth may give him moisture and heat, but it doesn’t give him pressure and friction. That’s what the hand is for.
If you can get these basics down—moisture with your mouth and speed, pressure, and friction with your hand—you’re well on your way to mastery. Then it’s a matter of add-ons, like pretending there’s oxygen in his balls and making so many sex sounds the neighbors pull out their binoculars.
“I absolutely love giving blowjobs. Just the thought of satisfying my man is all I need in return. After he is done, normally I swallow it and I cuddle beside him. When I first started giving head I wasn’t very good at it. But by him telling me what he does or does not like, and practicing on lollipops, I became a champ.”—N.
Now that you’ve got the big picture of bestowing a bedazzling blowjob next week we dive into the details.