Sex Ed Helps With Performance Anxiety

Sometimes guys have performance anxiety because they’ve absorbed wrong information and thus make false assumptions. Here’s a perfect example: Most guys think they should be hard during the entirety of a sexual experience and if they’re not it’s a sign of weakening virility.

Not so.  Erections go up and down throughout a sexual encounter. Sometimes mysteriously. For example, have you ever had a raging hard on, gave your partner head and noticed that although you were turned on during the whole act your penis actually got much softer? This is perfectly normal.  

It’s a good bet you’ve made false assumptions in other areas of your sex life, so read more books. Learn new techniques. Educate yourself. Check out my two favorite sex books—Anal Health & Pleasure by Jack Morin and Hot Monogamy by Patricia Love. 

What about porn? Can you learn anything from it?  Larry Flynt, the publisher of Hustler once said, “There are two kinds of people who oppose porn. Those who don’t know what they’re talking about and those who don’t know what they’re missing.”

True, but porn doesn’t qualify as sex education. It’s hot but its value is in entertainment, not education. In adult films everyone has a big dick, stays hard for hours and comes like the Trevi Fountain. Taken from that perspective, the only things you’ll get out of porn are eating disorders, body dysmorphia and a stunted sexual palette. Porn helps you get off but it won’t help you get smart.