Giving The Best Handjob
A man’s love life in the early years is like a gas station—strictly self-service, so his body is trained to respond to a certain type of speed, pressure, and rhythm. It’s always better to ask or watch your partner “punch the monkey” so you can get a better sense of what he likes. Still, these tips will fill in the blanks:
Grip
Both your hand and your man’s penis have unique shapes to them so you’ll want to explore different types of grips to see which ones are the most compatible and effective, both in terms of positioning and in the tightness of your grip. Your grip should be firm but with enough “slack” for your hand to glide up and down his pole.
And while you’ll want the full area of your hand for most of the stroking, it’s good to mix it up with by turning your thumb and index finger into an O-ring and stroking the upper third of his shame digit. One caveat: Never grab the penis like you’re the calloused foreman of a construction company greeting the new recruits. Start by gently touching the contours of his dick and balls with the tops of your fingers and gradually tighten the grip.
Rhythm
Don’t start pumping him like a heaving piston. Remember what I said earlier in the book: Gradually slow to gradually fast. Gently rub his cock with your hands, making it as hard as possible before you actually start pumping. Tip: Pumping a flaccid or not quite hard penis hurts! ALWAYS start out gently and build a rhythm.
While it’s safe to mimic the rhythm of oral sex or intercourse, a handjob usually requires a bit more variety in the pacing of strokes. Sometimes it should be slow and long, other times fast and staccato. Your guy has a bit of “muscle memory” when it comes to jacking off, and so most penises have a specific pace of stroking needed to keep the party going and trigger a climax. You’ll need to test drive his dick with your hand several times before you figure out the speed limit.
Dirty Talk
Given that the pleasure of a handjob is entirely familiar to your man, it’s not as naturally stimulating as more infrequent types of sex. His mind will reflexively shift into fantasy mode to help him reach orgasm because that’s what its been doing since he first discovered jacking off.
Fuel his fantasies and arouse him with a little kinky conversation while you stroke him, especially about how the rest of your body is so jealous of your hand at that moment. Dirty talk will also keep the attention on you, as his instinct will be to re-visualize the PornHub scene he watched on his cell phone while jacking off in the employee restroom.
But really, I say that with love.
Don’t Forget The Balls!
People always forget the balls! Don’t be one of them. Your man’s penis may seem like a handful, but it’s not the only part of his anatomy that should be massaged during a handjob. Be sure to play with his balls while you’re stroking him, juggling them in your fingers, tickling the seam down the middle, stretching (gently!) the scrotum away from the penis, and raising them to the base of the shaft as if your fingers were a cock ring. You can also turn your digits into a tiny dildo, massaging his taint area to stimulate his prostate, which will increase his arousal and later, his ejaculation.
STOP! How Are YOU Doing?
Did you remember to check-in and ask yourself what you need to make this hotter? The question is simple and it comes in many varieties: “How can I get more physical, emotional, and sexual pleasure out of what I’m doing?” If it’s to slow down so you can take a better look at his hard cock, then slow down. Would it turn you on to do it in front of a mirror? Then find one. Remember, you are there to please him through your pleasure.
Now that we’ve covered the basics of handling your man, let’s beef up your resume by expanding your (hand) job skills. Stay tuned next week for 10 of the most tested-and-approved methods for milking your man.