Gay Sex Advice: How To Give An Amazing Blowjob Part 23
The Peacock Technique Continued
We experience suspense/resolve cycles all the time; we just haven’t necessarily labeled it as such. For example, the high-schooler dying to find out if he got accepted to his preferred university. The letter arrives. SUSPENSE. He rips it open and reads the answer. RESOLUTION.
It’s nearly midnight and the host is tearing up the envelope for the best movie of the year. TENSION. He announces the winner. RELEASE.
It’s match point at Wimbledon. The champion you’re rooting for just missed his first serve. He tosses the ball up in the air to hit the second serve. ANXIETY. It clears the net and lands inside the service box. RELIEF.
Suspense/Resolve
For our purposes, there are two pillars to a suspense/ resolve cycle. First, is a longed-for event. Second, a lack of knowledge about whether the event will occur. Let’s apply this to you going home with a guy for the first time. You’re kissing his body from chest to stomach. You’re headed south. For your partner, there’s a longed-for event (your mouth on his cock).
There’s uncertainty about whether it’s going to happen (he doesn’t know if you like to go down or whether you’ll be any good). SUSPENSE. You kiss the inside of his thigh. TENSION. You kiss his balls. EXCITEMENT. Finally, you finally put your wet mouth on his raging hard-on. AHHHHHHHHH.
Notice what happened here. Tension amplified the gratification. The anticipation of satisfaction allows the man to get greater pleasure in the final gratification. Imagine if in the above scenario you immediately blew him before he could even get his pants off his ankles.
Yes, it would still feel good, but would it feel as good if you had held back in the way a maestro holds a note on the piano—and then resolves it with a satisfying chord? I think not.
As I see it, there are three types of “Oh My God!” a man can say when he’s in bed with another man:
- OMG, I’m in heaven
- OMG I’m in hell
- OMG, where am I?
A suspense/resolution approach to your blowjobs will give him OMG #3. It’ll feel so good he’ll lose track of time, space and place. So how can you use anticipation to create an energy loop that carries your partner further up the sexual vortex?
Introducing The Peacock Technique
Are you ready to light him up like an all-night liquor store? Then get ready to do some “peacocking” (named because you don’t show him the feathered glory until the very last moment). There are four parts to the Peacock Technique: Tease, Lure, Escalate, and Resolve.
Every technique you’ve learned in this book should be put through this prism. Let me explain by starting with a simple goal: Putting your mouth on your partner’s erect penis.
During a typical blowjob you might, after a nice make-out session, wander south and put your wet mouth on your partner’s dick. While no guy would complain about that, in my mind it just makes you, ahem, common poultry. To become a peacock one must activate the Tease-Lure-Escalate-Resolve model.
Here’s how it works. Instead of simply putting your moist mouth on his dick, you do the following:
TEASE
Moisturize his mind before moisturizing his dick. As you’re kissing him in the mouth, wander over to his ears. Kiss them dryly at first, then warmly blow on them as if you’re fogging a window, only gently, silently. The heated moisture will drive him nuts.
While “fogging his ears” say things like, “I can’t wait to kiss your cock, to feel the thickness of it filling my mouth.” Then s-l-o-w-l-y caress a wet tongue around his ear and snuggle it in his eardrum. Go in and out slowly. He’ll picture his dick going in and out of your mouth.
Do you see what you’ve done here? You’ve filled him with anticipation. You’ve waved the hot cookies under his nose. Every nerve cell in his body awaits your next move.
LURE
Wiggle your way down his body. Assuming his clothes are off, give him dry kisses all the way down, from his neck to his nipples to his belly.
Now your mouth is right next to this dick but it’s not touching it. Use your hand to get it harder and harder. You’ve lured him into thinking you are about to give him head but instead you come up and “fog” his ear again. This time you ask if he wants you to put the throbbing dick you’re gently pumping in your hand into your wet mouth.
When he says yes (or rather “YES, YES, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, YES!!!!”), go back down his body alternating with shallow and dry kisses. Touch his balls and play with his dick but lightly, as if you’re only concerned with the contours of his genitalia. Slowly kiss his balls and smell his manscent. Start giving him small, wet kisses from his balls all the way up the shaft and when you get to the head, pretend you’re about to put it in your mouth and STOP.
Hold his dick by the base and the shaft for a glorious few moments of torturous anticipation. Stroke his balls lightly while holding his shaft and pool the saliva in your mouth by visualizing biting into a lemon or doing the “gleek.”
In the meantime, you’ve built up so much anticipation that his entire body is on high alert as it prepares for sky-high joy. He doesn’t know that you’re pausing to fill yourself with saliva. He’s thinking, “Is he going to put it in his mouth? IS HE? IS HE?!!!
ESCALATE
At this point your mouth should be filled, brimming with warm, wet saliva and NOW you’re ready to put the head of his dick in your mouth. Do it suddenly and without warning. Be sure to have the title of his mortgage, car, and stock portfolio at the ready because when he feels that warm moist mouth he is going to sign everything over to you!
Hold his dick in your mouth without moving for a few moments (however, let your tongue do some French kissing) and then when he’s acclimated (his moans and groans subside), start hands-free bobbing up and down.
RESOLVE
When he gets acclimated to the hands-free bobbing (again, the moans and groans weaken), make an O-ring with your index finger and your thumb, tighten the grip and start moving up and down in short distances—about an inch below the corona of the head to just past it. The combination of the saliva acting as lube, and your fingers increasing the pressure at the most sensitive site of his dick will send him to a higher level of pleasure.
Why is this part called “Resolve?” Wouldn’t climaxing be a resolution? Yes, but there are different levels of resolution. If your goal is to give him head, then bobbing up and down on his dick is one resolution. If your goal is to make him cum that would be a different resolution. A resolution, for our purposes, is YOUR endpoint, your goal, not his.
For example, if your endpoint is kissing him deeply, then the “resolve” is a French kiss. The Tease, Lure, and Escalate would be whatever creative ways you come up with to enhance the anticipation before your tongue does its good and dastardly work.
Next week in our blog series installment, we’ll take a look at another example of The Peacock Technique: The Sloppy Diamond.