How To Give The Best Blow Job Part 17
STOP! CHECK-IN WITH YOURSELF.
We’ve talked a lot about using techniques to further his pleasure but what about yours? Remember, this blowjob is for you as much as it is for him. Throughout a blowjob session, you should be asking yourself questions like, “How can I make this feel better for myself? How can I enhance the physical sensations I’m experiencing? What can I do that will turn me on more?” Actually, the most important question you can ask yourself is, “What can HE do that will give me more pleasure?”
These are not rhetorical questions—you need to answer them. Sometimes it’s as simple as taking his penis out of your mouth so you can look at it up close and admire it. As a co-pleasuring activity, you have the right to ask him to do what pleasures you. Would it be hotter for you if he gently moved his manhood in and out of your mouth? Then ask him to. Would it make you wetter if he talked dirty to you? Ask him to.
Don’t know what arouses you? Make it up. Give yourself a pretend answer. You’ll be amazed at how accurate you’ll be. Pretending gives honesty permission to come out and play. If that doesn’t help, try “what iffing” it. For example, you could say, “I don’t know what would make this better, but what if I asked him to take more control of me?” Or “I don’t know what would turn me on more, but what if he moved his pelvis more rhythmically?” Or think about a guy you consider sexy and ask yourself, “What would he ask for?”
Our goal isn’t to get you to endure a blowjob session. It isn’t to white-knuckle your way until his climax. It’s to enjoy the experience as much or more than he does! Remember, he may be the honored guest but you’re the one throwing the party.
More Techniques
Move Your Head Back And Forth
You’ll be adding a horizontal motion to go with your vertical up-and-downs. Delicious!
Take It Out Of Your Mouth Completely
It’s important to regularly take your partner’s dick out of your mouth and lick it a few times before putting it back in. Why? Because the temperature and moisture difference between being in and out of your mouth creates a series of hot/cold sensations that amplify his pleasure. More importantly, you’ll rack up more pleasure points for yourself. Taking it in and out of your mouth will allow you to more fully experience his strength, length and “roundth.”
Keep It Moving
Don’t stay in one spot doing just one thing. If it’s monotonous for both of you the pleasure starts decaying. When a guy goes down on you properly, he’s kissing and licking you all over, not just concentrating on one spot. Suck the head, lick the shaft, kiss his balls, keep changing the pattern. Except when he’s just about to orgasm. There is such a thing as momentum during sex and you never want to ruin the ‘mo!
“The act of giving head is awesome. I even love watching myself give head. Makes me feel sexy as hell. And plus, the vast majority of guys love receiving blowjobs, so knowing that I’m doing something I’m baller at that my partner loves is just fantastic.”—J.
Nail It In
Here’s a great sensation for your partner: Run your fingernails lightly along his shaft, balls and perineum. Did I say “lightly?” Because I meant LIGHTLY! Done right, it’s a deliciously subtle way to make him squirm.
Befriend The Balls
So many people let the balls dangle all alone during oral sex, neglected and unstimulated. Sad! Licking and fondling your man’s balls throughout a blowjob increases his arousal and pleasure, especially if you tickle the seam that runs along the middle of the scrotum. It’s a sensitive hotspot known as the perineal raphe.
The balls are also a great odometer for how many miles you have left before your man ejaculates, as the scrotum will rise and contract the closer a guy is to climax. On the flip side, if you’d like to prolong the blowjob and prevent your man from coming, ease off on what you’re doing and tug on the bottom of the scrotum to lower it away from his body. You’ll find more on pleasuring “the boys” in the next chapter.
Talk Dirty
Sex is terrific with taste, touch, sight, and smell, but talk brings it all together. A four-cylinder engine will take you where you want to go but adding a fifth will get you there quicker and the ride will be more memorable.
Passionate sex is about creating and releasing energy. Talking is energy—in the form of noise vibrating in distinct patterns and pitches. You don’t just hear sound, you feel it. There’s scientific backing for this. Speaking or hearing sexually charged words is known to spike dopamine transmissions in brain chemistry, triggering sexual excitement.
Erotic talking is a release of pent-up energy. It gives voice to our innermost desires in ways that our bodies can’t. It creates energy not just by the physical vibration or your emotional intent, but by prompting your partner to respond. Energy feeds on energy. Every word you say builds a step your partner climbs up on. And everything he says builds a step for you to rise. Keep climbing. Heat rises. Sometimes words get in the way but other times they pave the way.
Tell him how much you love him, how much you want him, but mostly how much you want his (hopefully) big, thick cock going in and out of your mouth. Dirty talk can make some guys a little uncomfortable (you NASTY boy!) but it’s a huge turn-on for guys. If you love football imagine watching it without the sound. You’d cry. The game isn’t the same without hearing the play-by-play.