This Week In Gay Dating Advice Questions I Want YOU To Answer

We get so many emails from guys looking for little gay dating advice that we can’t possibly answer them all. But we can publish them all! And hopefully entice you to answer some of them. So every week were going to publish the best of what we received and cannot answer. So get out your pencil sharpener’s, or whatever it is that you used to bang on the keyboard, and start giving some dating advice, gay style.

Gay Dating Advice Questions Of The Week

Question #1

I have been single for a long time (about 9 years) I am socially awkward, and tend to keep to myself.   I have done the club thing and over it, was hoping you would have some suggestions on where I might go to find some social groups where I could find some good guys to hang out with and maybe even date. I think I am finally able to commit to someone but feel like it might be too late, I am not one of those hot jocks, just an avg next door type.  Any suggestions?  I have already started to work out, I am not saying I am fat, but I am not perfect.  I tend to like guys who are more in shape and active. I am just not what I would consider the type that attracts that kinda guy. Any hope for me?

Question #2

How do I get younger dudes at Manhunt or anywhere to understand that my being older is an advantage because in most cases I have already BEEN places they may never see in ANY dream and because of it there is a lot they can learn from my Xperience rather than learn the hard way?

Question #3

I’m 34, and a Christian.  I have a medical condition, known as hydrocephalus and I have a shunt.  Due to the fact that I’ve had a lot of medical adversity, I have had to live at home with my parents, all of my life.  Also, at the present time, I am unable to work.

I finally told my Dad that I was gay and it did not go well.  But I have to be me.  I can’t be what everybody wants.  I really long for companionship with a guy and the chance to love, as well as, be loved.

Question #4

I have been wondering for quite a while now if love really exists within the Gay community. I have read so many books concerning the scene from back in the 50’s through to the 80’s. Has much changed since then? All that seems to go through so many people’s mind is getting another notch in their belts. I’m 20 years old and people tell me that there is still plenty of time, but in our years it seems that the younger the better and after 35 you are dead to the scene. I am wondering are there guys out there who want long term relationships or am I to go through my life getting small bouts of affection and moving on?

Young and wondering.

Question #5

I met a guy a few months ago that just recently “came out” exclusively to me. He says that he’s attracted to guys– and me– but that he doesn’t want to allow himself to let anything happen between us. My guess is that he’s still in that denial stage that we virtually all experienced at some point. My question: Is it stupid for me to stick around hoping something will come of this, or is he just too emotionally unavailable?

–Jaded in Jersey

Question #6

I work full time at ASDA! (I’ve taken a yr outta uni be4 any1 thinks loser!), Ther is a fellow co-worker who is hung like a donkey I know this casue I keep getting sneaky previews! I eventually got to screw him one night on a staff night out but now his youngest brother wants a piece of me! is it wrong to screw two brothers??? better yet is it wrong to screw both at the same time!?! I keep having fantasys of one shaggin me rotten while blowing the other!!! I know its wrong or is it????

any advice????

Question #7

I’d like to see the Manhunt Cruise Director address the issue of deadbeat hookups. By that, I mean the people who show up at your house with nothing, yet expect a full range of amenities to be available. I end up hosting a lot, and I’m getting soaked by these people who think things like lube, beverages, and other refreshments grow on trees or something. They have no problem asking “Do you have a cock ring/something to drink/a Viagra/any other sexual accessory?” even though they’ve arrived absolutely empty handed. I was raised to always bring along some contribution whenever I was invited to someone’s home, and certainly that if I required something special personally, I should be willing and able to provide it myself. What happened to these other cheap-ass deadbeats? Were they raised by forest animals or something?

That’s it!  Seven questions for you to answer.  Make sure to read my gay dating advice primer to get some ideas on how to answer.