How To Give Great Blowjobs Part 1
Welcome to our new series on giving head!
Here’s how we’d approach a guy who complains about giving blowjobs: How many times in your life have you tried something that you initially didn’t like and ended up loving? No one likes their first martini, for example. But then the buzz works its magic and next thing you know you’re drinking so many that olives come out every time you pee.
Which reminds me, why is alcoholism the only disease you get yelled at for having?
At any rate, if you find yourself a little resistant to blowjobs, think about all the times you didn’t like something in the beginning and came to love at the end. The television show that was uninteresting the first couple of episodes, for example, that turned into must-see TV. Or the Pulitzer prize-winning book that bored you in the first couple of chapters and then turned into all-night page-turner.
Have you ever noticed that some things feel a lot better with more practice? Dancing, learning a language or cooking, for example. There’s not that much enjoyment to be had in the beginning. At first, you’re stressed and self-conscious and uncertain of the best way to proceed.
But with practice and experience, you get a lot more enjoyment out of them. Blowjobs are like that. Once you understand what works for you and what doesn’t, once you understand strategies to help you enjoy it more and get better at it, chances are you’ll completely change your mind. Whether you’re in the kitchen, the ballroom, a classroom, or your bedroom, practice doesn’t just make perfect, it makes pleasure.
From Hate To Love
Millions of guys have changed their minds about blowjobs but only after they got clear about what they needed to make it enjoyable. I am particularly taken by this guy’s experience:
“When it comes to blowjobs, I’ve traveled the full spectrum from hate to love and it really depends on the partner. I’ve never loved sucking a man’s cock as much as I love my current fwb [friend with benefits]. Things that really help:
- I find his penis excruciatingly gorgeous.
- Great hygiene—hair is well-kept, always smells clean, doesn’t put any cologne down there (tastes horrible).
- He experiments with dominant/porny moves but always always immediately stops if I say or imply a no. He’s really amazing about that. He’ll go from brutally fucking my throat to gentle and caring if I push him away or shake my head. I really don’t mind hair-grabbing, head-pushing, etc., but the #1 thing is that I have to know in my heart that if I ever feel like it’s too much he WILL stop. I’ve had guys in the past who made me uneasy, like maybe they weren’t just role-playing, you know?
- Appreciative noises. So important. My last ex was so quiet and it made it hard to feel encouraged and I had no idea how close he was. My current guy moans and says little things to cue me into how he’s doing.
- Nice-shaped balls to suck on. Balls are fun.”
Next week: Things that’ll make you change your mind.