WHY WE LOVE DICK
If there’s one thing the alphabet mafia (LGBTQ) can agree on is our love for the stick. Even lesbians. Comic Leah Delaria once said, “Lesbians love dick. They just don’t like them hanging from men!”
We were entranced by a section in How To Bottom Like A Porn Star that waxed rhapsodic about our love for dick, and we present the excerpt here:
A Hard Dick Is A Powerful Symbol of Something You Love: Masculinity
Generally speaking, gay men are attracted to maleness, strength, and virility and nothing personifies these traits more than the erect cock. It’s strong, it’s hard and it commands you to surrender. It is not just the staff of life but the stuff of dreams. Wet dreams. It epitomizes almost every aspect of masculinity: It’s big, thick, hard, strong, muscled, driven, and, it must be said, without conscience.
If you like a man for being a man, then it’s only natural to crave the symbol of his manhood. When you hold your partner’s erect penis you should (hopefully) be in awe of its strength and want to feel its masculine power in every part of your body.
A Hard Dick Is Proof You’re Desirable
Knowing you can turn your partner on (look at that erection!) is the ultimate sexual compliment; a statement of your desirability. His erection is not only about you, it’s for you. It’s a sexualized electrical current with a feedback loop—he gets excited so you get excited. He sees your excitement and gets more excited. And soon you’re both sucked into a vortex of desire.
A Hard Dick Is Proof You’re Powerful
You have power over anybody you give an erection to. After all, that hard-on is a response to your presence. YOU are eliciting this response. I don’t know of a more convincing display of power than to completely own a man’s attention, to change his physical, emotional, and psychological state. You got him hard? You have him right where you want him. Well done!
A Hard Dick Gives You The Chance To Submit
It is thrilling to yield to the power of a hard cock, to lose yourself in the adoration of the force, might, and power of his hardness. It is exhilarating to feel “owned” by his masculinity. Of showing reverence to Strength.
Submission means that by bending your will to the authority vested in his cock you can experience a form of therapeutic escape, of safety, protection. By glorifying strength you can disappear into the unavoidable nothingness that comes from relinquishing all power. In this scenario, your butt is a spiritual offering, a way to exalt his command of you.
Anal sex is a chance to willingly succumb to his cock— to give yourself over to it, mentally, physically, and spiritually. His cock is your Sun and you orbit around it.
Damn. Anybody else feel like a biscuit that just got buttered? Whew!
A Hard Dick Gives You The Chance To Dominate
Paradoxically, bottoming—the ultimate in surrendering your body to another’s pleasure—is a vehicle to exert dominance. First, you control him with your ability to give him a hard-on. Then, you decide how he’s going to feel by what you do with your butt. Then, you control how he is going to react when you let him do the things he wants to. YOU will be responsible for him having the most sensational, meaningful experience possible.
A Hard Dick Gives You The Chance To Simultaneously Submit & Dominate
Anal sex can give you radically different experiences of power at the same moment. Receiving a thick, hard dick can make you feel both powerful and powerless. On the one hand, you gave Mario a hard-on (a sign of power) but on the other hand that hard-on is going to penetrate you (submission). The Ying and Yang create a delicious Badda Bing Badda Bang.
A Hard Dick Gives You The Pleasure Of Giving Pleasure
The pleasure of giving sits side by side with the pleasure of taking. Like Frieda Kahlo’s eyebrows, they cannot be separated.
A Hard Dick Brings You Emotionally Closer
While there are indeed physical pleasures to extract from anal sex (intense orgasms, for one), the deepest treasures are in the psychological highs they unlock. Here, the forbidden nature of anal sex can be re-appropriated for erotic effect, as nothing fuels hedonism like a little naughtiness.
Both you and your man are at your most vulnerable at the onset of anal sex. For example, you may feel emotionally at risk as you prepare to have his penis inserted into your body.
Mario might feel emotionally at risk as he prepares to “know” you in a kind of intimacy he may not be prepared for. This shared vulnerability increases the potential for connection by easing each other into comfort, rather than withdrawing into separate insecurities.