Worried Your Penis Isn’t Big Enough?
Compare Yourself Against The Latest Studies In Penis Size
Is your penis big enough to get the job done?
This question perfectly captures a common anxiety among guys who want to top. It would be understandable if the men asking this question sported a micro-penis (about 1% of the population), but the vast majority of people laboring under this worry are average-sized.
Of course, the average-sized don’t think they’re average-sized. They think they’re hung like beetles. I have doctors who tell me that some of their most well-endowed patients complain about the size of their dicks!
Why do so many of us suffer from what I call “Dick Dysmorphia” –the belief that our perfectly normal-sized penises are much smaller than they really are? Dick Dysmorphia can make a guy feel like his six-inch dick is closer to six centimeters. It can make you so embarrassed, ashamed or anxious that you’ll avoid sexual activities like topping.
Why does penis size matter so much to so many gay men? Why is Dick Dysmorphia so prevalent? And even when we perceive the size of our dicks accurately, why do we feel so bad about being average-sized? Let’s take an aerial view and then drill down.
Bigger Is Better. Or So We Say.
Men–straight, gay or bi– generally have a “bigger is better” mentality. We gravitate toward bigger cars, bigger houses, bigger guns, bigger wallets, bigger everything.
I call it Male Math. Size + Size = Status on Stilts. The emphasis on big dicks and the scorn heaped on anyone who doesn’t measure up can be seen in a joke that’s been around a long while:
Guy #1 in the locker room: “Would you wear shoes if you had no feet?”
Guy #2: “No.”
Guy #1: “Then why are you wearing underwear?”
The Exaggerations Never End
In porn, every penis is a kidney-wiping, liver-crushing fence post. Even when adult performers are average-sized, the camera angle can make them look so well-endowed a sign pops up when they lower their underwear: “Buffering.”
We use the camera’s sleight-of-sausage in our personal lives, too. Studies show that 80% of gay men send dic pics in dating apps. Who among us doesn’t trash the pics that make us look average-sized and send the ones that look like we’ve got the trunk of a palm tree hanging off us?
In porn, everyone has a big dick. In dating apps, everyone has a big dick. In real life? Almost no one has a big dick. Condom companies report that only 6% of men need extra-large condoms.
In short, we have a completely unrealistic view of what a normal-sized erect penis looks like. Then we compound the problem by the way we compare ourselves to other men in real life. Next week watch out for our post on how we lose an optical inch by the angle we take when we look down at our dicks.